I’m just curious about the length of the adjustment period. I just started 150mg Wellbutrin yesterday, in addition to 20mg of lexapro which I’ve been on for a year or so.
My doctor advised to wait a week and see how I feel, and if it’s not helping she said to come back.
Pretty standard, but a week seems like a very small amount of time to see if I think it’s helping?
I feel like it’s making me more tired than anything.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepkids/s/HfBOMrK7WV
I made a post a few days ago, regarding my relationship with my dad and how his wife had been affecting things.
So apparently I posted this without fully understanding. My dad has been speaking to her about doing things just him and I, specifically this tattoo. I had texted him “is she coming?” And he knew immediately that I didn’t want her to, but she saw the text and lost her shit.
He didn’t go into too much detail, but it was apparently quite the blowout, I don’t even understand why. My dad and I have been planning this since before I was even old enough for tattoos. This has never and will never have anything to do with her.
I think he just feels at a loss at this point, he believes this is just how it’s going to be. I said that’s absolutely insane, she has her own children to spend time with. (One of which, by the way is still actually a child and I’m sure he would love to spend time with his mother as well.)
I am so lost and frustrated and annoyed and just all of the negative feelings about this.
It’s nice to hear that my dad is making an effort, but at the end of the day if she gets mad enough, she gets her way - which is every single time. I don’t know if I can even do anything at this point.
My(f23) dad(m59) met my stepmom(f53) when I was 18. She has always been jealous of our relationship. We used to go on drives, she shut that down. We used to go out to the garage together, she shut that down. We used to just do regular things without her, she shut that down. The first time we lived together, it got so bad I collected my cats and took off to my uncles. My dad eventually followed and we ended up living just the two of us again for a year or so. Needless to say they got back together, got married, and moved in again.
We’ve had hours of discussions revolving this issue, that it’ll be okay we are father and daughter the relationships are different, she’s working through it-all excuses.
Since this happened, I’ve left to live with my boyfriend’s family. Thankfully, there is no clear and simple strain on our relationship. I get along with my dad, I’ve been closest to him for my entire life. Since she’s come around, nothing is the same. She claims to have been to therapy, working on herself etc, but to me it just seems like she’s getting better at hiding her intentions.
Regular Facebook posts about the “bonus dad” to her kids, with no mention of me.
I see my dad almost every weekend for breakfast, and she is always there. I don’t feel right about asking her not to come, because she will react very negatively and it’s just not worth it.
Most recently, my dad and I made a plan to get a tattoo together. Something we’ve been discussing for years. We finally made the appointment for us to do something together.. and then I get a text. He’s invited her.
I’m just so exhausted and done with trying to maintain this relationship while she’s actively trying to steer him the other way. My dad is not a fighter, if something is upsetting her he just won’t do it. Apparently that includes spending time with me.
Should I even continue trying to mend this? Or just accept it for what it is?
My(f23) dad(m59) met my stepmom(f53) when I was 18. She has always been jealous of our relationship. We used to go on drives, she shut that down. We used to go out to the garage together, she shut that down. We used to just do regular things without her, she shut that down. The first time we lived together, it got so bad I collected my cats and took off to my uncles. My dad eventually followed and we ended up living just the two of us again for a year or so. Needless to say they got back together, got married, and moved in again.
We’ve had hours of discussions revolving this issue, that it’ll be okay we are father and daughter the relationships are different, she’s working through it-all excuses.
Since this happened, I’ve left to live with my boyfriend’s family. Thankfully, there is no clear and simple strain on our relationship. I get along with my dad, I’ve been closest to him for my entire life. Since she’s come around, nothing is the same. She claims to have been to therapy, working on herself etc, but to me it just seems like she’s getting better at hiding her intentions.
Regular Facebook posts about the “bonus dad” to her kids, with no mention of me.
I see my dad almost every weekend for breakfast, and she is always there. I don’t feel right about asking her not to come, because she will react very negatively and it’s just not worth it.
Most recently, my dad and I made a plan to get a tattoo together. Something we’ve been discussing for years. We finally made the appointment for us to do something together.. and then I get a text. He’s invited her.
I’m just so exhausted and done with trying to maintain this relationship while she’s actively trying to steer him the other way. My dad is not a fighter, if something is upsetting her he just won’t do it. Apparently that includes spending time with me.
Should I even continue trying to mend this? Or just accept it for what it is?
My(f23) dad(m59) met my stepmom(f53) when I was 18. She has always been jealous of our relationship. We used to go on drives, she shut that down. We used to go out to the garage together, she shut that down. We used to just do regular things without her, she shut that down. The first time we lived together, it got so bad I collected my cats and took off to my uncles. My dad eventually followed and we ended up living just the two of us again for a year or so. Needless to say they got back together, got married, and moved in again.
We’ve had hours of discussions revolving this issue, that it’ll be okay we are father and daughter the relationships are different, she’s working through it-all excuses.
Since this happened, I’ve left to live with my boyfriend’s family. Thankfully, there is no clear and simple strain on our relationship. I get along with my dad, I’ve been closest to him for my entire life. Since she’s come around, nothing is the same. She claims to have been to therapy, working on herself etc, but to me it just seems like she’s getting better at hiding her intentions.
Regular Facebook posts about the “bonus dad” to her kids, with no mention of me.
I see my dad almost every weekend for breakfast, and she is always there. I don’t feel right about asking her not to come, because she will react very negatively and it’s just not worth it.
Most recently, my dad and I made a plan to get a tattoo together. Something we’ve been discussing for years. We finally made the appointment for us to do something together.. and then I get a text. He’s invited her.
I’m just so exhausted and done with trying to maintain this relationship while she’s actively trying to steer him the other way. My dad is not a fighter, if something is upsetting her he just won’t do it. Apparently that includes spending time with me.
Should I even continue trying to mend this? Or just accept it for what it is?