u/msgmeyourcatsnudes

I'm old (32). I was emo when being emo was really NOT cool.

The thing I want you guys to know, is that emo and scene day to day was actually a pretty mellow look. Even just wearing a checkered belt and a black shirt/skinny jeans would be enough to make you deemed emo/scene. Emo kids had the black/white belt and scene kids had the black/pink or green one. The famous kids on MySpace were not the representation of most scene/emo kids in real life.

Do you like scene music? Do you go heavy on eye liner? Do you wear skinny jeans? Have a passion for Gir? You're scene. The look is really easy to accomplish because most of us were thrifting. If you're even thinking about posting here, you're scene.

I hope this doesn't sound condescending, because I honestly love seeing kids keep this aesthetic alive. But you're all good. There is no secret club you need to be accepted in. You belong.

I was 16 when MH came out, so I missed the boat for sure. Even then, I thought they were really cute. I regret not indulging myself and buying myself a few.

Even as a little girl, I didn't really play with dolls. I felt ashamed for wanting to "girly" things. I can't say Barbie's ever appealed to me, but I would have to lie to my parents about wanting some of the historic American girl dolls.

Recently, I've been making a tiny collection of monster high dolls. I just think they're so cute. I don't know much about their characters through the years, but I don't really care. I like collecting the ones I could see myself displaying. So far, I have Barbie Frankie, the newest morticia, and sweet 1600 Cupid. I think Cupid and Drac are my favorite (I'm sorry, I think she's cute). I'm stoked for the new howliday drac and carnival frights line.

Anyone else? I totally get why most collectors have more nostalgia, and in a little jealous tbh. I wish I grew up with MH, even though I'm sure I wouldn't have been allowed to have any lol. I just think they're so cute.

I got my first Sphynx over a year ago. She was my little best friend from day one. I always said I was afraid to get another cat because she was so perfect. She'd sleep with me every night, wake up with me, cuddle with me.

I got a new kitten for her since I started working more and I thought she was lonely. The introduction went well. Sometimes I think she is annoyed by him, but the snuggle and play. She doesn't cry when I'm leaving for work anymore.

However, she's changed. She sleeps in a separate bed, sometimes with the kitten, often alone. She still greets me at the door, but she doesn't want pets and hugs like she used to. She used to be a snuggle bug, but she rarely wants pets anymore.

Last week she did get very sick, and I thought that might have explained the behavior change. But she's gotten better and the behavior is the same.

I'm happy she isn't alone when I work now, but I miss my cat. :(

This post will be very ranty and bitter sounding, but hear me out.

Women are far more likely to see past conventional beauty standards than men are. Sometimes, we see traits that aren't even there.

And don't get me wrong, I know you don't have to be conveniently attractive to get a relationship. Especially not to get laid. But, what I'm finding, is that EVERY man I run into has had a smoke show for a girlfriend at one point. As long as they have one good trait (good job, ambition, humor, good looking), they've had a hot girlfriend.

This isn't inherently a problem. I'm far past the point of wanting to compete with random woman. The issue is, these men WILL compare you to their hottest girlfriend. I've had dates and boyfriends who started out psyched with me, yet they all end up comparing me to past girlfriends in the end. It's like they resent me for not measuring up.

I honestly give up. If he doesn't find you to be the best looking he's ever been with, he will resent you for it.

Before you ask, yes he has seen the vet. I was advised to keep on eye on it, and we can pursue treatments if it doesn't clear up in a couple of weeks or gets worse.

I've dealt with a kitty cough before with my other cat. Only her episodes were very severe and scary, leading to her asthma diagnosis. His aren't as bad, and the sneezing makes me think he just has a kitty cold.

She does have a guarantee for congenital defects in the first year. Should I let her know, or wait it out?

I've had my current Sphynx for over a year now. When I got her, I worked day shifts, had a boyfriend who would visit her when I was at work, and my mom would babysit. Now, I'm working more nights (when she's most awake), that relationship ended, and I can't leave her with my mom as we've discovered that the mold in her house which irritates her asthma (that's a whole thing). She's gotten VERY sad when I go to work, so I'm getting a new kitten.

I'm doing the jackson galaxy method to introduce the new kitten. My plan is to leave the kitten in my room while I'm at work, and my current cat in the rest of the house. Then I'll switch at bedtime so my cat now can sleep with me, as usual.

I'm going to leave my comforter on the couch for my girl (the ONLY blanket she chooses to sleep under). I also will leave blankets and a new covered kitty bed for the kitten at night.

I just feel so bad! A) because my girl will be locked out of my bedroom where she always chooses to nap. And B) because the new kitty will be sleeping alone. Maybe it's irrational, but I'm afraid the kitten will get lonely and cold at night. :(

Any tips? As I said, the kitten will have many blankets and his own covered house at night. I also have the central heater in that room, which I will set a bit higher than I normally do.

I have an apartment with south facing windows, which is amazing for light and warmth, but it means I have to watch my cats window time. She licks off sunscreen and gets out of clothing, so I'm out of options other than a UV window cling. That's just something I haven't done, because I'd feel bad taking away her people watching and sun time.

Fortunately, she's dark gray/black color, so I haven't had any issues with her getting burned up.

Right now I'm looking at adding another baby, and all of the kittens the breeder I'm talking to now has are pink. I can only imagine these boys would be MUCH more sensitive to sunburn. So what do you do to protect a pinkie?

I signed up for a local farmers box and I was given a few beets. I want to make the most of it, and I hate throwing away food. Almost as much as I hate beets.

I can tolerate borsch, but I only have like four beets. Any ideas?

I recently reached out to a rescue about a five year bambino that's available. Now I would NEVER buy a bambino, because I don't think they're ethically bred inherently. I have a Sphynx already, but she was from an excellent breeder that does annual testing and came TICA/CFA registered.

This poor kitty looked a little raggedy and a volunteer told me she isn't doing well in the crowded environment, so I reached out. The organization told me they wanted $700+250 for a tooth cleaning. Because she's a munchkin Sphynx.

As much as my heart aches for this cat, I'm incredibly apprehensive. She's already coming with neglected teeth, and while they are fixing it, I can only imagine what else is going on. I doubt she's been HCM screened. I was also already anticipating the potential medical costs of a bambino. It sounds like she came from a BYB.

While I know money isn't everything here, $950 for an adult cat with several likely medical expenses and a byb background that will certainly cost me down the road is a bit heavy when a well bred kitten can be had for 2k. The person I spoke to admitted they knew nothing about the breed but sort of brushed me off when I said the bambino's come with potential health risks.

Is this normal?

I've been working at this casino bar for over a year, so I'm very familiar with our regulars, the pos, popular drinks and etc. That I'm not worried about. Most of my barbacking shifts were spent bartending anyways, mostly making servers tickets and helping with easy drinks.

Recently a position opened up and it was given to me. I'm VERY grateful since things have slowed down a lot and the bar shifts are much better money. But I am nervous because 2 of these are solo shifts, one of which can be very busy. I'm not worried about 99% of what is ordered. It's not a classy joint. The "fanciest" thing someone might get is typically a lemon drop. But I'm still really green. I had to google how to make a mudslide yesterday lol.

I'd be grateful to hear any tips yall might have. I'm considering flash cards. 😪

I'll spare the long winded history, but basically I had very low self esteem and issues with abandonment, especially with men. This drove me to feel like I needed to earn male attention. So when I met a man in my early 20s who seemed to fill that void, I let the bread crumbing and abuse slide.

Seriously, it's embarrassing how much I put up with early into our relationship. He told me he wanted me to be exclusive, but not him. He hit my car with his car when I tried to pick him up drunk one time. He was horrible, but I somehow thought it was all my fault.

We were together for almost six years. He "matured" in a lot of ways. But he was still awful. I gained 40lbs in that relationship because he would pester me to drink and eat fast food with him (two things I never did before). Then he would call me fat and tell me he wanted to fuck other women "as a joke." He was not affectionate at all, if anything he acted like I was gross. Unless he wanted sex. Sex made me feel used.

I could go on. We broke up over two years ago and life has only gotten better since. I've been doing a lot of therapy, lost a ton of weight, improved my diet, improved socially, and so much else. But I still have this deep seeded feeling that I'm not worthy of a good partner.

I'm no model, but I'm not ugly, either. I get asked out my strangers semi often. I've been told I come across as very confident. But I have this problem where I just do not believe that i am the right kind of pretty to ever have someone fall in love with me. I feel like, at best, I can put on enough makeup or dress myself right enough to pass as acceptable. But I'm terrified I'm going to end up with another guy who will tell me how gross I am all the time.

Logically, I know this isn't true. I just don't know how to shake this feeling.