u/projectgetbetter

Hello.

I’m seeing these signs increasingly pop-up at the meat section at multiple halal grocery stores.

Can anyone explain the difference to me?

I asked the salesperson who told me that the halal machine cut is completely slaughtered by a machine, there is no human involvement whatsoever. I had heard of it before, however I always believed it’s slaughtered by a human but processed/butchered by machine. But from what the salesperson told me, this won’t be halal since there is no human involvement at any stage of the meat preparation.

I’ve been talking to a girl for the past three months. She came thru an aunt’s relative. She came to my city a couple weeks ago to meet a friend, and we met up twice. In the first meet, my parents were also present. The second meet it was just me and her. Her parents are also involved in the process and my mom has talked to her mom a couple of times, and when they come to States later this year there will be a meeting with both sides of parents and whoever else from immediate siblings might be present. In the meanwhile, my mom wants us to keep talking and get to know each other.

The problem is I don’t like girls. It’s not that I don’t like her, I just don’t like girls. I hope you all understand what I’m implying here. My mom is aware of this, as the issue of my marriage has been pushed multiple times. Especially now that all my siblings have gotten married, I’m being told it’s high time I get married too. Mom thinks it’s all in my head and pushing me to talk to the girl.

I’m not sure how a marriage would work for me. I’ve read enough horror stories here where wives are complaining that their husbands can’t ’satisfy’ them. I’m genuinely worried. The whole physical intimacy doesn’t really entice or excite me at all. Having said that, I do want companionship. I want to have someone to come home to. I want to go out on dates. I want to be able to sit down on a table with my spouse and family, have family dinners. I even want kids in the picture. I want the white picket fence and all the silly things that come with it. But obviously I’m not interested at all in a certain activity. Am I being extremely stupid in continuing to talk to her?

My mom becomes extremely sad and depressed whenever the whole marriage talk happens, and I tell her I’m not interested in getting married. She says all my siblings will become busy with their lives, and they will have kids. I’ll be alone, and it’s not a healthy mindset to be. I’d rather die than admit I’m scared of being alone at times too, it will just make her anxiety worse. I’ve only shared this with my younger sister who is telling me to do what I think is correct. She’s mostly supportive. Mom has shared this information about me with my dad and older sister. Dad is in the same boat as mom, but hasn’t brought it up much other than he’s present when the talk happens and agrees with what my mom is saying. He says stuff like marriage is a normal part of life, single people are miserable and I will be all alone as siblings will get busy with their own families. My other sister thinks this is a “test”, and I need to overcome this which frankly I consider not really accurate. Yes, they are aware of the whole situation.

Personally I wanted to end it after the meet, and I know how devastating it would be for anyone. She is a fantastic person, and tbh the problem isn’t even her. It’s me. I’m the problem in this equation. I don’t want her to feel like crap about herself. What should I do here?

Do I just turn her down and move on?, do I tell her about the whole situation and then let her make the decision? If so, how?

My mom feels the latter is a valid solution. I think it’s absolute nonsense. She took a khula in her previous marriage as her husband and in-laws started giving her trouble when it came time for her immigration and were against her studying/working once she gets to US. I think she’s already been thru hell before, why would she willingly step into a rocky situation again?

My mom thinks I’m making a mountain out of a molehill, because I grew up watching TV shows like Friends and Big Bang Theory. Most couples aren’t always at it. There are a lot of other moving parts when it comes to making a marriage work.

Additionally the aunt I talked about previously, she REALLY wants this to work out. She doesn’t know about my situation but she asks mom for an update whenever they meet or talk on the phone. My aunt has suggested multiple proposals before, but she’s super interested in this one as she also likes her a lot, and think we will be a good fit. My mom is under pressure from her too regarding this proposal.

Like I said before, I do want a spouse. I have spoken to a couple of girls who are in similar situation but there was just too much incompatibility. They were either too young, or only wanted a cover in front of families and will live separately with their romantic interest, or don’t want kids, not even adoption. I’m also highly doubtful if two people can stick together thru thick and thin just because of societal norms and expectations.

I’m feeling extremely lost and doubtful about the whole situation, I genuinely do not know what to do. I don’t want to keep dragging it on, but I don’t know how to end it and not make her feel like she’s unworthy. What should I do?

I played WoW very briefly but Tauren were my go to Horde choice. I had a Tauren shaman and a Tauren warrior, which were pretty standard by all means. But I really loved their design and fantasy. I don’t think Goatkin quite scratch the itch I have.

My only goat faction is a funny recreation of Soraka from League of Legends. Goatkin, ratkin and Insectoid are my least used forms.

Seeing Owlkin in the new expansion has me excited and hopeful that we may get proper Tauren some day. Fingers crossed!