I just like walking sticks, I usually have a bigger one that like a staff but I found this one that's cane length ive been digging lately. I don't need a walking aid but theyre still nice to have for walking and also for the fit imo. But now idk if im coming off as just eccentric or rude. Am I alone on this?
Hi there, 26 fluid, recently moved from the rural south to a very big city. Big motivating factor was realizing I wasn't cis and knowing how little opportunities i had where I was socially, economically, all that. So far its been great. There's so much more life and energy and I don't feel like a potential target anymore it's great. I want to start looking into getting out on a more personal level but im painfully inexperienced. There wasn't a big dating pool where I grew up or where I've been living the past few years, and right at the start of my high school years I got on a bad medicine routine that was killing my sex-drive and social motivation until recently. I got off them, cracked, and now Im in a major city.
I've flirted online a lot, im in a lot of kinky servers, and I got a good idea of what i like but frankly I'm a little nervous starting from scratch irl. I've been paying attention to the kink scene where I am and im going to a little gathering this month but outside of general etiquette and the vibe of the area i dont know what to expect beyond the obvious. I know for a fact I won't be the only queer/trans person there which is reassuring but also Im still worried about making someone uncomfortable by saying the wrong thing or just looming in the corner if I don't want to be involved.
And beyond that I'm not sure what to do after. Im going because it sounds like fun with like minded people I can maybe keep in touch with after but I don't want to narrow my vision to just this community. I don't know where to start looking otherwise, and im afraid of doing this same thing at like a table-top store or another platonic hang-out location. Like I felt awkward before when I was younger and on bad meds and in the closet and all and now I feel better but I'm nervous for the opposite reasons of being too genuine and oblivious to whether I'm overwhelming someone else. Im on the spectrum so I know that feeling myself and Im not always the best at reading that in others when its happening to them.
Does anyone have insight or similar experiences? I still feel new to all these communities by virtue of being so physically and personally disconnected but the more i learn about myself the more i want to get out into the world in opposition to the last 2 decades of my life. Thank you
I picked up Iron Nest last night and it kinda reignited my want for more games like it. It wasn't *exactly* what I was looking for but it was close. I want a game that's like it where you're given a copious amount of tools and instrument clusters and given a task on the level of "Do trigonometry for us" or "Finish this task or recipe after you prep every ingredient that needs its own set of tasks completed before you can start prepping it" and so on. But like in a very claustrophilic environment. That's where Iron Nest got me; i love all the tools and levers and the big table-map grid with markers and headings on it but it was too open of an area. I want tight hallways or a smaller more complex room and a lot of clutter. Like in a space pod or a long-haul cabin or a library (librarian: tidy up was also really good for this vibe but it needed more meat onthe bones imo) or a cottage in the middle of nowhere. Any recommendations like that?
I picked up a wallet at a thrift store and it had a sheetz card in it, I didn't have one so I tried it out a while later and when I scanned it the check out said "secret shopper account activated" is there anything special about that as a civi?
Ive really wanted to make this happen for a while now and i think it's going down. Between living with my bigoted parent in rural Appalachia in contrast with visiting my sibling for their wedding last year I just don't belong here. Especially when you don't want to be in the closet anymore. I finally have enough saved up and a car to make the trip physically, my sibling has a room to rent me for a while, and im going from barely making $11 an hour as lower management to a place where minimum is $17 so I have a feeling even with a higher cost of living ill be way more financially stable along with not having to deal with lying about who I am here. Im renting in a suburb so I wont be in the city proper but knowing I can actually walk places again is getting me excited but also a little worried
What are the major things I need to look out for? What places should I avoid new as I am, things to look out for, stuff like that. I've dealt with strung out folk where I am now but im also going from a place that's very lax as far as self defense goes so what is the appropriate amount of personal protection here? Ive seen my fair share of preppers at the gas station with twin-pistols under their arms, I don't want to look like that in comparison but I do have a few EDC knives and brass jewelry I keep on hand. If there are any safety tips or wisdom from folk I'd appreciate it. Can't wait to get back west
Was swapping the front-end *brake* pads on my 2016 crosstrek this morning, it was the last set I had when someone stepped in to "help" and proceeded to snap this bold that was holding the caliper frame to the rotor. The other side was also badly frozen when I did it the other day but this one just snapped. I was able to do some surgery and bleed the brakes and get the new pads on, and considering how stuck it was and it's mainly just the head of the bolt it should be able to drive for a while before I replace it.
It fits a 17mm wrench, its one of the two bolts that is holding the entire mechanism and it's frame to the front-passanger rotor. The other side had no threads on the neck and they started further down the body, but my car is an R-title from a front-end collision, I know subaru's usually have a different pitch to the threads on their screws, i dont know if this bolt with a '6' on it is a standard or recommended part or if the shop that refurbished it just grabbed some spare hardware they had and got it past inspection. What part do I *need* in order to replace this? I got a tap-n-die set ill figure how to get the other stuck piece out eventually. Thank you
I'm not even kidding. Go to an antique store, look for a long-ass pipe with some wild designs or its carved into a dude's bust or something, purchase it legally, clean it out and add it to your kit. You don't even have to smoke. Put bubble-soap in it. Just gesture with it. Keep it in your teeth or up your sleeve and just pull it out when you have down time. It is so damn good and there's so many to choose from.
I like painting my nails fun, bright colors but I am in a circumstance where I am not "allowed" to paint them anything other than black. Bad situation, trying to leave it, want to paint my nails when im not in the house.
Is there a technique or type of polish or a marker or paint that I can use on top of regular nail polish without damaging the color when I put it on or take it off? Id prefer it to be something I can put on quick but if theres a sticker or glue that won't rip the under-polish off and can just pop off and on no problem then that could work too
Ive been here for 6 months now and i have been pedal to the medal. My previous manager liked my attitude and efforts, he was getting transferred to a bigger store so while the new manager was shadowing they got me promoted to crew lead in no small part to everything ive been doing there and so that I can help pick up more of our asst. Manager's slack.
I stared keeping eyes on her in the first month when I saw them skimming tips and from there I started getting pulled into the whole situation of things how they're very lazy, unhelpful, rude and all too eager to pass blame onto anyone but themselves. This is documented. Our coworkers in the attached store see it, the trainees see it, the managers and the higher-ups see it. They have been written up time and time again, once while the new manager was shadowing it was literally a week between them. And still they keep getting hours because of how low staff and sales are, they keep not doing their job or less than the bare minimum, and as the only person over 18 with a good history and available schedule I have to close for them when nothing has been done all morning. And it's taking a toll on me.
A few weeks ago was similar while new manager was out of town, I was left in charge of the trainees and asst. for the most part and it wasn't 2 days before I'm called in to help. Then the next morning comes, im opening and having to clean up the state of things, the trainees dont want to talk or work with asst, i take notes, write down comments and times from before and i buckle because I can't trust asst either, manager is gone and old manager isn't in charge so I call the DM and relay things to them. And DM comes down, helps with paperwork that im still new to, i report what was told to me and he seems to listen bit not want to be there. Rest of the week is similar but better, I give summaries to new manager when i can and he likes how things sound, he gets back, things are better and I get these little 5 dollar voucher things for the chain were attached to as a thank you from him and dm. So i think it went well. Now new manager is away again, im left doing all the prep, cleaning and sandwiches by myself in the evening because asst says traffic is low, but dishes aren't even done from the morning and bread hasn't been taken out of molds and is getting stale. Day three after making the mistake of giving them a chance after new manager and one trainee says theyre doing better and im left holding the bag all three days after the 4th.
I regret not taking pictures of things the first day but you bet I am now. All the prep, all the cleaning, everything on top of running the bar solo. Manager keeps wanting to set up a meeting between him asst and me so we can talk because im the main one pushing for change here because im crew lead and me and the crew are affected but I have the most hours and close for them so i am affected the most. Date of meeting gets pushed again, I'm staring down the same situation, only not knowing when new manager will be back so I message DM again and ask what is being done about all this because im not gonna work with or talk with asst on my own at this point, new manager is held up again and im starting to break from doing asst job, my job, picking up after trainee and being alone there. Apparently DM called new manager and asst both or some chain but now new manager who was on my side is saying delete DM's number so I guess he got chewed out? It got the best of me tonight with all the documenting, record taking, operations on top, and i wasn't able to finish everything for the first time in a long time. I gave new manager whose supposed to open a heads up on text, left a note in case asst gets there first, and took pictures of everything obviously.
What are my options here? Nothing is getting done, its been going on since before i got here and it's only gotten worse. Im getting yelled at by asst for "skipping chain of command" but i won't talk to them without a third party given their history and the well documented issues trusting them, new manager keeps changing the meeting date and can't be found in person, so I'm gonna go one more up and get the DM again. Thats the chain. I have so much testimony, so many examples and pictures now, outside of my own personal interactions, but I have nowhere to go with it. How do I put things in action without getting sniped for rocking the boat now?
I've seen this too much since childhood to think of it as anything other than an anime reference that's based on Christian imagery but would someone Catholic, for example, think this is a satanic thing? I want to wear it but i live in Baptist country and don't know what that might entail
The man selling it insisted it was sterling and wanted $30 for scrap. I didnt fully believe him and countered, pulled out a 20 dollar bill and got it. It isn't 100% silver by a long shot, i have a light magnetic pull from the bearings in the bells and the clasps attaching them to the chain. It does, however, feel heavier than just the iron in the bearings which makes me think it isn't aluminum. But also there's no patina on the chain or the bells themselves. Im not upset over the purchase regardless, I didn't intend to scrap it if it was silver, I just like old and witchy jewelery and I was able to talk him down 10 dollars. I would, however, still like to know what I'm working with as far as metal or maker goes. I have a feeling some of the stuff on it is aftermarket
Found at a goodwill in wv
I come from a background of mathematics and science in school and a near oppresively Christian household growing up to the point much of my personal interests and the interests my family tried to impose on me left me very unfulfilled in my understanding of either. I've always had a fascination with understanding how things work and both the realms mentioned try to explain that in different ways, but it wasn't until fairly recently I started looking into classical esoteric practices from alchemy to Thelma and overall 'witchy' culture hat i feel ive started to see a happy marriage of the material and metaphysical. I am endlessly fascinated by all aspects of life from art to history to math to theology and relating the intertwined endeavors of all those fields to something like the creation of the Philosophers Stone connects eerily well in my understanding. I was in a bad place for a very long time due to life, medication, so many things I now see as my stage of nigredo in life. And now that those unwanted elements have been shed I feel much more capable of imposing my will into what I want to see happen. Tempering my mind, body and spirit with further learning, further exercise and further freedom to do what I want to do and be what I want to be regardless of, but conscious of, the suppression in my current situation. I am not beholdant to the demands of any will but my own and what I want is to walk upon lead and leave gold in my wake. And ever since viewing the world and myself through this lense I feel as though I am better for it. I was just curious how others saw the study and practice of these aspects and if anyone had similar experiences to myself. I've neglected community for so long but there's no better time to start than now
I picked up a Kindle 7 9th Gen from goodwill for 10 bucks, great condition, and I want to use it for books (and internet if possible) but I want it to forget it's an Amazon product. I want to uninstall whatever it's running on, install something else that won't keep asking me to connect to Amazon and just make it a default tablet that I can fill with pdfs and music like it was a flash drive with a screen. If I can do that without interrupting wifi and Bluetooth because idk how proprietary the hardware is then great, but if I need to sacrifice it with the old OS so I can put my offline books on it than I'll live.
What are the words I use to search for how to do this? It's not a jailbreak but is there a method i can search thats more streamlined than how im making it sound?
Fluid, kinda newly "out" but I'm not telling everyone in my life for the usual reasons. I'm trying to get more comfortable with presenting femme when it feels right with makeup, voice and growing my hair out again. Nail polish has been a staple for a few months now and I'm moving into brighter colors and designs, but I got kinda intimidated at work the other day when a customer was very performatively confused that "a boy had nail polish on" and i played it cool imo but he comes by a lot and the more I push the needle the more risky it feels but the more I want to stay strong
What if, if it comes to it and I get cornered on the transgender thing (stronger possibility in my part of the country) I claim that I'm genetically intersex and try to just overwhelm them with information? It isn't a perfect solution but I feel like if I were to come at them with just overwhelming positivity while I describe androreceptors and karyotypes that would at least get them to stop asking questions if not lighten up. What's the play here?