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Am I being unreasonable with my parents, or am I right to keep them at arm's length? (Long post)
I'm a man in my late 30s, married with two young children.
I've had a difficult relationship with my parents for several years. I'm trying to work out whether I'm holding onto something I should let go of, or whether my reluctance to move forward is justified.
A key part of the issue involves my wife. During a previous family conflict, my parents effectively accused her of lying. Even after many discussions, they still maintain that there were "two sides" to what happened and don't appear to understand why that accusation was so damaging. From my perspective, they've never truly acknowledged the impact of their behaviour.
Over the years I've written emails explaining how I felt and what I needed from them. They did respond, but my impression was that they viewed those emails as a chore to get through rather than an opportunity to understand my perspective. More recently, my dad referred to one of these emails as something that had taken hours to write, almost as if the effort itself was the point.
A recurring theme is that they seem far more interested in restoring normal access and contact than understanding why the relationship changed in the first place.
For example, my dad recently questioned why my wife's parents have more access to our children than they do. His view seems to be that they should have equal access because they are grandparents too. My view is that access isn't about fairness or equality; it's about trust, comfort and the quality of the relationship.
A few months ago, after a period of limited contact, my parents met our new baby and saw our older child. The visit was mostly fine, but nothing was really discussed. It felt like we had skipped straight to contact without any deeper understanding.
Afterwards they repeatedly asked to visit again. My wife responded politely and explained that visits would be parent-led and that we would get in touch when we felt ready.
They accepted that response at the time.
However, a few weeks later they turned up at our house unannounced. They were polite and asked if it was okay to come in, so I said yes. During the conversation they expressed concern about my wellbeing and asked whether there was some mental health issue that was preventing me from seeing them more often.
To me, that felt like they were looking for an explanation inside me rather than considering whether their own actions had contributed to the situation.
The other thing I struggle with is that they seem unable to grasp why I'm still affected. In their minds, they've answered my questions, written the emails, and done what was asked. Therefore they don't understand why the relationship hasn't simply gone back to normal.
My problem is that I don't think they'll ever fully understand.
I've spent years wanting them to acknowledge what happened and understand how it affected me, my wife and our family. The more time passes, the more I think that may never happen.
At this point I feel stuck between two positions:
I don't think they're evil people. I think they love me. But I also think they are emotionally limited, defensive and unable to see things from my perspective.
My questions are:
I'm genuinely looking for honest feedback, including if you think I'm part of the problem.
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I'm a man in my late 30s, married with two young children.
I've had a difficult relationship with my parents for several years. I'm trying to work out whether I'm holding onto something I should let go of, or whether my reluctance to move forward is justified.
A key part of the issue involves my wife. During a previous family conflict, my parents effectively accused her of lying. Even after many discussions, they still maintain that there were "two sides" to what happened and don't appear to understand why that accusation was so damaging. From my perspective, they've never truly acknowledged the impact of their behaviour.
Over the years I've written emails explaining how I felt and what I needed from them. They did respond, but my impression was that they viewed those emails as a chore to get through rather than an opportunity to understand my perspective. More recently, my dad referred to one of these emails as something that had taken hours to write, almost as if the effort itself was the point.
A recurring theme is that they seem far more interested in restoring normal access and contact than understanding why the relationship changed in the first place.
For example, my dad recently questioned why my wife's parents have more access to our children than they do. His view seems to be that they should have equal access because they are grandparents too. My view is that access isn't about fairness or equality; it's about trust, comfort and the quality of the relationship.
A few months ago, after a period of limited contact, my parents met our new baby and saw our older child. The visit was mostly fine, but nothing was really discussed. It felt like we had skipped straight to contact without any deeper understanding.
Afterwards they repeatedly asked to visit again. My wife responded politely and explained that visits would be parent-led and that we would get in touch when we felt ready.
They accepted that response at the time.
However, a few weeks later they turned up at our house unannounced. They were polite and asked if it was okay to come in, so I said yes. During the conversation they expressed concern about my wellbeing and asked whether there was some mental health issue that was preventing me from seeing them more often.
To me, that felt like they were looking for an explanation inside me rather than considering whether their own actions had contributed to the situation.
The other thing I struggle with is that they seem unable to grasp why I'm still affected. In their minds, they've answered my questions, written the emails, and done what was asked. Therefore they don't understand why the relationship hasn't simply gone back to normal.
My problem is that I don't think they'll ever fully understand.
I've spent years wanting them to acknowledge what happened and understand how it affected me, my wife and our family. The more time passes, the more I think that may never happen.
At this point I feel stuck between two positions:
I don't think they're evil people. I think they love me. But I also think they are emotionally limited, defensive and unable to see things from my perspective.
My questions are:
I'm genuinely looking for honest feedback, including if you think I'm part of the problem.
Thanks so much for reading and so sorry it's long!!
James.