u/makeawish___

hg has left me couch/bed bound for the past 3 months. ive gained so much weight and now can only fit into large t shirts and extra stretchy cotton pants. where have you bought cute, affordable, and most importantly, comfy maternity clothes?

my style oscillates between androgynous leisurewear and feminine, cottony dresses and skirts.

ill also need to buy new office clothes. currently wfh thanks to pregnancy accommodations but ill have to return to hybrid work in a month (hopefully will feel better by then).

thank you for any help!

(im in california fwiw)

is that your love for your partner increases by like x1000000000000. mine is the handsomest/sexiest man in the world to me and i cry of joy thinking of our girl growing up to be like him. i feel so incredibly blessed to know him. of course i loved him before but now the feeling is deeper in a way i didnt know was possible. he really is the man of my dreams.

idk how long this feeling will last. im sure things will get bumpy again, especially w a newborn, but for now im so in love. feel a rush of oxytocin when i look at him from any angle.

(the one caveat is that while my first trimester sickness was at its peak i felt like his touch and smell were way too much and deeply unpleasant—shoot, even my own smell made me sick. but now that that feeling is diminishing, he is perfect.)

is this relatable to you? are my hormones doing this? is this natures way of keeping the family unit together to help baby survive?

posting on behalf of my husband (i graduated from uci in 2019)!

he woke me up from deep slumber and if it had been for anything else id have been pissed lol

edit: its still so early so if you didnt get anything today dont lose hope!

a lot of international students at california cc’s seem to be getting off. whats the logic behind that? have any california residents (paying in-state tuition) received acceptances this week? thanks!

currently 9 weeks, 3 days pregnant. due to some issues w my insurance, i still havent seen an obgyn. i finally managed to see my pcp this week to get a referral, and it was a huge relief to see anyone because i have been really sick. ive only been able to work part time and from home, been couch bound for the past month due to nausea and vomiting, and last month i ended up at the er at six weeks because i couldnt keep food or fluids down for two days. they gave me fluids and prescribed anti-nausea meds.

i got diagnosed w hyperemesis at both the er and by my pcp. im have a 12 PUQE score. i have severe nausea but have been vomiting for the past month every 3-4 days or so, so not daily. i do control my nausea w zofran and unisom/b6. yesterday, the zofran failed. i vomited 4mg in the morning and 4mg at night. and i thought i was starting to feel like 7% better after like a 5 day streak of no vomiting, but the vomiting returned w a vengeance.

anyway, after doing a screening and discussing hr paperwork so i can go back to working full time but from home, my pcp said she would request an accommodation for 6 months. i think this is a good call since i had originally asked for the accommodation to last through the first trimester. but then she said:

“im going to give you a reality check. most women with your symptoms dont feel better after a couple months. they tend to be nauseous until they give birth. i know thats not what you want to hear, but its better if you prepare for that.”

of course, i didnt disagree w her necessarily (she’s the doctor; she’s probably right), but my heart sunk. she also noted that if i didnt respond to zofran yesterday, it means it probably wont get much better. ive been so miserable and holding out hope that i would feel better in a month or so.

anyway, ive yet to see my obgyn. got an ultrasound at the er and the embryo’s measurements and heartrate were good and healthy.

just really wanna hear from people who have had hg or severe nausea/vomiting - did it actually get better? and for the people who had it all 9 months - how did u cope?

my due date isnt until january and now i feel like the whole year and my pregnancy is ruined now. dont wanna even tell anyone cuz they get way happier than i am and i havent even been able to think about registries and nursery themes and names and maternity photos and gender reveals and all the things that make pregnancy fun for our loved ones. im just trying to survive.

been crying all day (really all month). please help a first time mom out. 😪

i think a lot of people outside these communities are missing A LOT of important context.

im salvadoran, and if they came from an uneducated, rural background (as most salvi immigrants do), age gaps arent always seen as alarming, especially when there’s money involved. its a mindset that comes from older, poorer, rural communities and unfortunately still lingers in some places.

BUT salvadoran immigrants in the united states can also be notoriously strict. sometimes so strict and oppressive that it backfires completely and creates situations like this. i fully believe its possible her parents were extremely strict (just as d4vd’s parents were/are) and that it pushed her into living a completely separate life online and later a very chaotic life outside of that.

once it gets to the point where a kid is running away or fully breaking away, parents often lose control entirely. and sometimes, especially in immigrant families under a lot of stress, they shut down emotionally. i can also see how they may have latched onto the idea of someone like d4vd being a “future” or stability for her, even if that wasn’t realistic, due to how much wealth and power he possessed.

i grew up in the inland empire and people really underestimate how rough it is out here. teen pregnancies, teen addiction, runaways, teens dating grown men - its all very normalized in certain circles. there are just a lot of forces working against kids (and their parents!) at the same time.

because of that, i feel like people are being too quick to assign clean blame right now. i don’t think the parents were perfect at all, but the extent of their responsibility is something we don’t actually have enough info to fully judge yet.

i say this also as someone who was raised in a very strict, religious salvadoran home. as a teenager i rebelled hard - sneaking out, lying constantly, putting myself in situations that couldve gone very badly. always high, always drinking - at a super young age. im lucky im here with minimal scars. but a lot of it came from growing up in a place that felt both unstable outside the home and extremely controlled inside it.

my main takeaway is that salvadoran moms can be strict to the point of abuse. americans don’t really understand what that’s like (but the ones who know KNOW). migrating from el salvador to the us is a massive shock that people are never prepared for. salvi immigrants tend to have a really hard time understanding american teenage life or autonomy (let alone in the f***ing hood!). speaking not only from my experience but those of my cousins as well.

ive also seen reports that celeste’s mom used to sleep near her to make sure she wouldnt run away, and i believe it. but by that point, things are already way past the point of control.

i know ill get downvoted to hell but the discussion about regretful parents and another one from a week or two ago about a girl whose partner was happy she might’ve been pregnant were disillusioning. i’m not a fan of the pod (never have been) but this community used to be more open and balanced around children/parenting compared to greater reddit. i took a hiatus from reddit and came back and it seems like people with old school/classic rs takes get downvoted disproportionately.

i liked this sub because beneath its seemingly jaded exterior there was a whitepill vibe to it. it was contrarian to the point of being hopeful about the future (like maybe the nihilistic worldview sold to us by the fourth wave intersectional leftist PMC institutions isn’t so real after all; maybe having children *is* an intrinsically beautiful part of our divine soul’s journey but we’re all just too broke and atomized to do it).

like it used to be that viewpoints would be split 50/50 or all over the place, but now if you say anything pro-family, expect -12 downvotes, while a comment talking about how this world is too cursed to bring a child into (and anyone who thinks otherwise is selfish and ignorant) gets 80 upvotes.

like fuck — now this subreddit too?

(fully expecting to get roasted; im pregnant and idgaf!)

any cozy video games w that vibe? i love the life is strange series, gone home, and firewatch. looking for something like that w a southern americana vibe.

not a hater. im the biggest dani apologist (pls no dani slander below), but heewww that girl is EVERYWHERE. she was in my hometown recently for a small autism awareness event. i follow most of the cast on instagram and its interesting seeing their sponsorships/collabs/invitations/freebies/ads.

ill admit it makes me a tad uncomfortable seeing close relatives (non-parents) relish in all the new fame as well, but i get that some of the cast needs close supervision and cant be attending and signing off on things alone. but like, i hope they dont forget, “this isnt about you,” you know?

not crazy about these agencies that sign them on as influencers. u can tell when the content is curated by a marketing team. what i love about lots is that the participants are unabashedly themselves. they exude authenticity in a world of neurotypicals trying desperately to be on trend and cool.

rly love seeing dylan get some freebies! you can tell he’s genuinely excited about his opportunities.

what are your thoughts on the cast’s social media presences?

im a ftm, 6w3d, and the nausea, vomiting, and food aversions are unbearable. i can barely stomach a couple small bites of toast at a time. fruit was my safe food and now it’s my trigger. i would rank today a 9/10 in terms of discomfort and misery. i had nausea and food aversions for a week but, though deeply uncomfortable, they felt somewhat manageable because i would be okay if i ate small meals throughout the day and ate protein. i threw up a lot last night with no relief, until i was able to eat half an apple - very slowly - and fall back asleep.

now, my question, from everything ive read: this is only the beginning????? the peak wont hit until a couple weeks from now??? that just sounds insane to me since i feel like im there already.

also yes im scheduling an appt soon w my ob to get some sort of help for this. i tried b6 last night and i threw it up an hour later and woke up feeling the worst ive ever felt. sea bands are not helpful. ginger chews, sour patch kids, sucking on limes - not so helpful anymore.

i cant even walk into my kitchen because ill start gagging and i have to hold my nose when i use the bathroom. ive even been hiding from my poor sweet pup cuz he smells stinky.

my husband is basically my servant now. 😭

PLEASE ONLY POSITIVE STORIES PLEASE DONT TELL ME THIS LASTED FOR 9 MONTHS FOR YOU i know thats 100% real and possible but i need delusion rn

help!