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Ik heb wisselende ervaringen met kappers gehad, maar voor mijn werk ben ik (deels) afhankelijk van mijn uiterlijk (nee geen onlyfans😆). Ik heb semi lang haar en nu al paar keer een slechte knipbeurt gehad of bij een barbier gezeten waar ik me als dertiger te oud en niet op mijn gemak voelde.

Is er in Deventer een kapper voor mannen die jullie zouden aanbevelen?

My Orbea Terra race comes with a 27.2 mm seat post, which doesn’t really work very well. The saddle tilt adjustment is too lose and moves during riding.

I’m looking for a solid option:
\- 27.2 mm carbon seat post
\- easy and good saddle angle adjustment
\- 20 mm offset.

Preference for a Matt carbon look, not too heavy and up to 150 euro/dollars. Any good recommendations?

My sister got a dog two years ago, which is medium sized and very active. I have a 7 year old daughter with a (small) brain disfunction, with one of the symptoms being that she’s very scared of animals. She gets therapy for this, but it’s a long and slow process.

Ever since my sister got her dog, this has been an difficult situation in family gatherings. When the dog was still pup, my sister said that she can’t put him in a bench or leave him alone for long. Which I thought was understandable. My daughter sat on my lap (very stressed) or played upstairs the first few family gatherings.

Last years Christmas, we made the plan that the dog with sit in the bench the first part of the evening. Then my daughter would go play upstairs so the dog could walk freely for a while and then would go in the bench again. After 30 minutes, my brother in law said “I feel sorry for the dog” and let it out of the bench, leaving my kid screaming and crying.

After that, every family meeting is a whole discussion about how to handle this, but it always end up with my and my wife sitting with our stressed daughter and not enjoying the day at all.

Now my mothers birthday comes up, and my sister proposes that my daughter plays upstairs, and the dog can go in the garage during cake time and on a leash during diner.

I asked if the dog can’t stay home or go to someone else for the afternoon, but apparently that was very difficult.

The rest of the family just say “yes it’s a very difficult situation” but doesn’t give any opinion or try to remedy the situation. For me it feels like they rather have the dog there then my whole family or that it is okay for me, my wife and my daughter to be stressed the whole day.

So I decided to not go to the birthday party. I told them that I’m not going because the situation just won’t work, and it’s not okay for us. My parents, sister and brother are saying yes it’s a difficult situation but also act like we’re being too dramatic and are overreacting.

Started today, but getting home after work I struggled with a strong urge to look up a specific porn actress.

I typed in the name, but then quickly deleted the search tab. It really surprised me how fast the urge came on. Is it habit? Is it harder the first few days?

I’ve been watching porn for over 20 years, multiple times a time. It’s been a constant in my life. I’m lucky I never had the urge to go into extreme forms, but it’s an issue non the less.

Today, my wife saw some of my watch history. She knows I struggle with it, but it was hard for her.

Now, I found this sub and it inspired me to start over. I need to change. But, where do I start? Just quitting never work longer for me than a few days. There’s also something lurking in the back of my mind “just do it a little less but remember how hot that new girl is? Just a little is fine”.

And finally; I’m expecting people to react here with “don’t be such a loser” and “you can only fix yourself if this and that”.

Excuse my ramblings. What I’m trying to say is; i realize i have a problem. Now what?

I’ve been working at a new job for 3 months now and I really enjoy it.

Last week, I had my first progress/evaluation talk. Overall I’m learning well and doing my core tasks adequately.

The feedback that I got was that I can be too “present”. Example were things like talking trough a conversation cause I want to add something, shouting from across the room, making a joke when it’s not very handy or leaving a little mess after doing a job. I do recognize those points, it comes from my adhd enthusiasm and wanting to help, by it disrupts the store and business sometimes.

They’ve explained to me how I can adjust and they were constructive and reasonable. I think they are lots of things I can improve and I know how I can be a bit more professional.

But now, adhd brain is freaking out over the weekend. I feel like everyone on the job dislikes me, that I’m not good enough, that I’m so annoying the can’t stand me. I’m mentally destroying myself, thinking that I’m going to loose my awesome job. If I’m overreacting, can please someone talk soms sense into me 😭

Hi all, hope it’s okay to ask this question here.

I (male, 38) work as a bikefitter in a small bike shop and also see female clients on a weekly basis. The bikefit process involve a lot of touching, measuring feeling (no private areas of course) and looking. During my training, I learned always to ask first if I can touch him or her; which I normally do. I always ask/say something like “are you okay if I put my hand on your back?” Or “don’t be alarmed, I’m going to grab your foot now”. To get good results, someone has to be comfortable and give me feedback on what they are feeling.

Still, sometimes I struggle ho to work with women and make them feel comfortable. Nothing weird/wrong ever happened, got no complaints or negative feedback, but I still feel like there’s room for improvement. Asking a woman if I can touch them sometimes feels like it just emphasizes the physical part making it more awkward.

Of course, it’s different for everyone what is okay/not okay for them. How can I the right approach for someone? Any insight or experience someone wants to share?