Considering moving to Lincoln — wondering about racism

Hi! My husband and I are considering moving to Lincoln, and I was hoping to hear from people who actually live there about what the experience is like for people of color.

I’m Indian American, although I grew up outside of Philadelphia in a predominantly white and fairly rural area, so I’m pretty used to being in places that aren’t particularly diverse. My husband is half white and half Persian.

A few of his coworkers have mentioned that Lincoln can be racist, which made us a little concerned. Obviously, I know everyone’s experience is different, and I’m not expecting any town to be completely free of racism. I’m more wondering what it’s actually like day to day.

For other people of color or interracial/multiracial couples who live in Lincoln: have you generally felt comfortable and welcomed there? Have you experienced overt racism, comments, staring, discrimination, etc.? Are there particular areas where you’ve felt more or less comfortable?
We’re genuinely interested in Lincoln and just want to get a realistic sense of what living there would be like before making such a big decision. Thanks!

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u/nycgirlfolife — 1 day ago

Is this a safe neighborhood in Sacramento?

Hi everyone! I’m not from the Sacramento area and I’m currently looking at homes. I recently came across a house in the Churchill Downs/95829 area, near the Elk Grove border, that I really like.
I was hoping to hear from people who actually live in the area or are familiar with it. What is the neighborhood like day to day? Would you consider it a pretty safe and comfortable area to live in? For example, would you generally feel comfortable walking around the neighborhood in the evening around 7–8 p.m.?
I know safety can vary street by street and everyone has a different comfort level, so I’d especially appreciate firsthand experiences rather than just crime statistics.
Also, if there’s anything else someone moving to this part of Sacramento should know—the good or the bad—I’d really appreciate it. Thank you!

u/nycgirlfolife — 4 days ago
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28F could really use some hugs. My 64-year-old diabetic dad is in the hospital with pneumonia one week before my wedding. 🥺

My wedding is next Saturday, and I’m having such a hard time. My dad is 64, diabetic, and he’s in the hospital with pneumonia. The last time he had pneumonia, he ended up on life support, so I’m terrified.

All I want is for my dad to be there on my wedding day and to walk me down the aisle. I’m trying to stay hopeful, but I’m so scared and overwhelmed. I keep thinking about the worst-case scenario, and my heart just hurts.

I know no one can tell me what’s going to happen. I just really need a hug right now. Thank you for listening. ❤️

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u/nycgirlfolife — 2 months ago
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My mom literally told me she “didn’t care” about my wedding and that’s why she hasn’t helped with anything, and honestly I’ve never felt more hurt in my life.

To be fair, she did help pay for our videographer and wedding dress and I’m genuinely very thankful for that and appreciate it so much. But emotionally, she’s acted completely disconnected from the wedding and I feel like I’ve been begging for support and excitement from her since November. She didn’t come to try my white dress with me even though I asked her because she said “she didn’t feel like it”. She also didn’t want to host my bridal shower because she didn’t think it’s that big of a deal, so my sister in law is so sweet and offered to host it for me and I asked my mom to help me with my bridal shower registry and she said she was busy that day, but was sending me photos of her at the dog park. She also told me that she might have to go to another friend’s wedding the day of my bridal shower and said it wouldn’t be a “big deal” if she missed my bridal shower. I’ve just never felt more hurt. 😞

I asked why she waited until the last minute to buy a dress after knowing about the wedding since Thanksgiving, and she responded with “I didn’t care so I didn’t do anything” followed by “I’m not coming.”

I know this probably sounds dramatic, but hearing your own mother say she doesn’t care about your wedding is genuinely one of the most painful things I’ve ever experienced. :(

u/nycgirlfolife — 4 months ago