u/sakemakilove

This is not a pity post or a vent, it’s a genuine question and I’m looking for advice.

I’m a new cosplayer. I’ve cosplayed maybe 6-8 times (all different characters) and I’m honestly thinking about giving up because I’m never satisfied. I cosplay for fun, not for compliments, but I have eyes and I can’t help feeling humiliated looking at my own cosplay pics!

Everytime I’m out of cosplay and I get dolled up (dates, concerts, etc.) I look REALLY good but when I put on a wig and cosplay clothes and do my makeup for the cos, suddenly I look 10x uglier - I have a soft jawline, but it a wayyy more prominent all of a sudden, my make up looks worse somehow and I look like a little kid getting ready for a costume party.

My friends don’t have this issue - their cosplay clothes fit better, they look gorgeous and natural, like the character irl (which is the goal), not someone playing dress-up.

My question - is this something that passes with time? Or should I just give up? Because I’m a confident person but each time I cosplay, I end up feeling insecure rather than happy. :((

I’m 19F, still live with my parents. Recently, I’ve developed something similar to a depression, which is why I’ve been snappy, negative and “lazy”.

My dad has a history of emotional and sometimes physical abuse towards my family, but recently has gotten better… until now. He has started to ignore me in the family gc, say I’m no use to anybody etc. It makes me feel worthless and useless. My own father is bullying me and I’m scared of him. Mom is trying to defend me, but oftentimes also gets mad bc I stay up late, wake up early etc. (depression).

Hi guys. I (19F) am friends with this girl (20F). We met on a trip two years ago and have been friends ever since. I’m not gonna elaborate too much here but I’m in a bad place in life rn where I’m very loneky and she’s my only friend that I see on the regular. I very quickly noticed that she has terrible spending habits.

Planning to move out for uni, a job that doesn’t pay all THAT well but EVERY TIME we hang out, we end up shopping. And when we do, it never stops. It doesn’t end at 100€, not at 200€, not even at 300€. I must’ve spent over 1k just by hanging out with her. She got me into collecting figures and recently into collecting vinyls even tho I never really intended on doing that. I’m bad but not terrible at setting boundaries, however, every time I see her getting soooo much stuff in one day I can’t HELP being influenced.

She always says rhat it’s okay, that we don’t need to always go shopping but that’s what we ALWAYS end up doing. She will actively transfer money from one account into the other just to keep shopping after hitting 0. I wanted to save up for a playstation but recently spent 400€ again. I’m at my wits end.

I’ll keep it short… I F19 got pretty drunk yesterday and there’s a friend (F20) i’m kinda into.. being drunk, i thought it was okay to text explicit stuff. to my surprise, she had smoked a fat joint that day and was feeling pretty wasted too. she was also saying explicit things to me but it was mostly me asking and initiating.

Obviously, I feel super embarrassed now we becase I’ve never done anything like that before and I’m scared I ruined things between us. I apologised but she just said its okay with a smiling emoji. I feel like she’s underreacting and she doesn’t live close to me so i can’t exactly spontaneously see her in person.

I’m also terrified I might’ve pressured her into it and used her inebriated state to make her say explicit things to me (even though i was also drunk. I have ocd lol and now my brain thinks i’m a creep and rhat i secretly wanna sa people.)

anyways, thats it, thanks.