Can build a Meetup community with an LTR partner who won’t/can’t socialize?
I (f 48) want to start another Meetup group… Partially for business purposes, partly for just meeting people and making friends. I’ve run them before… Back then I was single, so it was just me to consider. Now I have a long term partner (48 M). Wonderful guy but shy and SO NOT GOOD with meeting new people. And they are “new” for like 5-10 years!!!!
When you run a Meetup, you essentially build a village and that means iteratively making friends who eventually become framily. That means making your private life a little open to some people and letting them in. I already feel off-putting and semi-invisible because I am a perimenopausal woman with extra weight. How do I build a Meetup when my (enormous, muscled, tattooed… cranky resting face) partner puts out “I don’t like you” vibes when he meets new people because he’s so nervous?
If I wasn’t trying to do a casual social Meetup (fun outings, social events, and intermittent AI game nights) for business purposes (market AI game, sell AI training)… I wouldn’t be as anxious about it… I don’t want to let my partner and all the people helping me with this down.
TLDR… How do I run a Meetup group and make new friends who become framily with a partner who puts out “I don’t like you” vibes?