The Nightmare Upstairs: What Happened to Ty and Bryn?
So there is a new 2 episode documentary on Hulu that I watched this morning. I believe it’s the only thing I’ve ever seen that touches on the topic of Parental Alienation. If anyone watches it, I’d like to hear your thoughts on it.
I was alienated from my Son at the age of 16. He is now 22 and I haven’t seen him since 2020. I divorced his father when my Son was 2 because he threw me against a wall. As soon as the child support section was ordered my ex quit his job and didn’t work for the next 12 years. I still went by the custody orders despite this.
I had stupidly agreed to a 2/3 split with exchanges at daycare (which I paid for). My ex would purposely make our child sick by feeding him sugar prior to daycare drop off. He would vomit white and I would miss work. It was literally every week! I didn’t realize this until my Son was 3ish and told me, “Daddy feeds me white stuff for breakfast. It’s sweet!”
My ex did everything in his power to make me lose the house I had purchased prior to our marriage. Making child sick so I missed work, roofing nails in my driveway so I had to buy new tires, purposely not paying child support, keeping the new clothes I had bought and sending him to daycare in the old clothes that didn’t fit. He would cut chunks from our Son’s hair and send him to daycare filthy.
When my son was 4, he got a job and the state garnished the second check. My ex immediately quit and went into hiding for 5 months. It caused great distress in our Son because his father was just gone. He had to be put into therapy.
He basically abandoned him until my Son was old enough to be his “buddy” and when he got into a new relationship. I was happy for my son bc he always had wanted his father in his life.
This woman finally made my ex get a job. ( I found out later her house was in the final stages of foreclosure). Everything was good until the first wage garnishment by the state. My ex owed $53,000 in back pay and the state garnished 60% and gave it to me. This infuriated his new girlfriend as she needed him to pay her bills. This is when the alienation began. It was initiated by her.
She took normal teenage angst and told my Son what a horrible mother I was. I’ve seen text messages that she sent to my child telling him to make me miserable when he was with me. Many many other tactics and at 16 he didn’t want to live with me anymore. I let him live with his Dad.
My son had a scholarship to prestigious high school and they told him not to do his work and his scholarship was revoked. He was put into a public school that was more convenient to them. He was immediately put on ADHD medication and became skeletal. He dropped out and did not graduate. Prior to her interference he was a A/B student.
She tried and still to this day, to taunt me on SM by posting with my Son. She claimed she was his Mom, he calls her Mom, he was “the child she earned and deserved”. A lot more but this has been pretty long already.
How many of you parents were alienated when your child was an older age, such as mine? When did you decide to let go? How many of you were alienated not by the other parent but by the Stepparent?