u/ohjasminee

When I got in my 2026 SEL Sport yesterday (USA) I saw a notification for a recall on the rear middle/center seat belt. Apparently in the event of a crash the seatbelt on that seat might not function properly. Anybody else hear of this? How quickly does Hyundai move in regards to recalls? I don’t use that seat often, (my dog is tethered to the seat buckle behind the driver) but I’d like to have the peace of mind. My schedule is about a month or so out from becoming non-stop busy where I’ll need my car so I’m just trying to prepare lol. TIA!

ETA: this is my first Hyundai, my last car was a 2018 Nissan Rogue leased new and I had maybe two recalls on it in the 8 years I owned it that weren’t nearly as pressing WRT safety. I had a much more normal life schedule wise so taking it in wasn’t a logistical nightmare lol

He spent every single day for the past month texting me.

Our first date he said it takes awhile for him build attraction. That he wanted commitment without the restraints of monogamy—I could give him that, as a married woman. All I asked for was honesty and transparency; he could do whatever he wanted with whomever he wanted, I just wanted to be made aware in the interest of my own sexual health and that of my husband. No details, just a “I met someone and I want to be intimate with them.” That’s it and that’s all.

I also asked him to not hurt my feelings. I offered the same in return.

At the end of that date he asked me for a kiss anyway. I “made him feel comfortable and safe.” Asked me as soon as I got off the train when he could see me again.

Our second date we slept together. Amazing. He kept apologizing for stopping more than once to calm down, something that surprised him.

During and after that date, he told me he really liked me. Held my hand on the way to the train and kissed me sweetly before I left.

Texted good morning every morning. Asked about details of my life, shared details of his. That’s what we both wanted, someone new to be intimate with, to share minutiae and niche interests with.

Our third date had to be cancelled; one of his kids was sick. No worries, they come first, way before me, I promised him that. Rescheduled for today, Friday—we talked about it all week. Looking forward to seeing one another, where we would go for lunch. Wednesday he confirmed around 5pm that we could meet at noon.

Thursday, around 4:30pm. Giddy, because I got let out of work early and saw his name as I was getting my things together to leave—“I I feel terrible about this but I have to tell you something... I really like you but I don't think I can see you 😢
I met someone around the time I met you and she told me she wants an exclusive relationship. I think I'm comfortable with trying it and seeing where that goes...”

Exclusivity. The thing you said you didn’t want anymore. The thing that ended relationships for you in the past because you prefer non-monogamy, the thing I was offering freely.

“It turned serious a few days ago.”

the same few days in which you made these plans with me, said you wanted to see me. Knew I needed a break and was just working for Friday.

“I wasn't really sure about it at first to be honest”

Honesty. One of very few things I asked you for.

And I know it was just a month. But Jesus Christ I am tired. Tired of knowing this feeling, knowing it’s from something bigger than just this one guy. Tired of my life, my very boring, stressful, unsuccessful, monotonous life that craves something new and exciting to feel alive for once. Tired of being sad in the summer, weeks before my birthday. Tired of being authentic and earnest. Tired of sharing my body with people who I thought I could trust, who I thought wouldn’t dispose of me. Tired of being disposable. Tired of being unable to trust my own discernment, to know when to run first to keep myself safe. Tired of being too soft. Tired of having to do this mostly alone because this world is monogamous and the judgment will outweigh the support.

Tired of still wanting non-monogamy. Tired in advance for when this happens again.

I started watching a now 9 month old baby a few months back part time, 24 hours a week. He is extremely busy—very curious, chatty, has been “ottoman surfing” for about a month now and can crawl really fast. It’s like having a toddler with the coordination of a baby. He’s the sweetest thing but this is much more work than I anticipated…and we can’t leave the house. There’s only one car seat in MB’s car. If she leaves to wfh elsewhere (preferred, bc every time NK sees her he gets upset) the car seat goes with her. Or if DB takes her car to work, then all of us are stuck at home.

I’m losing my mind. The dog barks if a blade of grass hits the front door and wakes NK up from naps (and we’re trying to get him on a schedule, but he’s cutting a new tooth every other day so it’s been a struggle). The house is small but the dog is not so his barks carry instantly. My dog doesn’t bark at all so the sound is so overstimulating. There’s only but so many toys I can juggle around him to keep him on the mat and not roaming the open floor plan to bonk his little noggin on something or try to climb something else. He likes the vacuum cleaner but strapping him to my chest and vacuuming more than once would actually break my shoulders. My body is so tired; toddler weight + baby coordination=a full body workout.

There are no parks nearby, no places we can safely walk to for lunch without crossing a really busy road. We have gone on walks in the neighborhood but if it’s not a heatwave like last week it’s raining every day like this week. I have my podcasts that I listen to out loud when he’s awake and in my headphones when he’s sleeping (monitor in my lap) but no adult contact for 8 straight hours. And NK is not spending any time (outside of occasionally with cousins) with other babies or adults that aren’t immediate family. I’ve offered to go grocery shopping with him (and without him, anything to get out of the house) to no avail.

I think MB has PPD, so I’m extremely empathetic. This is the first baby and first grandchild and she’s the eldest daughter so I get it. But I don’t think I’m going to survive seasonal depression and fluctuating wake windows once it starts to get cold. My car is a brand new 2026 Hyundai Kona with a solid safety rating, statistically safer than her 2019 jeep. I have a clean license and no at fault accidents. I really don’t want to go with her to the library so she can wfh because I’m beheld to her still, but I don’t know what else to do. She takes the rest of her mat leave next month and I want to bring up a contract then since we don’t have one, and maybe say something then? Please help me y’all, I’m earnestly at a loss and I can’t afford to quit.

Live from the nursery rocking chair. Almost 8mo is cutting teeth, refusing to nap during the day and is in full wanting only mommy mode. I finally got him to sleep after a morning of fussiness unending bc every time he sees MB (WFH but didn’t get to leave the house to work at family nearby) he’s upset and he’s tired. But he’s sleeping through the night, which is more important in general, imo. Finally got him to sleep and he won’t transfer without screaming bloody murder so no work is getting done today if he gets a good nap in.

And I just feel like a failure lmfao I hate disappointing people because I know there’s other shit around the house I need to do, I hate being trapped by a baby that is so cute and so loved but isn’t mine because I can’t afford one of my own and I hate that I even feel this way. I looked at my grades that just got posted (second degree so don’t go saying I still have time, I most certainly do not have time lmao) and even at the top of my class I won’t be able to work properly for a while and make that “family starting money” so I’m just sad and needed somebody to hear it.

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Went from a 2018 Rogue with an armrest that was cushioned and long for my dog to stand on when she’s looking out the window (only for lower speed local driving. you can’t see in this photo but her leash turns into a seatbelt tether so she is secure, I promise!!!).

Well the 2026 Kona has smooth arm rests that are much shorter and she couldn’t stand without slipping immediately. Picked this up from Amazon for $21 (make sure you check it’s for the correct side of the car) and it worked like a charm. Soft and textured so she can woo everyone in the drive thru once more. Figured I’d share in case someone else is dealing with this issue 😊

Went from a 2018 Rogue with an armrest that was cushioned and long for my dog to stand on when she’s looking out the window (only for lower speed local driving. you can’t see in this photo but her leash turns into a seatbelt tether so she is secure, I promise!!!).

Well the 2026 Kona has smooth arm rests that are much shorter and she couldn’t stand without slipping immediately. Picked this up from Amazon for $21 (make sure you check it’s for the correct side of the car) and it worked like a charm. Soft and textured so she can woo everyone in the drive thru once more. Figured I’d share in case someone else is dealing with this issue 😊 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DL42YPYF?ref=ppx\_pop\_mob\_ap\_share

Went from a 2018 Rogue with an armrest that was cushioned and long for my dog to stand on when she’s looking out the window (only for lower speed local driving. you can’t see in this photo but her leash turns into a seatbelt tether so she is secure, I promise!!!).

Well the 2026 Kona has smooth arm rests that are much shorter and she couldn’t stand without slipping immediately. Picked this up from Amazon for $21 (make sure you check it’s for the correct side of the car) and it worked like a charm. Soft and textured so she can woo everyone in the drive thru once more. Figured I’d share in case someone else is dealing with this issue 😊 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DL42YPYF?ref=ppx\_pop\_mob\_ap\_share

Went from a 2018 Rogue with an armrest that was cushioned and long for my dog to stand on when she’s looking out the window (only for lower speed local driving. you can’t see in this photo but her leash turns into a seatbelt tether so she is secure, I promise!!!).

Well the 2026 Kona has smooth arm rests that are much shorter and she couldn’t stand without slipping immediately. Picked this up from Amazon for $21 (make sure you check it’s for the correct side of the car) and it worked like a charm. Soft and textured so she can woo everyone in the drive thru once more. Figured I’d share in case someone else is dealing with this issue 😊 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DL42YPYF?ref=ppx\_pop\_mob\_ap\_share