u/loorid

Currently on an acute medical ward. Got woken up at 5am by an elderly patient screaming for help. No staff on the bay at all, and a towel over the door to i assume keep it cracked open. No idea how long patient had been calling for, but half an hour later I got out of bed and walked to the ward reception to ask for help. Call light was on. No staff anywhere. The actual bay nurse didn't return until around 45 mins after the screaming started.

I understand staffing issues and emergencies etc, but this was 5am on a night shift. Now the bay staff are back and giggling amongst themselves. I am so mad.

Obviously not going to disclose what was happening with the patient, but they were in such a state and obviously very distressed. It wasn't a life-threatening situation, but has definitely made their situation worse.

Is this acceptable to have no bay staff on at all? Are staff even allowed to leave an entire bay of patients unattended?

Can't take a picture because public toilet, but what the heck is up with the hand dryer placement in the ladies loos at the main entrance?! Why would you replace the dyson dryers with normal ones but.... not move them upwards? Love having to pop a squat just to dry my hands. It is comically bad. Did they also do this to the mens?

Please.... i am starving..... i just want to watch women be gay but like... WOMEN. It makes me sad that most of the older women rep is either minor or like for comedic value. I just want to watch genuine love between ladies where they aren't like basically children. (Basically, i love milfs and i want them to kiss. Is that so much to ask for?!)

Trying to organise a social meetup for my writing group on a sunday. People generally asked for an afternoon meetup in a sober space but I am struggling a little bit for ideas.

Usually i would suggest Sobar but they close at 3 on sundays. Another idea possibly was PUBLIC because they have those big tables, but if anyone has any ideas i would love to hear them! Ideally somewhere that can accommodate a group of 10 (approx) that closes at 4 or later. TIA!

Has this ever happened to anyone else? I was out all afternoon and got home thinking someone had stolen all my garden furniture. No, they had just moved everything all the way to the left of the garden. I have a 6ft gate with spikes that is padlocked and my garden is surrounded by high walls. No idea how or why they got in. No idea how they knew i wasn't home. I live in a ground floor flat. Gate is still locked.

Weirdest thing was my upstairs neighbour saw them, apparently it was a woman who just stared at neighbour through the window and then carried on. They didn't take anything, and as far as I'm aware didn't use the spare key to get in the house (but they very well could have done and just not taken anything from the house either... i do have a dog that could have scared them off though).

I am so beyond freaked out. Why the hell would anyone even think to do this, let alone go to the effort of either scaling a wall or a spiky metal gate just to move my stuff?

We've been best friends for over 10 years. He's like a brother to me. We've been long distance for quite a few years now, and had long periods of not messaging each other, but always come back to each other in the end. We have always said we were the most important people in each other's lives.

However, I have been going through a really tough time at the moment, probably the worst of my life to be honest. He knows this, and as this awful period was beginning, a family member texted him to tell him to check in with me because I would need the extra support. He did, at first... once. That was at the end of March. Since then, nothing. Obviously I have been so busy with what I have going on (family member hospitalised with really bad health issues) that I haven't felt able to reach out to him, mostly because I just don't have the mental energy to start a conversation. I spend 90% of my time at the hospital and the other 10% sleeping, so as you can imagine I'm not always rushing to the phone to speak. I don't expect him to constantly initiate contact, I've never been that kind of person and we aren't the type to speak every day, but the complete 0 effort at all is really getting me down. He knows exactly what is happening and exactly how vulnerable I'm feeling right now.

Meanwhile he is completely ignoring me and I have to find out what he is up to via social media (turns out he has been on multiple vacations and trips away so he is still alive and having a great time). I didn't even know he was moving soon, my mom told me about it because she heard it from his mom - I had no idea.

The worst thing is, every time either of us have been in a crisis over the last 10 years we have dropped everything to be with each other, including travelling to the other side of the country to console each other or help with whatever we need. I really thought he would do even the bare minimum for me this time, considering he is busy/has a full time job/is moving apparently/etc but I can't keep holding out hope for something that isn't coming.

It's getting to the point now that I'm really pissed off about it, but also so upset and anxious to the point that I cannot bear to make the first move. I know at this point it's the only thing that's going to 'solve' this if I want any kind of resolution, but we both hate conflict. I'm also extremely fragile due to everything else going on, so I feel like confronting him is just going to push me over the edge. He is so avoidant to the point that he won't even block people no matter what they've done to him, so I'm so scared that I've actually done something awful that I haven't realised and him pulling away is him trying to quietly end the friendship instead of talking to me about whatever it is (he has done this before to other people).

I've always been scared that the distance will drive us apart or that I'll fade into obscurity because he's outgrown me and I'm not interesting enough for him any more, and I'm really starting to believe it. Unfortunately I have sort of stagnated in my life due to various circumstances while he has flourished. I really don't know what to do any more. Do I try and make peace with it and just let him fade away? Do I make the first move and pretend that he hasn't completely hurt me and try to be normal? Is our friendship just... over?