Final closure feeling
Ran into my ex best friend of four years after six months of no contact that was discussed and agreed upon but with no time discussed on it. Next day I messaged to say i was still interested in reconciling and was glad to run into him. This was his response and even though i have my final closure now it still really hurts and I dont think stopping to speak instead of ignoring violated any boundaries plus at some point after time and space I wanted to know if there was any chance of being friends again. How would others feel afterwards to get this repsonse? Im relieved to have a “final answer” but still hurts like hell.
“While you say you wanted to respect the distance and boundaries I asked for, you actively came up to speak to me. While i appreciate the sentiment and im glad that it led to some growth for you, it also led to some growth for me. Ive since mourned you and what our friendship was. Ive taken it for all the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once I am done, that is it, I’m not interested in revisiting anything with you however i’ll always cherish what you were to me and how you were there for me, i dont speak poor of you to others, just that we sorta fell off. I hope your able to find the peace that I have with this but please don’t misconstrue that any of that came lightly”