u/mightcryorkil

Okay so my best friend is getting married and I’m the MOH for her wedding. She’s having the wedding in February in Northwestern North Carolina. She wants bridesmaids in chiffon dresses in some shade of light or pale purple.

I have Raynaud’s disease, aka I lose circulation in my extremities in the cold. Not ideal for a wedding where I will be handling things all day.

Granted the wedding itself will be indoors, but I am not sure how good the heating will be at this venue because it’s a farm style venue. And photos will definitely be outside.

Any advice for a dress that can keep me warm in the winter but is made of chiffon??

So I (22F) had a one night stand with a friend of mine (22M) because I didn’t want to graduate college a virgin. We’ll say the name is Andrew.
It started when my friend jokingly suggested we have sex bc I made an offhand comment about how I was gonna graduate with a bachelor’s degree as a virgin.
I found Andrew attractive so I said yes. This was back in August, so we talked and Andrew thought it best to do in December, as a way to “give me time to find someone else if I wanted.” (I graduated in December).
Except Andrew flirted with me from the moment I agreed onward, and I enjoyed it and didn’t want to have sex with anyone else.
Andrew has had partners before and had experience, so I figured it would be fun and I’d be safe.
Except the night came. We slept together. Cuddled for ten minutes. And then Andrew left. At 3 in the morning.
Life fully walked out of my bed, out of my apartment, and left.
This was just under three months ago. We talk occasionally and go on and Andrew almost acts like it never happened. No longer flirts with me or anything, and is nowhere near as close to me as he was the last few months before December.
I don’t wanna talk about it w Andrew bc it’s been so long and we barely talk now since Andrew moved out of state for a job, but I feel so worthless right now and don’t know what to do.

Has anyone been here? Does anyone have advice?
I know I probably need actual therapy and I’m working on finding someone for that, but in the meantime if anyone here has any helpful advice, I’d really appreciate it.