u/pantherinthemist

This person plays loud music for hours everyday 4-6 hours a day and it’s audible on many floors. Owner of flat lives below and says nothing because they find it hard to find a tenant and are friends with this man. Also has guests who scream and are very inconsiderate about being in an apartment. The tenant is a man in his 50s or 60s. Divorced so not family just him.

We shouldn’t need laws to have some basic consideration for people. Even the next door building is finding it loud. Why would anyone want to be the person who does this?

I have cracked screen but the phone works fine, and apple will be replacing the screen under apple care+. Apple's online diagnostics said hardware was fine as well. I realise that even so, there might be a chance the official apple repair centre might have to send it to the warehouse to repair.

Support told me I have to turn off find my before sending the phone in. Why is that? On the off-chance that my phone is misplaced, find my is the only way to wipe my data if there is any. English wasn't their first language so they aren't able to explain why it needs to be turned off. They don't need the phone passcode.

I live in a nice building in central Bengaluru. There’s a cultural issue with the people though where certain families are allowed to do things that they ban if others do. Eg. complain if our guests park in a common area but the rule is lifted when they have guests who now park and block areas all day. Same with gym use. People not allowed to have guests in the pool or gym but the tenant who’s in the ‘in’ crowd is a physical therapist/trainer and he’s allowed to have his personal clients in the gym and also locks it. They have a very strong Keralite connection where they sort of adjust rules to suit only the Keralite group that live here. It includes new Keralites who move in. This is all not verbalised but recognisable with the way this group of people treats and behaves with people that aren’t Keralite.

At the moment a neighbour on the third floor plays really deep bass (low frequency is quite loud) on weeknights well into the night. I’ve asked him once at 1am to stop as it was keeping me up and he said he didn’t know and apologised. He’s a retired 50+ single man who has parties almost every other day. But he’s continued to do it and I can hear it floors below. The person who lives directly below him is the landlord and from the same community. I’m surprised they haven’t said anything but was told it’s because they are socially close so they won’t object to his noise making. Their son also sings really loudly with the windows open at anytime of day well into the night and very early morning. The man of the house shouts when working out in the gym and it’s audible two floors above.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? How do you handle this community xenophobia and shifting rules?

I have come across marketing for openhouse after school activities like chess, public speaking, music and robotics for kids under 10.

Does anyone have reviews of the quality of program and teaching?

I (35f) had a friend (33f) since college who lsupported me through a relationship where I was stalked online and harassed and then with dysfunctional and enmeshed family that was affecting my mental health. She had been through similar things. So I felt i really leaned on her.

Then over two years she had developed a crush on her adult student and would tell me about how although he’s engaged, there’s a spark between them. Over time it started to sound like he was being polite but she was sexualising a lot of the interactions. She’d share this with me through hours long messages and voice notes every other week.

Eventually she told him, he rejected her and they continued but she kept showing signs of difficulty around him and he said it’s best they discontinue lessons. I was there for her but didn’t feed the delusion that they were meant to be.

Over the next few months she started sending me 6 hour long messages and voicemails and it started to become a lot to handle with work and life so I’d gently support but not engage as much anymore.

But then when he got married she started to stalk his social circle with a finsta. I knew from the screenshots she was sending me. With a breakdown of how his wife is just the thing he’s used to and nobody celebrated the wedding as much as someone else’s. I pushed back a little saying that it was better for her to focus on why she’s so attached here instead of on the details of this couple’s life as it’s a little invasive to them. I used the word invasive.

Her response was something along the lines of she needed unwavering support, this wasn’t the time for me to tell her that, and that she couldn’t expect real friendship with someone with ‘your kind of upbringing’. She also said she’s in a good place where good people come into her life and that I am no longer that.

I found that so insulting, but let it go and gently told her it was the cyberstalking that I can’t backup and she really doubled down on how shitty my character was that I couldn’t support a friend and that I should have said ‘I’m not in a place to be your friend right now’ instead of pointing out what she’s doing wrong and making her feel bad. And then said the same to me.

I felt really guilty for a long time because she’d been there for me and I couldn’t reciprocate. But also relief that I don’t have to receive those messages anymore or pretend like I’m ok with that sort of behaviour. There’s something about the obsessiveness and length of rumination that was taking away my energy.

AITAH? My life has a lot of dysfunction (from me, from my family) but I couldn’t tolerate her type of dysfunction when she could tolerate mine?

Some additional context: I responded like that to the stalking because she did it to a mutual friend of ours in college when he didn’t want to be with her anymore and went back to his ex. It sucks that he did that but I remember her making fake profiles to stalk the ex. He took advantage of her over years and she wasn’t able to leave because she couldn’t let go of her feelings for him. She has also lied about saying some things about me and said it was him. So I’m not sure how much to believe her about him, and have preferred him as a friend and while I do not like those things he’s done, I rarely bring them up. So I feel like it’s possible I have a double standard here. I’m not sure.

After updating to bevel 3 (I’m on free), the watch app has disappeared.

I tried uninstalling and reinstalling but the watch app is still AWOL.

Does this mean strength builder is no longer in the free tier?