u/miserable_mitzi

I am looking for a reputable tailor to do a few adjustments to my wedding dress.I got it for only $100 but heard some tailors charge nearly a thousand. I also heard many tailors charge significantly more for wedding dresses. Mine doesn’t really look like a traditional wedding dress and has no complex beading or multiple fabrics or corset. Thank you!

Not sure why the body of my original post disappeared, so here it is:

The bride gets the master bedroom and bathroom, which is totally fair. The two maids of honor each get their own private bedroom and bathroom. Everyone else shares one room with three bunk beds and a single half bathroom.

We're all splitting the bride's share so she doesn't have to pay, which I completely understand. But beyond that, we're also splitting the Airbnb cost evenly, even though the sleeping arrangements are very different and set in stone.

Is it normal for everyone to pay the same amount even when the maids of honor get private rooms and everyone else is in bunk beds? The Airbnb is $300/night and I find that really steep for being in a bunk bed. That's the part I'm having trouble understanding.

The Airbnb was booked before any of us had a chance to see or discuss it.

Edit: It is also a 4 day bachelorette trip.

Edit: I'm more asking whether this is considered normal bachelorette etiquette. I've never been on one of these trips before, so I genuinely don't know what's customary. I understand that it's standard for the bridal party to cover the bride's share, but is it also typical for everyone else to effectively subsidize the maids of honor so they each get a private room while the rest of the group shares bunk beds? I'm not trying to complain, I'm just trying to understand what the usual expectation is.

Just looking through the recent posts on this subreddit, along with what I'm experiencing as a bridesmaid, it's honestly sad how many people are stressed because they're trying to decide whether to spend money they can't comfortably afford just to attend a bachelorette party.

When did a fun night out become a multi-day vacation? It feels like so many bachelorette parties now come with luxury Airbnbs, elaborate decorations, coordinated outfits, PTO requests, travel costs, winery tours, and a price tag that can easily climb into the thousands. Somewhere along the way, celebrating a friend started to feel like an expensive obligation instead of a fun weekend together.

Originally, the bachelorette was supposed to be a day trip to a local winery, which sounded great since we have amazing wineries nearby. Then it became a weekend at a fancy Airbnb near the wineries, even though we all live within 15 minutes (which I was still okay and excited about). Now it's turned into a 3-day trip a few hours away, with an Airbnb costing about $350 per person before activities, in a destination that isn't particularly expensive.

The MOH even created a Google Doc asking for everyone's budgets. I shared mine, but it seems to have been ignored because the trip was finalized at "around $1,500," and no one will even give me an exact total.

So what was the point of asking for everyone's budget if it wasn't going to factor into the planning?!

This is my first time being a bridesmaid for a more formal wedding, so I'm not sure what's considered normal. There are nine of us, and the plan is to stay in an Airbnb a few hours away for 3 days/2 nights. The Airbnb alone will be about $350 a night per person, and that doesn't include winery visits, food, drinks, or other activities. The bride specifically wants the nicest Airbnb in the area, but we're not traveling to an especially expensive destination like Vegas or Napa. She confirmed that the $350/night will likely be the price, but she might bend to $250/night, which I still find very expensive.

Does this seem like a typical price, or is it on the high end? I'd love to go, but I'm in a tight financial situation right now, so I'm trying to figure out what's reasonable before committing.

I’m a pretty normal 31 year old woman. I’m engaged, work as a professor, and have a whole adult life. But back in 2003, I was a painfully introverted kid who discovered RuneScape and basically lived in Gielinor for years.

I met this guy in game who always wore black robes, had bright green hair, and chose the darkest skin tone possible. We ended up spending years playing together. Eventually he smelted a ring and proposed to me, and we got “married” at the Saradomin chapel with all of our friends there. At the time it felt incredibly real and important to me.

Then one day my account got hacked. I was devastated and honestly so embarrassed about how upset I was that I just stopped playing altogether and unintentionally ghosted him.

I still think about him sometimes and wonder what happened to him. Miss coming home after school and logging on to fish lobbies or pray that a random event would happen to me while I’m mining gold.

I’m a lecturer at an R1 and there is this award I received for professional development. It basically awards you money to pursue opportunities outside of teaching like a conference. I was awarded $1k.

I genuinely am not sure if this is supposed to be something I put on a CV. You basically send in your CV/Statement/merit review in order to get it. I have no idea how competitive this is. Also idk if I put the right flair.