u/pococurantina

Everyone talks about wanting to see Hall vs Christine or Bre, but I think only Jarvis had enough brains and coldness to actually bring her down.

I miss Jarvis! She stood up to Hall’s stupid lies and childish attempts at manipulation, and she kept her cool. Plus she was so dignified!

(Yes I know her political views. No I don’t agree with her. Yes I believe you can be politically in the wrong and still be intelligent and educated)

This is fully just a rant because I’m feeling sorry for myself.

I tend to eat larger portions than most people, which was never a problem until this hellish heartburn started. Yesterday I ate my last meal at 2pm, it was a large portion of light food. I had heartburn all the remainder of the day, and eventually vomited at 11pm. Nine hours and I hadn’t even finished digesting my salad! A salad!!

I’m not even done with my second trimester and I already have to dance around this issue and be so so careful what I eat and can’t eat too much.

I don’t know how I’m supposed to have any kind of emotional stability when I’m already hormonal and now I’m adding being hungry all day.

Ugh!!

I have two options for bathroom cabinets (4 bathrooms, 4 cabinets total) and I can’t make up my mind. Hopefully you wonderful ladies can help ❤️

My concerns are: effort, timing and budget (in that order).

Here are the options.

1. Ready made cabinets:
   Will be cheaper and faster.
   But there’s less personalization, and for each bathroom I’ll probably have to choose a different model (takes time and energy).
   I’ll pay less and have them quicker, but I’ll like them less, they’ll be less comfortable and I’ll likely have to spend a considerable amount of time choosing them for each bathroom.

2. Custom:
   More expensive (not much, about 1,5 times the price of ready-made), but will take about 2 months to make. So for a few weeks we’ll be living without bathroom sinks (no cabinet= nowhere to put the sink) and we’ll have to wash our hands in the shower/bath.
   We’ll deal with it, but we have clients in our office so it would be awkward for them.
   We can choose any setup we want, but the available materials are not anything incredibly beautiful.
   The functionality would be more tailored to us, but they’d look pretty much the same as from a store (I don’t want to overpay for something that looks normal).
   But it would be convenient to choose one finish for all the cabinets and order them from one place.

So that’s my dilemma. I would appreciate opinions ❤️

PS If you’re interested in why I’m valuing effort first, it’s because I’m pregnant and my baby just started kicking 😍 very hard for me to care about my bathroom cabinets anymore 🫣

Girlies help because I’m not sure what I’m feeling. I do have gas and I can hear it gurgling and feel it in my belly, but I also have this other feeling.

It’s like a little boom and I can feel it with my hand on my stomach, my husband can feel it too sometimes.

Am I crazy or is that baby kicks? I’m 23 weeks, but I have an anterior placenta, so my doctors said it could still be a while before I feel anything…

This is my first pregnancy so I have no idea!! 🫣

I’ll try again tomorrow 😅

Mild annoyance here. Saw my friend recently - she’s very anti-child, has complained to me about her friends who are parents (because their home was a mess), and is adamant she will never have kids. She does however have several cats, one she adopted very recently.

We chatted for a moment and she told me about how difficult it’s been for her when one cat got sick. And when she introduced her newest cat to the apartment, she had to keep the other ones separate for a while. She said she kept hearing the other cats meowing in the other room and her heart was breaking for them.

All this I fully sympathise with. But then she started saying she never expected to care for cats that much, that she now understood how it felt to be a mother, and even started telling me, from a place of experience, what MY motherhood will be like based on her relationship with her cats…

Girlies I bit my tongue so hard. Is this just hormones or am I right to be annoyed?

I always struggled with bladder control and had many embarrassing moments growing up. It took a lot of work over the years to get myself to a state where I could go to a party without wearing a pad “just in case I laugh too hard”.

Now that I’m pregnant, it’s back to not great. Sneezing, coughing, vomiting, laughing, all risky.

I’m reading that it will probably get even worse post partum. But in my teens, I was told by a doctor that women who experience incontinence before pregnancy are often “cured” by pregnancy and labor. Have any of you experienced this?

I assumed babies typically sleep in a separate room (the nursery) and the parents use a baby monitor to hear if the baby is fussing. But I met with my friends who have an 8 month old and they said he’s still too little to be left to sleep alone, he sleeps in their bedroom.

What did you do with your babies? What are your plans for this one?

And if the baby is supposed to sleep in my bedroom, then why do I need a nursery?

As I’m sitting here in my office, feeling uterus cramps every few minutes because my baby is going through a second trimester growth spurt, I’m reminded of how I used to only get period cramps for like 2 days a month and could take painkillers for them. I was so looking forward to at least not getting my period! Ah well…

In the beginning of 2024, my mum called to tell me her routine ultrasound revealed a 90% chance of cancer.

We went through hell for two weeks waiting for the biopsy results. The day before they were to come, it was my second wedding anniversary. My husband and I sat in a restaurant, trying to pretend it was normal, trying not to cry, knowing what was coming tomorrow. And then, there it was. Cancer.

My world fell apart. We’d had cancer in the family before, we knew how it ended. Even if you’re cured, fine for several years, the beast will come back and claim you eventually.

I was devastated to think about all the things she would miss. Why hadn’t I gotten pregnant before? Now she might not live to become a grandmother…

I have an autoimmune disorder of the thyroid and the stress of my mum going through chemo put me in hyperthyroidism. Took me until the summer to balance the hormones and be able to ask my doctor: how should I go about starting trying for a baby?

The answer? “You’ll need to have surgery to remove your thyroid first. With your illness, it would be difficult to get pregnant and you’d risk miscarriage.” I was shocked. For years we had been discussing the possibility of this surgery, as well as my desire to have children, and yet it was only now that they were telling me it was a necessity.

Well, fine. I went to the hospital and got a surgery date - summer 2025 (almost a year of waiting). But the doctor said, call me on tuesdays around 7pm, I’ll see if an earlier slot opened up for you.

For two months I called the doctor every week. I had an alarm in my phone. Finally at the end of september I got the news - in two days, it’s my turn.

Around that time, my mum was finishing chemo and getting surgery to remove the breast which betrayed her. She wanted both removed - “I don’t like them anymore” but they said it would be too hard on her body, too much blood loss.

I’ll never forget how I felt when it dawned on me that my mum was okay. Her chemo was successful, her surgery was successful, every screening came back negative.

Took me months to bring my hormones back to normal after removing my thyroid. Then months of trying to conceive.

In february 2026, two days before my fourth wedding anniversary, I took a test and saw a second stripe. I drove to get a blood test right away. Then sat in my office refreshing the results page every 15 minutes until 12:30, when it finally came. I called my husband first, and then immediately my mum.

Now here we are. I’m 4 months pregnant and my mum is with me still. I can tell her about my morning sickness and heartburn, and she’s helping me pick out names. I will never stop being grateful that I can go through this pregnancy with her by my side. And if all goes as well as it’s been going, she’ll not only meet my children, she’ll manage to get tired of them ❤️

I tell you I have vomited before my pregnancy but the loudness of the retching is on a whole new level now. My husband can hear me through two doors and noise cancelling headphones.

Anyone else so loud?

I’m so happy!!

In Poland you can take sick leave for the entire duration of your pregnancy. The government pays your full salary. I stuck it out for 4 months to set up my office to work without me, pass on my duties. But starting June 1st, I will be taking my sick leave. I’m due in October.

Friends I am so excited! I will get to spend more time with my husband, fully take care of my health, go to pregnancy exercise classes, get some maternity clothes, sleep when I need to, eat when I need to, go on a walk in the sun… We’ll get to have a lovely summer together just the two of us before the baby comes.

What are you excited for in your journey? ❤️

Look I’m really thrilled to be getting big. I’m 18 weeks today and I’m so happy with my big belly.

However, when I look at the stats, my uterus is supposed to be about the size of a small melon or large sweet potato. But my belly has gained a lot more volume than that! I look like a swallowed a whole roast chicken.

I doubt it’s fat tissue, because my belly has only really grown in the last 2-3 weeks and my diet cannot possibly account for such weight gain in such a short time.

So where’s this huge bump coming from?

(Bonus points for joking answers because I feel like there’s really not much mystery here beyond “there’s a baby in you” haha)

Do you think it would be a good idea to have a pinned post with a list of pregnancy related acronyms people frequently use?

Every day I see posts with acronyms and I have to put on my Sherlock hat to deduce from context what they mean. FTM, GD, BH, BO, LO, DH… Sometimes even a google search doesn’t help!

Maybe it’s obvious for the native speakers of English who are the majority here, but I’m racking my brain!

Due to my poor retina health, I am not allowed to give birth vaginally. Must be a c-section.

I’ve been wondering how does it work?

Do they schedule you weeks ahead of time and you just show up like hello I’m here for my appointment?

Or do you wait until birth starts naturally, turn up at the emergency room and inform the hospital that you need a c-section?

Or does it depend on how your baby grows?

Also, this is probably more hospital-specific, but will they respect a note from my eye doctor or will they try to convince me to “at least try naturally”?

Any stories appreciated!

My mum has always been very… particular about people’s bodies. I was always told to watch my weight (normal BMI for most of my life, overweight for the last few years), to eat less sugar (admittedly I did eat too much of it). One time I wished her a happy birthday and hugged her, and her response was to hold my waist and say “You’re too fat”.

All this I’ve swallowed - I know she loves me and cares for me, she just can’t help herself. My husband loves how I look and compliments me a lot. Therapy also helps.

However, there were two instances lately where it was just unnecessary… First, I told her, hoping that she’d be proud of me, that I only gained 1,5kg (3,3 pounds) in my first trimester. She answered “you shouldn’t have gained any weight at all”. Then last weekend I came over, and she asked if I was showing already. I proudly showed her my rounded tummy and she said, “well I saw that but I didn’t know if it was the pregnancy or you gained weight”.

I really thought she would pause the weight talk when I’m pregnant, since I’m obviously going to gain weight and have a big belly. She’s so excited for her grandson and I know she loves me very much, but I guess the fatphobia runs deeper than I expected.

My dear future mothers and parents, if you have someone in your life who treats you like this, who can’t help but hurt your feelings, I’m with you. You can’t choose every person in your life. And I understand if you don’t want to cut that person off. Shrug it off. Sending love ❤️

I wanted to gift my nephew Metro 2033 for his 10th birthday but from previous posts I can see it would be too mature.

So I’m looking for more age appropriate recommendations - he likes video games and scrolling on his phone, so I’m hoping to increase his interest in reading by giving him something cool, maybe sci-fi, maybe some darker themes but not enough to make him scared to sleep alone.

Any recommendations would be much appreciated!

(He only speaks Polish, so for books in other languages I’d try to find a translation)