u/lizzyluv222

Okay let me start this with: MLM and “buy my course on how to be financially free!”, not welcome… pretty much everything else, welcome. 🤣

I make okay-ish money (just under 70k / year) but I live in an expensive city. My child’s father doesn’t really take his set parenting time, he really just takes her to “hang out” a few times a week for a couple hours. He pays the daycare bill and helps out here and there with other financial things, so i don’t really feel like pursuing that avenue for more help.

But even with him covering a big child expense and my salary, i’m barely scraping by. Have any of you found a second income source that isn’t terrible???

I have my daughter all the time so a second job isn’t super feasible. My car is also on its last legs so things like doordash, instacart, etc. aren’t a good option either. 🥲 suggestions?

Kinda just what the title says. Between working and raising my child 95% of the time, i feel like i have no time to make connections with anyone or do anything for myself outside of working and surviving. what do you guys do to break this cycle? :/

Okay I want to preface with I LOVE HER TO DEATH, obviously. But I am genuinely wondering how other single moms who have little/no village and EXTREMELY clingy children get anything done.

My daughter is 3.5 and she would climb back in my body if she could. If I’m doing anything around the house, cooking, cleaning, showering, etc. she is whining the entire time “I want mama”. I have tried having her help me but nope- “I want mama”.

We can be laying together, bodies fully touching and she’s like “I want mama”.

By no means am I trying to always have a spotless home and gourmet meals, but sometimes a girl needs to put away laundry and stir some stuff on the stove.

Is there a solution or do we just ignore it and power through our tasks while silently going insane ???

Just a vent, idk that any advice would be useful but maybe other people feel the same way? :/

I’ve been a single mom since my daughter was 3 months and she’s 3.5 years old now. Her dad is less-than-stable and he’s taken less and less of his parenting time as the years have gone by. At most I get maybe 2 nights per month childfree. Those nights are hard tbh and i usually spend them being sad she’s gone and waiting for her to come back. besides that, she spends about 2-3 hours one day per week at his house.

I have zero village, got pregnant pretty young (early 20s), can’t date because it’s just too much and i have no time, etc. I’m a teacher so i feel like it’s extra lonely over summer since I go 6+ weeks without even seeing other adults at work.
My sister lives out of state now, my mom sucks, my friends are all in a different chapter of life than me right now. My one friend with a kid has a partner, so I feel like i’m just living a very different life than everyone around me rn.

So yeah, just a vent. Does anyone else ever feel SO lonely?

how many views do you usually get before an item sells?

when i started selling a few years ago, if an item exceeded 1k views it would for sure sell within a couple days. even last year ish that was the case. now i can have multiple items with 5k+ views just hanging out ._.

My 3yo daughter is starting back at daycare but it’s complicated and she’s struggling. :(

Long-backstory-short (hopefully), I’m a single mom, her dad is inconsistent and has ridiculous behavior that has fueled her already bad anxiety. Her last babysitter mistreated her badly which ended in a DHS/DCS report, so she has really just been through it.
She has been out of daycare for almost 6 months. At first, her dad’s mom was watching her, then his sister, then him. I started seeing bad emotional/behavioral changes in her, so since I started summer break (I’m a teacher) she has been home full time with me.

I have to go back to work soon, so she started daycare on Thursday. Thursday went well, but Friday was pretty bad.

They had a fun event in the morning and she absolutely lost her mind. I think she was just overwhelmed. But she was running around the daycare and eloping, screaming/crying, trying to kick kids and adults, etc. She had to be grabbed to stop her from kicking, and she has scratch marks under her arm. She was out of control and not being safe to herself or others, so I don’t think the teacher was wrong for grabbing her but I know leaving marks upset my daughter even more.

She is selectively mute. She will yap all day to familiar adults and all kids but will only sign to unfamiliar adults. This makes it even harder for her teachers to know how to help her. She is not diagnosed with anything and I’m not looking for opinions on that, respectfully. She has been through SO much in her short life so far and it impacts her in strange ways.

What are some ways I can help her adjust?
I was thinking of:
- sending her with a picture of me
- letting her call to check in an hour or so after she arrives at daycare (this is how she finally calmed down on Fri)
- maybe giving her something of mine to keep throughout the day

Her teachers are awesome so they are willing to help! Thanks for any advice :)