u/littlethingsmeanalot

Hey y’all. So, the title basically says it all. My (20F) parents have decided that, unless I gain 30 pounds, they will not be helping me with my tuition, which I can’t afford on my own. They have been terribly abusive all my life, causing me to be very limited financially. I do not have the resources to get a car or afford any other kind of transportation (i.e., Lyft or uber), so I can only go where they allow me to go when they allow me to go, meaning I can’t work as much as I need to. I currently get about 20-25 hours a week. I’m also struggling to get the hours from my employer. My current salary is only enough to pay about 70% of my tuition per semester, and that’s if I put literally the full amount towards it, which I cannot realistically do. I also cannot get financial aid because I am trapped in their house due to my financial situation. Even if I got full time hours, I would only have about 300 left over per month after paying tuition, which is not quite enough to cover my expenses either.

Now, as far as the weight issue is concerned, I have struggled with anorexia since I was around 12. Currently, I am 5’3 and about 110 pounds (no longer underweight). I was around 136 pounds when I graduated high school 2 years ago, during which time they still did not acknowledge me as having been fully recovered. My mother always demanded I gain more weight. For context there, she’s always struggled with obesity after struggling with dieting throughout her adolescence. I wouldn’t say she struggled the same way I have, as she was never close to being underweight, even then. Basically, what they’re telling me I have to do is pay this semester’s (spring 2026) tuition myself (7500) and in the meantime gain all the weight back and not even be guaranteed they will reimburse me or help with future semesters as they are suggesting.

I want this degree so badly. I am halfway through right now. It would be absolutely devastating to not be able to get it, as my dream in life hinges on it. At the same time, I don’t know that I can cope with being forced to be overweight for more years.

I’m really desperate. I don’t know what to do. I have an appointment with my financial aid counselor on Tuesday, so I will keep you all posted. I’m luckily not suicidal right now, though I was all throughout high school. Sorry for the long post, I just don’t have anyone to talk to irl and I’m in so much pain right now. Any advice is very much appreciated, but I realize this is an insane stituation

Hey y’all. So, the title basically says it all. My (20F) parents have decided that, unless I gain 30 pounds, they will not be helping me with my tuition, which I can’t afford on my own. They have been terribly abusive all my life, causing me to be very limited financially. I do not have the resources to get a car or afford any other kind of transportation (i.e., Lyft or uber), so I can only go where they allow me to go when they allow me to go, meaning I can’t work as much as I need to. I currently get about 20-25 hours a week. I’m also struggling to get the hours from my employer. My current salary is only enough to pay about 70% of my tuition per semester, and that’s if I put literally the full amount towards it, which I cannot realistically do. I also cannot get financial aid because I am trapped in their house due to my financial situation. Even if I got full time hours, I would only have about 300 left over per month after paying tuition, which is not quite enough to cover my expenses either.

Now, as far as the weight issue is concerned, I have struggled with anorexia since I was around 12. Currently, I am 5’3 and about 110 pounds (no longer underweight). I was around 136 pounds when I graduated high school 2 years ago, during which time they still did not acknowledge me as having been fully recovered. My mother always demanded I gain more weight. For context there, she’s always struggled with obesity after struggling with dieting throughout her adolescence. I wouldn’t say she struggled the same way I have, as she was never close to being underweight, even then. Basically, what they’re telling me I have to do is pay this semester’s (spring 2026) tuition myself (7500) and in the meantime gain all the weight back and not even be guaranteed they will reimburse me or help with future semesters as they are suggesting.

I want this degree so badly. I am halfway through right now. It would be absolutely devastating to not be able to get it, as my dream in life hinges on it. At the same time, I don’t know that I can cope with being forced to be overweight for more years.

I’m really desperate. I don’t know what to do. I have an appointment with my financial aid counselor on Tuesday, so I will keep you all posted. I’m luckily not suicidal right now, though I was all throughout high school. Sorry for the long post, I just don’t have anyone to talk to irl and I’m in so much pain right now.

Hi, everyone.
I (20F) recently discovered that my abusive mother has been calling my doctor and pretending to be me. I think she is doing this to get access to my records since I did not sign an ROI, so I am the only person who should have access to the info legally. I received visit summaries from Telehealth calls/meetings when I did not participate in any. I’m very upset. I also came home tonight to discover that she had stolen $100 from my wallet “as a deposit”. For what, i dont know. I called the police, so she gave it back. I am so sick of this.

Now, I have an apartment with 3 roommates that I haven’t yet moved into. The main reasons I haven’t moved in are:

1. I’m swamped with finals.
2. I don’t have a car, so I’d have to Lyft to work every day.
3. I have to bring my small dog, who barks a lot/sometimes has accidents in the house.
4. I am frankly exhausted & so trauma bonded that I feel frozen.
   It’s like my brain is refusing to acknowledge my situation. I am like age regressing a bit. I can barely bring myself to do anything. I’m a 4.0 student and I’m ending this semester with two bs, a c, and an a. I have to take out a large loan to cover this semester since my parents recently told me that they changed their mind & I have to figure something else out at the last minute (an obvious attempt to drain all of my savings that I’ve worked so hard for). Help. I don’t want to be stagnant anymore.

Any advice here would be much appreciated.

Location: Kentucky

Hi, everyone.
I (20F) really need some advice. I recently discovered that my abusive mother has been calling my doctor and pretending to be me. I think she is doing this to get access to my records since I did not sign an ROI, so I am the only person who should have access to the info legally. I received visit summaries from Telehealth calls/meetings when I did not participate in any. I’m very upset What are my options here? I would obviously like to stop her from doing this and if possible secure some kind of protective order against her. I also have evidence of a number of other instances when she violated my rights & even committed crimes against me, including theft, stalking, and threatening to commit suicide “right now” while driving with me in the car. Any advice here would be much appreciated. And I do not want to hear “just avoid her”, that’s not helpful. Also, has she committed a crime in impersonating me to access my medical records and meet with my doctor?