u/mamachocho

I’ve told about my IVF journey only to my closest family and friends and they took it so well by being my backbone. The support and comfort that came from them means a lot to me. Apart from my closest friends I have friends that are just good friends. There is this one friend of mine who I’ve been with through her delivery. I was her only friend who was with her the whole day during her delivery plus I’ve done everything I can to support her during that time ( for some different reasons non of her close friends showed up). I guess that’s why she keeps on sending me her son’s pictures and videos. I was ok initially but I was going through a lot after my transfer-With the uncertainty of my pregnancy which I eventually lost.

Before I started my IVF, I met her and told her that my husband and I will be away for some time because we are up to something and in time I will let her know about it. But with my uncertainty and her constantly sending me her son’s pictures I had a tough time so I blocked her. I felt so guilty so after some days I unblocked her and told her everything. She seemed to have understood and I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders. Soon after she again started with the pictures and videos.
Two of my closest friends also gave birth but they stopped sending pictures and videos of their kids in our group chat. I never asked them to do that but I believe it is their way of being sensible and supporting me.

I am hurt and frustrated. It’s been a week since my D&E and I’m still grieving. I don’t want to be dealing with this. It took a lot of me to be this vulnerable and tell her about my IVF journey but now I feel dismissed and hurt. I don’t know what to do with this friend of mine. What do I do in situations like this?

My first FET ended in MMC at 8 weeks 4 days. When I asked the doc why am I having recurrent miscarriages, she gave multiple reasons but one that stood out was she said it could be my body rejecting the pregnancies. This is my 3rd lost- first two were natural conception.
What does that even mean? Is it possible for our bodies to reject pregnancies? We have done all the test before our transfer and everything was cleared and looking good before our transfer. So what does it mean? Anyone has any idea?

I was pregnant for 8 weeks 4 days with twins through IVF. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I’ll be a mother of twins. I was the happiest. I miscarried two pregnancies before so I thought my two angels were coming back to me. I wish.
This pregnancy really tested me- from slow beta HCG trend, to ectopic scare. I was on my toes the whole time. Now that it’s over I feel so empty and drained.
My mind is full with buzzing thoughts that I can’t even make sense out of it. More than physical I am struggling emotionally. My husband and I have been married for two years now and in our society that’s late. We opted for IVF treatment out of state and I’ve been staying away from home for some months now. The news of our pregnancy travelled fast since our community is small. Now thinking about going home and facing all their faces is adding another weight to my emotions. I wish I can disappear. I’ve already thought about avoiding everyone and staying locked in my house before I leave for my next transfer. Idk if my brain is working right but I just fear the questions, awkward silence, sympathies, opinions on why it went wrong and how we are not doing enough with our fasting and praying. My husband’s family is very orthodox and I am sure they’ll tell us God wants more from us. Although I agree we can do nothing without God I don’t agree with God’s blessings being a barter system. I don’t think it gets better from here. My first two miscarriages happened silently with just my husband so we grieved together alone, but this one is going to be challenging. I really wish I can disappear.

How did you guys cope with loses?
My doctor told me to wait 3months for our next transfer. TBH, I don’t want to wait for this long.
What comes next after D&C?
How long after D&C did you guys start trying? Any complications after this procedure?

Note: Reposting this from a miscarriage sub because being Indian, the societal pressure will be much understood here.

I had an ultrasound at 6weeks 4 days which showed GS 3x3x3 mm and yolk sac 1.0mm. No FP or HB seen. I got two different reactions from my sonography doc and my IVF doctor. My sonography doc said I’m measuring behind and by now we should see the heart beat. While my IVF doctor said she has seen such cases that ended up in successful pregnancies. I was asked to come back after two weeks. 10 more days to go, and I can’t help but spiral if there’s a baby inside me. Is there anyone with similar experience? It’ll be a breath of fresh air for my cramped up thoughts reading your experiences.

Hi, everyone! Can I know more about your experience with ectopic pregnancies? I’m looking for more personal experiences and not the generic explanations of what an ectopic pregnancy is.

What were your early symptoms before rapture? How long can an ectopic pregnancy last? Where was your ectopic? And how long did it take for you to get pregnant again?

My beta HCG were:
9dpt- 86.27, 16dpt- 417.35, 18dpt- 483.95, 21dpt- 690.27

I did sonography on 16dpt but no sac could be seen. I repeated my sonography on 21dpt and some sac like spot was seen in my uterus. My doctor said it’s still very tiny to determine if that’s actually a baby or not.

I was so worried that I’m having an ectopic pregnancy but today (21dpt) in my sonography no adnexal mass and fluid could be seen. I don’t have any bleeding or pain as well. With these findings is ectopic ruled out? And anyone with this experience ended with a successful pregnancy?

I’m currently 5 weeks 4 days pregnant. I feel hurt even as I’m writing this sentence because I’m not sure for how long more I’ll be able to say that. This will be my third failed pregnancies.
I’m waiting to get my beta tomorrow to confirm the next course of action. The waiting period has my anxiety reach the sky. We were so happy ever since finding out we were pregnant but that soon turned into a nightmare because of my unusual HCG trend and no gestational sac in my US. My HCG is rising but in a very slow phase- first was 86, 417 and then 483. My ultrasound did not show free fluid or an adnexal mass, however, I’m not getting any symptoms of miscarriage. I’m here so confused. Am I having an ectopic pregnancy or is it a missed pregnancy? If I’m miscarrying why haven’t I bled yet. Can anyone here please help me understand what is happening? It will mean the world to me 🙏🏻

Update: I got my beta drawn today and it was 690 at 21dpt. After sonography Ectopic pregnancy was ruled out cause they couldn’t find anything in my tubes and ovaries, instead they saw a tiny sac in my uterus 😭
I’m still trying to wrap my head around this. This is a miracle! Now I’m praying I’ll be able to continue successfully with this pregnancy. Please keep us in your prayers 🙏🏻 thank you!

My beta HCG at 9dpt was 86.27, on 16dpt it was 417.35 and on 18dpt it is 483.95. Currently I’m 5 weeks 1 day pregnant. I did sonography on 16dpt (4weeks 6days pregnant) but no sac could be seen. I need to know if anyone has gone through a similar experience and ended up in a successful pregnancy 🙏🏻