u/nthverve

I broke up with my ex but am on talking terms still. There is still a lot of disrespect because he is just an immature person who is frustrated in his own life. The most that has bothered me is the talking behind my back and bad mouthing me in front of their friends (my acquaintances). I don’t want to cause any drama so I don’t make a scene as I want a clean break and peace of mind. But no matter how hard I try to create such boundaries I fail at them. I still end up entertaining his calls, or even sometimes inviting him over with other friends just because I want a no drama normal life. But them constantly talking behind my back, calling me names, commenting on several aspects of my life and disrespecting me does not stop. I understand he is frustrated with himself and our break up hit him pretty bad, but our relationship was not going anywhere. I don’t want to talk about him to my friends either because that would further make me think of it as a bigger issue. So how do i 1 ignore their behavior of talking behind my back and 2 implement boundaries without creating a scene/ explicitly telling them that i am not interested in talking anymore.

Edit to add that rereading my post made me realize that me inviting them over or entertaining their calls and wanting to feel normal means that I am still not accepting that in their life I am no longer the priority. I also have a tendency to be in self denial while they get to label the dynamic as a normal interaction and get to label that disrespect as just kidding.

I killed princess gut (without anyone knowing) and Ragzlin (after knocking out Minthara while Minthara was temporarily hostile), so she is unaware of what happens as I think that’s the point, and I should be able to recruit her in Act 2. Before I knock her out, I tell her that I will side with her (Minthara).

My journal got updated as well to killing the three leaders. Is the journal getting updated any indication of her being recruited? I don’t think so because the whole point is she should not be aware and hostile before you kill other leaders. and at this point, it holds true.

so I guess I am just being a little selfish and greedy to wanting to go back to the camp for XP

because when I go back to the camp, I am expecting her (or sazza who I also knocked out) to not be there. did that happen with anyone? That Minthara was disappeared when you go back but she was recruited in act 2 (when leaders are killed, but goblins are still there) ?

i’m trying to get the Sazza trophy and get Minthara recruited. But they both are there at 1 hp - sazza temporarily hostile but minthara’s status does not say temporary hostile.

Can I knock them out again to recruit them? Or do I give up on additional xp and loot?