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How would you feel if your NP and primary partner put your things in the apartment away to make his other partner feel more comfortable (while you were away)

I am the NP

Partner put my things away for NNP

New to ENM

Hey chat

My partner and I have known each other as friends over 12 years and recently started having sex earlier this year. I’m having strong feelings and the dilemma is he is in a poly style relationship and wants to add me as a plus one. I’m not completely against that the issue is his 4yr gf has vetoed my partners last ex.

The question is unrelated but (it gets worse)
We broke up because he told me day 22 of living together that he is going on a date and plans to have sex with brand new person. I’m devastated because he insists that he is poly and I basically had no say. I’m just venting here so bare with me pls

Anyway was this partner insane or is this just normal poly/enm

Is consent needed or is this a free for all

Curious what makes a person NOT ideal for a poly relationship or what have you done or seen others do in a relationship that is not acceptable

Aside from cheating obv

Hi guys I’m new

My partner Melon and I have been officially together for less than a month and he’s actively on dating apps and telling me he will move forward to dating/ having sex. I’m confused because we have already know each others families and talked about marriage etc etc (we’ve basically been arranged to marry from our parents since we grew up together) I’m in love with him and have no plans to try to find someone new. He seems active and ready to continue looking. Should I be worried or is this just normal

New to poly and I have a question

Hello all I am new and have a question. I am moving in with my partner and he wants me to agree to move out when he sees his other partner who comes every month or so for a week, sometimes 2 weeks out of the month etc. I’m not in a position where that’s possible.

Examples 6 days August
15 days November
All major holidays

I’ve been with my partner Egg for 1.5 years and Apple has been with him long distance 4 years. Egg claims they are non escalating (we’re DADT) Apple has another partner of 4 years Grape including a 3rd for 2 years Lemon.

Apple vetoed Egg’s ex Tortilla last year, but Egg still claims there is no hierarchy.

Apple has a pattern of entitlement, and constantly ask Egg for updates when we are on bad terms. She pretends to like me however her actions are absolutely heinous. (The last time she came over she left a card from him to her in my drawer as a sign of territory)

My question is how many minutes are on the timer until this bomb explodes?

Is this a normal and healthy way of starting a polyamorous relationship?