u/moral_scrub

I've read that kinky parties are thing in Zürich. How do these parties look like, and where can one find them?

Petak je pa dok idem s posla rekoh da podijelim dobre vibre. Pitajte što vas zanima.

Otprilike 10 godina krećem se ovim vodama uz kraće ili duže pauze, što u hrvatskoj, što u inozemsvu. U hrvatskoj je ova tema društveni taboo, te zajednica iako brojna, nije jednako povezana. Među vama siguran sam ima individualaca (pogotovo solo muškaraca) i parova koji možda žele napraviti svoj prvi korak.

Otvoreno postavite svoja pitanja. Želim sretan petak svima.

Do we communicate - yes

In case somebody is in the same situation, please do share your experience from either sides. We are 8 years in, and I've been accumulating tiredness handling all the overstimulation coming from my partner.

Little background info: my partner has gone through several cases of illness in her family, and has been diagnosed with thyroid and gyno issues for which she needs to take medication to keep it under control. By nature she is timid and sensitive person, making her in a constant fear for her health and health of people around her. Those traits also impact how she handles stress on work.

With slightest bit of symptoms coming from her conditions, she falls into distress, and can't handle day-to-day tasks. She has negative attitude about almost anything that she or we are doing, with rare episodes of positivity that brighten my day.

I've been acting supportitive and strong, always giving positive words on her constant complains, handling things when she can't. This however has taken a toll on me, and recently on each complaint (daily, multiple times), internally I've started to feel irritated. We are at the age where we can expect having kids, but I'm starting to think that having a partner with positive attitude and stronger character would make things much easier, and I'm afraid that big chunk of responsibility will fall on me.

This has made me feel like a piece of s\*\*\*, as I was never a person who avoids fighting problems, and gives up on people I love. I've tried describing how she's been negative for longer time now, but what I get back is a statement that she might be a burden, and that it would be better for me if we break up, saying how these conditions are irreversible and her family sickness cases have taken a psychological toll on her.

If you were in my shoes (or if you have been), what would you do?

Do we communicate - yes

In case somebody is in the same situation, please do share your experience from either sides. We are 8 years in, and I've been accumulating tiredness handling all the overstimulation coming from my partner.

Little background info: my partner has gone through several cases of illness in her family, and has been diagnosed with thyroid and gyno issues for which she needs to take medication to keep it under control. By nature she is timid and sensitive person, making her in a constant fear for her health and health of people around her. Those traits also impact how she handles stress on work.

With slightest bit of symptoms coming from her conditions, she falls into distress, and can't handle day-to-day tasks. She has negative attitude about almost anything that she or we are doing, with rare episodes of positivity that brighten my day.

I've been acting supportitive and strong, always giving positive words on her constant complains, handling things when she can't. This however has taken a toll on me, and recently on each complaint (daily, multiple times), internally I've started to feel irritated. We are at the age where we can expect having kids, but I'm starting to think that having a partner with positive attitude and stronger character would make things much easier, and I'm afraid that big chunk of responsibility will fall on me.

This has made me feel like a piece of s\*\*\*, as I was never a person who avoids fighting problems, and gives up on people I love. I've tried describing how she's been negative for longer time now, but what I get back is a statement that she might be a burden, and that it would be better for me if we break up, saying how these conditions are irreversible and her family sickness cases have taken a psychological toll on her.

If you were in my shoes (or if you have been), what would you do?

U mojoj situaciji partner/ica ima ogroman manjak samopouzdanja, sto utjece na gotovo sve sfere suzivota i jedan konstantan zivot u grču. Prve misli su gotovo uvijek defenzivne i pesimisticne, sto naravno utjece na mene, premda se trudim ostati jaka osoba i biti neogranicena potpora. Zivotne okolnosti su nam vise manje zaista uredne, te se kroz komunikaciju ne moze zakljuciti da postoji odreden problem koji je uzrok svega. Vise je to skup nekakvih eksternih pehova kroz godine.

Često se uhvatim da mastam da je sve nekako vedrije i opustenije.

Jeste se pronasli ikad u slicnoj situaciji? Kako ste pristupili tom problemu? Sto je u vasem slucaju bio okidac promjene?

Imate li osjećaj ovisnosti o novim stvarima? Bile to stvari, događaji, veze, uvijek dobijem taj kick tek kada probam nešto novo, i kroz neko vrijeme magija nestane.

Konkretno ljudi koji ste u brakovima ili duzim vezana i imate osjećaj, kako se nosite s time da nećete opet osjetiti adrenalin novoga.