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I recently lost my father, thanks to my current job I’m able to spend time with my mom in Chennai. But eventually in my career I would be forced to relocate to Bangalore or Mumbai.

My parents just built an Independent house in the Thiruverkadu suburb area which was their lifelong dream and unfortunately my father couldn’t even enjoy it. My mother insists she wants to live there until she has strength in her to take care of an independent house.

I grew up in a tiny 600 sqft apartment with a lot of people, I don’t know if I’m being paranoid or are individual houses unsafe for elderly woman in her 60s.

For those of you who live away from your single mother especially those in individual houses how do you ensure their safety and well-being?

If you live in another city or abroad while your parent stays alone, what measures do you take to keep them safe? Do you use CCTV cameras, emergency alert systems, regular check-ins, trusted neighbors, or any other arrangements?

I lost my father to cardiac arrest 20 days ago. The day before his passing he had symptoms of terrible heartburn. I told him specifically that heartburn is a symptom of heart attack, I asked him to go to a hospital just to be safe along with my mom as I left for the work.

When I returned back home I realised he didn’t visit the hospital, I told him let’s go right now, which he refused…so I called the family doctor to inform him about this situation. My father brushed it aside as heartburn (Family doctor is a relative as well and my father had history of heartburn) so the doctor asked him to just take the tablets and visit him later.

My father was travelling alone to a different city the very next day, my mom asked him to cancel his plans since he wasn’t feeling well, again my father refused.

He passed away due to cardiac arrest during the journey.

He clearly had symptoms, if he had taken his symptoms seriously, opened up to anyone, listened to his son or his wife. He would have been alive now. All this pain and suffering could have been prevented if and if only my father did what I asked him to do.

Even during the journey he could have been saved if he decided to halt at the big city when he felt uneasy, instead he decided to travel back to my city and passed away at a town which had no proper medical facility.

He would be alive if he decided to trust someone around him than his own judgement, view and opinions. I should have probably fought with him and forced him to visit the hospital. I trusted the family doctor who was another old aged person with conservative thoughts who couldn’t take my words seriously.

Reading how preventable this was makes me even more sad, devastated and angry.

At the age of 31 I lost my father, the support of my family and person who was always when I was going through difficult times.

Hello Makkale, I’m planning to sell my old car to a distant relative in Chennai itself. It’s a 2008 WagonR model so the sale is just for a nominal value plus I’m selling it to a relative.

My main concern is I have work and I can’t afford to waste a day at RTO for this transaction. I was told they just need my signature.

Question is do I have to go to RTO? What would be asked from me for this sale? And finally do I have to show the RTO how much I got paid for this sale?

Thanks in advance.

My father passed away couple of weeks back due to sudden cardiac arrest, he never shared his finances with anyone. So we are going through the process of finding out his bank accounts and closing them.

We found out he has an active account in Indian bank, but it has recurring NEFT credit of 2k each month from a SBIN. There isn’t much information and the bank officials don’t know where it’s coming from either.

Would it be possible to know where exactly is this credit coming from before we close the account?

I applied in R2, I was waitlisted and subsequently admitted a week ago. My father passed away couple of weeks ago and I’m going through a lot of legal formalities with respect to his passing as well as I’m the only child to my parents. It would be impossible for me to release funds from my father’s bank accounts or arrange for an education loan without completing the legal process.

Given my circumstances I requested a call with LBS Adcom team and explained my situation to them. They outright rejected my deferral request. I even offered to pay the £2k+£8k commitment and reservation fee upfront. They still denied my request.

Post conversation I received a mail from the Adcom member that I’m being marked as “declined” in their system when I didn’t explicitly decline the offer and I have time till July 5th to consider other options if I want to join.

Is this normal? It feels absolutely weird when my situation was genuine, I could have provided supporting documents from lawyers and notaries to prove my case.

I had spoke to few alums and current students who got deferral for various reasons such as being unable to process loan in the required time, having a sick family member, moving to a new country. They encouraged me to ask for a deferral and said LBS adcoms would be extremely understanding and helpful. They were given an opportunity to be heard, submit essays before getting a decision on their deferral request. I was denied outright over the call and subsequently over the email.

Is there anything I can do about it in this situation?

Edit: I’m an International so visa process would be time consuming as well.

We have Persian Immortals, Carthage’s Sacred Bands, Rome’s Praetorian Guards recorded in the history as elite forces the empires.

Did ancient Indian kings have such elite forces?

I only know about Velaikara Padai of Cholas but it’s from Medieval period.

I realised a lot of people who are in relationships and marriages are actually in strategic partnerships which are transactional in nature.

My friends from high school were dating each other from their UG. They are both nice people, after UG they moved to UK for Masters. After Masters the girl was able to find a job which sponsored her, guy couldn’t find sponsorship (He was way more qualified than the girl, he was particular about working in field he was passionate about) so he had to leave back to India after his PSW Visa.

The girl refused to move back to India to stay with him, he tried his best to convince her that they can move back later and start a business in UK (He comes from a wealthy background) but she didn’t want to leave the country.

After he moved back they were still exploring options to get back together in UK including spousal visa. All of a sudden she became distant and ended the relationship. Got to know later she started dating a 40+ white guy even though she was in her late 20s. And now because of the Nigel Farage is threatening to end ILR she even decided to get married to him.

I’m still friends with both of them and we have a lot of mutual friends. I respect people’s personal decisions but it’s pretty evident how people are opportunistic like businesses. I was absolutely shocked to know how many of our friends were supporting her by saying “Focus on yourself, he doesn’t want good for you, let go of the guy because he couldn’t support you” even though the guy was the one who was paying most of their expenses during University days.

It’s not just this one off story, I know another classmate who ghosted his gf of years because his parents found him a richer and better looking girl. So many stories of people ditching their love, partner because they want something better or want someone who offers them what they need at that point of life.

All these relationships and marriages feel more like strategic partnerships rather than true love, not denying true love exists, if you find someone who loves you for who you are and will fight for you till the end you absolutely hit a jackpot and cherish them forever.

I’m not in legal field so I have no idea how this works, sometime when we google we find old cases against a particular company or individual online.

Recently there was a company which was shutdown and its directors arrested for defrauding their investors. I personally know one of the directors and it was shocking to me so I would like to know the facts of the case. Is there any website from where I can find the relevant case details?

I’m single and in early 30s all my friends are married and they sometimes do couple dates and dinners. So my has been pretty boring in past couple of years, when I was discussing this with a senior (40+). He said something like society views unmarried 30+ as social rejects.

He said if you add sugar to a glass of water, sugar would dissolve and only impurities settle at the bottom, society thinks of unmarried people in their 30s the same way. He was like I’m not judging you but that’s pretty much how everyone will start looking at you and treating you.

I don’t even know what to think, one hand it’s offensive and an old school thought. On the other hand some people do treat unmarried men and women differently.

So what are your thoughts?