u/narryfa

Hi! So my best friend’s older sister is getting married and I’m wondering where I can buy fashionable lehengas when I’m based in the UK (ideally online brands with Europe/ international shipping).

The wedding is in Mumbai, but I don’t want to wait until I visit to buy a lehenga 1-2 days before. I’m quite picky with my style so thought to seek advice from this subreddit.

A quick google search turned up the brand KALKI, but no idea if they’re good or worth the money. Being something I won’t wear more than a couple of times, I’d like something at the intersection of good quality (no SHEIN/ cheap fast fashion please) but also affordable. Budget is under £160.

Some styles I’ve liked have been sage green or light purple lehengas- I know to avoid red, white and black for weddings.

My partner might also be attending with me so open to both genders’ clothing!

Ang brand suggestions/ tips for dressing for Indian weddings would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!

For context, I’m in burnout now and will do anything to get better. I seem to jump between ‘radical rest’ and acceptance and commitment exercises.

Someone mentioned it seems like both are just more “work” I’m giving myself, that I then apply my “pass/fail” mentality to (not helping, I know. It’s so automatic).

And I think it’s true. If resting is work and working is never enough (sometimes counterproductive), it’s hard to know how to proceed.

I’m lucky that I’m working from home most days over the summer but I still spend time living with my partner and want to maintain my friendships, so disappearing off the grid isn’t an option either.

For those in burnout/ who have come out of it, how did you manage? What helped most?

Hi all,

I have dual citizenship in 2 countries, and have declared both on my civil partnership visa. My current visa expires in October but I'm going home for all of October and will need at least one passport to travel on.

Since passports need to be originals, does anyone know if sending in only one of them will jeaopordise my application? Especially when I've declared both nationalities. This would mean I can travel on my other passport.

Also, what was the turnaround for you to receive your passport back after sending them in? I'm travelling on the 1st of October (so in little over a month). Quite anxious about this as it's a long haul flight back home with my family so it's very difficult to change.. thank you in advance for your help.

Been getting into embroidery and cycling lately and I’ve realised it’s the perfect time to put on a podcast!

Interested in anything relating to understanding/living with Autism (esp level 1/ high-functioning, late diagnosed adults).

Let me know your recs below. Thanks!

I’m late diagnosed 24F and for the last 6 months have been quietly horrified that I’d lost some skills entirely: speaking, writing, short term memory, having any sort of curiosity or enthusiasm, attention span, spontaneity, self confidence. I thankfully have an easy job but still called in sick for a week to spiral in bed and not be perceived. I’ve avoided friends for months because at any conversation my mind just draws a blank.

A quick search led me to find out these are classic symptoms of autistic burnout. But I’ve been experiencing skill regression for nearly 3 years now since diagnosis, and an extreme low (burnout) for the last 6 months.

Is this normal? It feels like every day I remain in burnout, the farther down I walk a flight of basement stairs, and the light at the top of the door recedes ever further. It doesn’t feel like I’m getting anywhere close to recovery.

I feel totally unrecognizable today. The enthusiasm and optimism and empathy I was known for seems to have been replaced with a stoic, tired, apathetic shell of myself. I miss the old me and the life she had, but I know the solution is not to revert to an old self but to grow with this, burnout and all.

For those who’ve been here, how was the experience for you? And more importantly what got you back on your feet?