u/mboarder360

I am wanting to make custom corsets. I am relatively competent patternmaker and stitcher and work professionally in sewing. I have been looking for books that instruct about how to draft a corset pattern and explanations about why each thing is done. Have borrowed a book that is full of historical corsets and patterns but doesn't really explain how to draft custom fitted ones. Ie if I am starting from a custom fit lingerie block - where do I go from there?

Looking for great books or tutorials on this!

I would like to start off with an underbust corset but I have a friend that would like to make an overbust one with cups.

I've decided to stop using spotify, and to buy music by artists I like to support them and also have music I actually own so the streaming service can't replace the song with a different version or remove it due to licensing.

I am trying to decide if I should buy cds to transfer to digital, or buy digital directly from bandcamp/other.

I don't have a cd player (I do have a disc drive) but I might like to get one someday, and there is something appealing about owning physical pieces of media from musicians I care about. That said, I live in New Zealand, and international shipping is very expensive to get them here. I'd almost certainly have to buy from overseas from many of the artists I like. I already have a bunch of cds I have bought new or secondhand, but many of them are not from my most favorite artists, they're just ones I like enough and got in an op shop or something.

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Trying to decide and would love some other peoples thoughts.

I (f28) wasn't raised in a conservative household or anything, I've just always had some weird anxieties about sexuality and gender stuff. I like women. I just seem to have a really weird relationship with it all.. I'm always worried I'll make people uncomfortable, or I'm somehow deceiving them by existing. I also seem to be very emotional about the subject and it being brought up, people make weird comments that I often take as attacks.

I get very defensive about it. A few years ago I kind of made out and stayed the night with a very nice lady and I told some friends and I couldn't deal with the responses. Not everyone had something to say but some of my closest friends seemed surprised, made big deals out of it, or kind of spread it around (I had my friends' friend come up to me and tell me that I was among friends because he was bi...) I also seem to have a reoccurring thing of my straight or maybe bi friends telling me that they're super not into me and then listing off the specific girls or types they ARE into - and I can't understand why they do this? It makes me worried they see me as predatory and are trying to shut me down in advance in case I was trying to do anything with them.

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My history with attraction to women doesn't go so well, I had a huge crush on a friend a few years back and would get so nervous or something I'd vomit every time we hung out. When I tried using dating apps the first time I matched with a girl, talked for a few hours and then just got this huge wave of upset and crying when she mentioned having a boyfriend in the chat. I'm still friends with her now tho and went to their engagement party even. Ive got a bit of a crush on one of my coworkers now who is nice to me, and some kind of weird sexual tension with another, who is mean to me. I'd be more likely to admit this to the one who is mean to me except I suspect she would not take it well and tell people. Even tho she is the one who literally spanked me and tried to get me to say how naughty I was at work a few weeks ago.

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And the one woman I have actually kissed I haven't been able to stop thinking about for over a year even tho we don't talk anymore (I am sad about this but too anxious/feels demeaning to reach out).

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I don't really know what I'm looking for from this post but I just am kind of bummed that I think my mentality around this is causing me distress + limiting.

I've tried no contact. I still think about her every day since late Oct 2024. You can see my post history - I've been thinking about this nonstop ever since it happened. It is bad and embarrassing. For a while I would check in on the social media account where she posts frequently, but I haven't done that since probably February. Thing is, I still want to. I think about doing it all the time but restrain myself because it is 'bad'. But if I want to, how bad is it really?

I also really want to add her on discord and just say hi and see what happens. But I'm holding back.

But surely it will come to a point of this where I can talk to her? If not talking to her isn't helping, maybe talking will be like ripping off a bandaid so I stop thinking so much? I remember when we were talking it was making me like her less. I recently put effort into talking to and hanging out with someone I did have a crush on and upon getting to know them I found that a lot of my feelings dissipated. So I feel like maybe if I talk to her I'll lose the obsession once my brain kinda takes her off this pedestal. If she shuts me down, maybe that's even better for me.