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MIL is a self absorbed failed actress (literally) with baby rabies and has consistently tried to use my 11 month old to re-live her own experience of parenthood. FIL is spineless and refuses to call MIL on any of her shit. Last week I called out their preoccupation/obsession with time spent with the baby and asked them to stop making passive aggressive comments to/around my child about how long it's been since she's seen them, whether she remembers them etc.

This morning MIL called me and gave me my performance review. She ranted for 10 minutes about how I've treated them and acted towards them in the past 11 months since giving birth. Brought up situations from early postpartum that I can't even recall (like my husband directing her on how to correctly hold the baby's head which she felt was condescending, and like us asking her to change a diaper but not telling her where the nappies are which she felt was intended to set her up to fail).

I'm currently nursing a heat stroked baby back to health and I haven't slept a full night in about 1000 years. The performance review was the straw. I ended the call by asking her to not contact us again. Considering sticking to my guns and finally going no contact, but it feels like a big decision, especially as baby's first birthday is coming up. But I can't imagine repairing a relationship with someone so intractable who clearly resents me and who will ambush me with a list of archived grievances. Feeling completely stuck.

Looking ahead to night weaning my daughter in the next few months. My preference would be to stop cold turkey but I'm open to more gradual methods. It's just me, no dad at night, so no one else to go in to soothe. I do let baby cry for up to five minutes when she's putting herself to sleep for naps and bedtime but I tend to respond immediately when she wakes overnight.

Edit to add baby will 12 months old in a few weeks.

My 11MO is a good sleeper but her schedule is killing me. She sleeps independently in her crib and is exclusively breastfed (no bottles). Currently she goes to sleep at 7 and wakes twice in the night, first around 12:30 and again around 4:30. Both night waking I nurse for ~10 minutes and she falls asleep independently right away. She's up for the day anywhere between 6 and 7:30.

I don't consider her a bad sleeper by any means and I know the night wakings are totally normal. I have no plans to night wean until she's at least a year but will be following her lead on that. She's always been a small (under 10th percentile) baby and she's always needed more frequent feedings than some other babies of her age.

The timing of the night feeds is kind of killing me though. I try to go to bed as early as possible to get a good stretch but that's rarely before 10:00, I find when I go to bed earlier is causes me to have insomnia and I'm awake until around her first waking and only get a few hours of broken sleep.

Anyone have a similar experience and have advice? Obviously no one has a crystal ball but should I just wait it out and see if she drops that first feed on her own? I've also considered pushing her bedtime later so it's a bit closer to my bedtime but that's been difficult (she's pretty consistently exhausted by 7:00) and not sure it'll help in the long run.

I have been exclusively breastfeeding my LO for 11 months now (yay!). My diet is nearly as bad as it was when I was just a few weeks postpartum. I'm fairly active and getting back to the shape I was in pre-baby but I can't seem to get back to consistent healthy eating. Meals are usually not a problem, but the snacking oh my god. Someone tell me this will end when I wean her, I can't be eating like I'm eating forever 😩

My LO will be 11 months old next week. She's exclusively breastfed and doing very well with solids. She sleeps independently in her crib for naps and night sleep. She goes down drowsy but awake for naps and bed and is able to fall asleep independently most of the time. Daily schedule is up at 7AM, 1ish hour nap at 10AM, 1.5 hour nap at 2PM, bed at 7.

Most nights she's up at 12:30AM give or take and nothing seems to settle her except a quick feed. She's then up again at 5AM give or take for a much longer feed and then back down until 7AM. Occasionally (maybe once a week?) she sleeps straight through from 7PM to her 5AM feed. I can't really figure out what's different on those days.

Any suggestions for helping her gently cut out the 12:30AM feed? We have tried sending my husband in to soothe but she becomes very distraught and we aren't interested in letting her cry for more than a few minutes. I have also tried going in and soothing her without feeding--usually I can get her back down but she'll typically wake up 30-45 minutes later and I end up feeding her then.