u/lizzyluv222

Just a vent, idk that any advice would be useful but maybe other people feel the same way? :/

I’ve been a single mom since my daughter was 3 months and she’s 3.5 years old now. Her dad is less-than-stable and he’s taken less and less of his parenting time as the years have gone by. At most I get maybe 2 nights per month childfree. Those nights are hard tbh and i usually spend them being sad she’s gone and waiting for her to come back. besides that, she spends about 2-3 hours one day per week at his house.

I have zero village, got pregnant pretty young (early 20s), can’t date because it’s just too much and i have no time, etc. I’m a teacher so i feel like it’s extra lonely over summer since I go 6+ weeks without even seeing other adults at work.
My sister lives out of state now, my mom sucks, my friends are all in a different chapter of life than me right now. My one friend with a kid has a partner, so I feel like i’m just living a very different life than everyone around me rn.

So yeah, just a vent. Does anyone else ever feel SO lonely?

how many views do you usually get before an item sells?

when i started selling a few years ago, if an item exceeded 1k views it would for sure sell within a couple days. even last year ish that was the case. now i can have multiple items with 5k+ views just hanging out ._.

My 3yo daughter is starting back at daycare but it’s complicated and she’s struggling. :(

Long-backstory-short (hopefully), I’m a single mom, her dad is inconsistent and has ridiculous behavior that has fueled her already bad anxiety. Her last babysitter mistreated her badly which ended in a DHS/DCS report, so she has really just been through it.
She has been out of daycare for almost 6 months. At first, her dad’s mom was watching her, then his sister, then him. I started seeing bad emotional/behavioral changes in her, so since I started summer break (I’m a teacher) she has been home full time with me.

I have to go back to work soon, so she started daycare on Thursday. Thursday went well, but Friday was pretty bad.

They had a fun event in the morning and she absolutely lost her mind. I think she was just overwhelmed. But she was running around the daycare and eloping, screaming/crying, trying to kick kids and adults, etc. She had to be grabbed to stop her from kicking, and she has scratch marks under her arm. She was out of control and not being safe to herself or others, so I don’t think the teacher was wrong for grabbing her but I know leaving marks upset my daughter even more.

She is selectively mute. She will yap all day to familiar adults and all kids but will only sign to unfamiliar adults. This makes it even harder for her teachers to know how to help her. She is not diagnosed with anything and I’m not looking for opinions on that, respectfully. She has been through SO much in her short life so far and it impacts her in strange ways.

What are some ways I can help her adjust?
I was thinking of:
- sending her with a picture of me
- letting her call to check in an hour or so after she arrives at daycare (this is how she finally calmed down on Fri)
- maybe giving her something of mine to keep throughout the day

Her teachers are awesome so they are willing to help! Thanks for any advice :)