u/retiredpunkmom

I'm really getting distraught with my job. I love what I actually do and have worked really hard to find this job which is an office manager for a catering company. I love it because in my industry, the food / hospitality world it is extremely hard to find a schedule like this. Monday through Friday, no weekends, evenings or holidays. Before I had this job I managed a minor league baseball stadium food concessions in a rural state which was fun and I learned a lot but I would work 80 hours a week during the season and had extreme mom guilt. My marriage was on the brink and I was always tired. We moved to the city and I got this job and life is better.

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Everything has been going well the last year and half working at this company but it is increasingly getting more and more toxic. My boss, the owner of the company is the ultimate micro manager but he's never in the office. My days usually start with me repeating how we complete tasks throughout the whole company because he either can't remember, cares to remember or wants to find problems. He always steers the conversation and will call as soon as the office opens. He is OBSESSED with procedures and we're constantly rewriting procedures if one little thing doesn't work that day. It is exhausting!

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It has always been like this and I was always willing to look the other way or just deal with it because the schedule for my family is great and the pay is great too. But lately it's been really affecting my mental health and I'm increasingly losing interest and unsure if this position will even benefit my career other than navigating an incredibly negative micromanager. I have told the owner recently that it is not motivating and he's created a negative culture. But it's like talking to a wall because nothing changes.

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And the wild thing is we are a very very successful catering company. There are barely big problems except for the ones the owner creates from a distance. I am going to casually start looking for other similar positions with similar schedules.

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In the meantime any advice? This micromanaging is so toxic and I've had my last straw.

Hi Ithaca! My family will be coming up to your area for vacation July 12-17 from Philadelphia. I have been doing some research on my own but thought it wouldn't hurt to post something here in case anything local is going on that week I may not know. We have a 4 yr old so any kid related things are also a plus! We're into hiking obviously, as well as big foodies, and we were thinking of a boat lake trip as well.

We're open to driving outside of Ithaca for something worth seeing, we've talked about driving to Syracuse for a day trip as well.

Thanks! We're excited to see this beautiful part of NY!

I've always known I had rosacea but was only recently diagnosed officially with type 1. Would love to hear your skincare routines that have helped or any diet changes.

I'm embarrassed to admit this but I only recently started using sunscreen in my routine. My rosacea definitely flared up worse after living at the beach and working at a baseball stadium. I know that's what has made it worse because my skin is so temperature sensitive now. When it's humid, it feels like it's on fire. When it's ice cold outside my skin turns almost purple.