u/mamadoedawn

My brother's fiance is Taiwanese and they are getting married this month! They are currently having a ceremony with her family in Taiwan- and then are doing a very small traditional American wedding in the US that my family will attend in July. My family has no Taiwan heritage and don't know a lot about the culture outside of what my brother's fiance has shared with us. I would really love to gift her and my brother a hongboa red envelope with some cash inside on their wedding day in the US- but I want to do it appropriately. When is the correct time to hand it to them? Is there any specific customs I should be aware of to make sure it's done correctly? Any advice is so appreciated!

I'm not asking what *should* be done, or what is recommended- I'm curious what people are actually doing. How far apart do you plant your fruit trees and what kind of success/ problems have you had with that spacing?

I feel like so much of my life for the last 5 years has been stuck in "let's talk about the weather" mode. I have acquaintance friends, family, and a husband who don't really enjoy delving deeply into things in the way I do. And I'm desperate to discuss world politics, philosophy, random interests with *anyone* who can fall down rabbit holes with me. I don't care who you are or what you want to talk about- it could even be the weather, I *love* weather! But can we go deeper than surface level please? I am SO tired of goes-nowhere small talk.