u/ramsey2425

My (45f) 16yr old son told me he thinks he’s trans tonight and is even thinking about fully transitioning to a woman. This is just a lot for me hee hah picked out a new make, that is really hard for me. I’m am just not ok with this. I said ask the right things to him. Told him I loved him and that we would find a therapist to help him understand why he is in s as n unbiased way. Told him I support him. But I’m not ok with this. It’s almost midnight where I am and I feel like I’ll never sleep. I wasn’t ok before this. I was looking for a therapist this morning for myself for dealing with him and grief/divorce counseling. I don’t know what I’m asking for here I just nreed help

My mom died in November. Long battle with dementia. My son (9) wants to do something for her birthday. I have no idea what. What did you do for your money first birthday after she died? Or any suggestions would be great. I’m not good at coming up with these things. I still cry at night several nights a week, so it’s still quite hard.

My(f,45) son (m,16) sends to be having an identity crisis. He struggles to make friends with other boys his age, so his best friends are two girls. One is a lesbian and the other was a lesbian but is now trans, they dated shortly. He decided he was gender fluid so he could date her, then they broke up now he is dating his friend that was a lesbian but found him so attractive she decided she’s actually pan. He’s decided on a new name, a gender neutral name (like Jamie but not), it’s on his instagram. He wants to celebrate pride month by going a key chain for book bag.

I’m not worried hes gay or upset over anything like that. This isn’t anti gay. I’m worried he keeps telling his friends this stuff and he is going to alienate them. ( his group of lunch friends and discord chat buddies). And isolate himself. He’s also on the spectrum (asd).

He says he’s a boy and does not want to be a girl or dress like a girl or act like one. He doesn’t want to date boys and doesn’t have any interest in them sexually. He only wants to date girls and adamantly told us he is not gay. So I don’t really understand the gender fluid thing and he couldn’t put it into words for us.

I’m nothing but positive and supportive of his decisions and have never said anything negative. I accept who he is no matter who that is.

Is this just a teen thing treating sexuality like being goth or a skater or jock was in the 90s? Switching in and out of clics trying to find your place?