Hi, my bedding could do with replacement but it's not something to buy second hand lol.
Do y'all have any tips on getting some ethically sourced bedding? I see some products have GOTS certification but it's hard to know if that means very much.
I'm UK based, if that makes any difference.
My gf is leaving for a 3 week holiday on Wednesday. My only chance to see her is Tuesday.
I think breaking up now would give her the holidays to grieve, recover etc with her friend. But I worry it will send her into a spiral and sabotage her preparations
Wasn't just me that heard it right? Sniffs of shite from the west
I am 36M DA with a 35F AP partner of 2.5years. She also has adhd which adds a lot of challenges (iykyk) and is going through a lot with a sick mother.
I have been working a lot on recognising my feelings and voicing them instead of sitting on them and building resentment. Yesterday, my gf was a ball of stress and anxiety and I was catching strays, being blamed for stuff, silent treatment. I sat down with gf and told her "your anxiety has been really bad today, I've tried to be a calm presence, to not feed it but I have been stressed as a consequence".
This resulted in a reaction that I shouldn't have brought this up when she's in an anxious state and what do I want from her? I said she doesn't need to change anything, just a bit of acknowledgement that this is difficult for me to and would she rather I just shut up and sit on my feelings. The end result was her telling me she is so overwhelmed she does not have capacity to worry about my feelings.
That stung and I ended the conversation saying I'm not trying to have an argument and change her mind, she's made her position clear and there's not much more to be gained from talking in loops.
Honestly the lack of basic compassion to me is staggering but I guess I now just need to decide if that's something I can accept or not?
edit to say thanks for the comments and the reality check. For context, this isn't a one-off and I frequently feel like my feelings are an inconvenience in the relationship (when I do express them). But I could have been better in the moment, especially with my timing. I continue to learn better communication and I frequently find this sub to be a good source of support!
I've come to the point where I don't think my 2.5yr relationship with my gf is feasible anymore. It's sad but we just can't seem to get on at all for the last 4-5 months.
My cousin is getting married at the weekend, gf is invited and would be quite excited about it as she loves my family and a wedding. But ofc our relationship issues might bring that down a bit.
Do I just break up now and save her having to pretend in front of my family? Or do we carry on and have a nice-ish time and do it next week?