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The girl I love for 5 years threw everything we built away and moved on with the guy I was worried about in 2 weeks. My trust is shattered. I can’t stop replaying everything in my head and wondering how this could happen.

My friend has been telling me she’s been posting him excessively on her Snapchat story. From everything he’s told me, she’s constantly posting pictures of them together, flaunting their new relationship for everyone to see. She’s posting them sleeping over, brushing their teeth together, doing skincare together, riding his motorcyle, and sharing all of these couple things, that less than a month ago, were the things she was doing with me.

She’s been excessively posting him on Instagram too. She blocked my main , but I’ve been looking from an alternate account. She’s constantly posting pictures of them together, flaunting their new relationship. She’s constantly putting this new relationship on display while I’m left dying. I know it’s only hurting me to check, but the images replay in my mind no matter what.

What destroys me the most is that I cant function while my mind constantly replays them together. I cant eat, I can’t enjoy anything, and every minute my mind is filled with images of them sleeping in the same bed, waking up next to each other, brushing their teeth together, doing skincare together, going out together, laughing together, and living the life that, less than a month ago, was ours.

What makes all of this even harder is that I can’t even stomach the thought of being with or talking to another girl right now. I went out with friends and I felt completely repulsed by the idea of anyone else because my heart is still stuck on the person I spent five years with. I can’t imagine being intimate with someone else, building new memories with someone else, or replacing what we had. Meanwhile, from everything I’ve been told and everything I’ve seen, she’s already spending nights with another guy, sleeping with him, brushing their teeth together, doing skincare together, and sharing all of the little everyday couple moments that, less than a month ago, was our life.
I genuinely don’t know how I’m supposed to process being unable to even look at another girl while the person I loved is already doing all of the things we used to do with someone new.

My ex is posting beyond excessively with the guy she’s been dating 2 weeks after we broke up. It feels like every single day there’s another picture, another post. I know checking her social media is hurting me. I know it reopens the wound every time. People keep telling me to stop looking, and logically I understand why.
But emotionally, it doesn’t feel optional. The urge feels like a necessity. It feels like if I don’t look, I’m missing something I have to know, even though every time I check I end up feeling worse. It’s like my brain convinces me that the next post will somehow give me clarity, when all it really gives me is more pain.

What I can’t wrap my head around is why she’s doing this. The amount she’s posting feels so different from the person I knew for five years. I keep thinking, It genuinely doesn’t feel like the same person I built a life with. That’s one of the hardest parts of all of this. I’m not only grieving the relationship I’m grieving the fact that the person I’m seeing now is completely unrecognizable compared to the girl I love. I know I can’t truly know what’s going on in her mind or why she’s making the choices she is making. But watching it unfold from the outside has been devastating. They’re posting like kissing photos, doing things together that we would be doing. It’s just so beyond evil. Any advice?

I honestly don’t know how I’m supposed to wrap my head around any of this. She broke up with me 3 weeks ago, and she’s with the guy i was worried about. I’m looking at Instagram and seeing her publicly hard-launch a relationship in a matter of a couple weeks. It doesn’t even feel like my life anymore.

The pictures absolutely broke me. They’re at the beach together, hugging, kissing, getting sushi, doing face masks. They’re living what looks like a completely normal, happy relationship. To everyone else, they’re probably just innocent couple posts. To me, they’re the same little moments that used to make up my everyday life with her. Seeing someone else doing those things with the woman I still love makes my life feel absolutely worthless.

What I can’t seem to understand is how fast all of this happened. It’s only been a few weeks since our relationship ended, and she talked to him only a few days after we broke up. She’s already publicly sharing this new relationship with everyone. Her friends are commenting, her family is commenting, and it feels like everyone has accepted this while I’m still trying to just survive the breakup. I genuinely can’t comprehend how someone goes from five years together to publicly posting another relationship so quickly.

The hardest part is what this has done to me. I feel like I’ve been in a constant state of panic ever since I saw those posts. My heart races all day long. I feel sick to my stomach. I’m shaky, restless, and my mind won’t stop replaying the pictures over and over again. It feels like I’m in survival mode every second of the day. I wake up with panic, spend the entire day in panic, and go to bed still panicking. I don’t feel like myself anymore, I just feel completely torn apart.

I know checking her social media only makes everything worse. Every time I look, I end up feeling shocked, heartbroken, and more sick than I did before. But I can’t seem to stop myself. Part of me feels like I have to know what’s happening, even though all it does is leave me feeling ripped apart. I’m still trying to pick up the pieces of my life while she’s already making new memories with someone else, and I honestly don’t know how I’m supposed to make sense of that.

My ex of 5 years (20F) broke up with me (21M) 3 weeks ago. A few days after we broke up, I found her flirting and making plans to visit this guy I had worried about previously. Confirmed my suspicion of betrayal. She had made plans to visit him for the 4th of July. So since then I was dreading this day. But then, about 2 weeks after, she hard launched with this guy I was worried about on instagram. She posted pictures of them together and you would think they were together for years. Next, she made her account private, on top of blocking anyone Ive ever even muttered a word to, and I couldn’t see anything after that.

Fast forward to today, the 4th of July, she posted pictures of them getting sushi together, laying on the beach together, and then a story of them doing face masks together. These are all things we would be doing, and now she’s doing them with someone else.

I know they’re spending the 4th together, and i know they’ll definitely post pictures, and I will check them. I know i shouldn’t, I know it’ll hurt and really destroy me even more, but I have to check. The worst part is, her birthday is a few days later, so that day is going to be a disaster.

I know i shouldn’t check her socials, I’ve been using a private instagram viewer to see it, because I am blocked. I cannot wrap my head around the fact she’s openly broadcasting this new “relationship” to everyone, when I was her whole entire account about a month ago. It genuinely boggles my mind. Is she so shameless that she doesn’t care at all? She thinks this behavior is normal? Posting someone new like this after you just got out of the relationship. I mean the pictures they’re posting it looks like they’ve been together for a while, and she looks genuinely happy, and I’m stuck here trying to pick up the pieces.

Everyone is telling me to stop looking at social media, but it is genuinely impossible, because I know they’ll be posting each other and spending time together. That was my person of 5 years and now someone else is with her. Genuinely never felt something worse than this in my life.

And the worst part is, when I tell you we had the closest relationship, we were best friends, and we truly were each other’s person. How does someone do this and flip a switch and completely forget I even existed?? I feel like i’m going crazy.

A few weeks after my girlfriend of five years broke up with me, she hard-launched a new relationship with the guy I was worried about. That alone completely shattered me. It felt like my biggest fear had become reality. After that, she made her Instagram private, so I couldn’t see anything she was posting.

A few days went by, and today, because it was the Fourth of July, I had been dreading knowing they’re gonna post something. I knew checking her account would probably hurt me. I knew people would say I was “pain shopping” or only making things worse for myself. But I couldn’t resist the urge. Part of me just had to know.
I opened her Instagram, and what I saw absolutely destroyed me.

She had posted pictures of them together at the beach. Pictures of them hugging. Pictures of them kissing. There was a picture of them getting sushi together. Then she posted a story of them doing face masks together.
To anyone else, those are probably just normal pictures couples take, but to me, they’re all the little things we used to do together.

Those are the kinds of moments that made up our relationship. Going out to eat. Spending holidays together. Taking candid pictures of each other. Staying in and doing face masks. they were our everyday life.
Now I’m watching another guy live those same moments with the woman I still love.
It’s only been a few weeks since she ended a five-year relationship with me, and she’s already publicly sharing this new relationship with everyone. She’s broadcasting to the world that she’s with this new guy like our relationship is already a thing of the past.

I’m still trying to process losing the person I thought I was going to spend my life with, while she’s posting beach pictures, kisses, sushi dates, face masks, and what looks like a completely normal, happy relationship.
I know they’re probably going to post more tonight. I know every time I check, I’m probably just hurting myself even more. I know people will tell me to stop looking.
But I can’t explain the urge.
I feel like I need to know, even though every time I do, it completely destroys me. I honestly feel disgusted, heartbroken, and like my insides have been ripped apart.

How can someone spend five years building a life with another person, break up with them, and then, only a few weeks later, publicly post another guy like this? How can someone willingly hard-launch a new relationship that quickly? How can someone be living what looks like such a normal, happy couple’s life while I’m still sitting here trying to pick up the pieces of mine?

Not sure if this is the right sub to ask, but Zach Bryan is by far, my favorite artist. I’m a super fan of his. I listen to his music every single day and it’s been that way for years.

A few weeks ago, my girlfriend of five years broke up with me. We loved listening to Zach Bryan together, and we even went to one of his concerts. His music was a huge part of our relationship.

When the breakup first happened, I couldn’t listen to him at all. The second one of his songs came on, I’d have to skip it because it hurt too much. Lately, I’ve been forcing myself to listen anyway and it’s gotten a little easier, but there are still songs that make me bawl my eyes out or immediately make me think of her. Instead of enjoying the music like I used to, I almost dread hearing it because I know the memories and sadness are coming.

For anyone who’s been through something similar: does this ever get better? Will there come a day when I can listen to Zach Bryan again simply because I love his music, instead of feeling like every song is tied to her? I’d really like to hear from people who’ve made it to the other side of this.

My first love of five years broke up with me three weeks ago, and I feel like my entire world is over.
She’s with the guy I was worried about during our relationship. They hard launched each other on Instagram, and they’ve already been spending time together. A few days after we broke up, I found out she was talking to him. After she found out i found out, she blocked me and my entire family. Ever since then, I’ve been left with nothing but silence while she’s moved on to what looks like a completely new life. She refused to see me face to face or to end this off on a good note somehow.

The part I can’t understand is that somehow, despite everything that’s happened, I’m still sitting here hoping she’ll come back. I keep hoping she’ll regret what she did, realize what we had, change her mind, and reach out to me one day. I know people are probably going to say that sounds delusional or unhealthy, but I can’t help it. That’s where my heart still is.

Everyone around me keeps telling me I have to move on. They tell me she showed me who she really is, that I deserve better, and that I need to let go. I understand why, I do. But they didn’t live in the relationship the way I did. They didn’t spend five years building a life with her. They don’t love her the way I still do.

I know people think I’m crazy for still wanting her after everything that’s happened, but I can’t just shut my feelings off. I still love her with everything I have. I still can’t imagine spending the rest of my life without her. Every plan I had for the future included her, and now I’m trying to imagine a life that is not possible to me.

The hardest part is that I feel like I physically can’t let go. It’s not that I don’t understand what people are telling me or that I’m choosing to stay stuck. It feels like my heart refuses to accept that she’s gone. It’s exhausting. It’s consuming every part of me, and it feels like it’s slowly destroying me from the inside out.

I can’t stop picturing everything we’d normally be doing together this summer. Celebrating the Fourth of July. Going to the beach together. Laying out in the sun, tanning, swimming in the pool, taking vacations, grabbing food, and just enjoying all of the simple moments that made summer feel special. Those were the things I thought we’d be doing together this year. Instead, she’s gonna be doing all of those things with someone else.

That thought makes me feel sick in a way I can’t even describe. It feels like someone else stepped into the life that I thought we were still going to share, and every holiday, beach day, or summer day is another reminder that I’m no longer the one beside her.

Meanwhile, I’m still here trying to survive each day. I don’t even want to meet someone else. I don’t want anyone else. I just want her back. I want the life we had. I want the future I believed we were building together.

Every day I wake up hoping today will somehow be the day my phone lights up with a message from her. I hope she’ll tell me she’s sorry. I hope she’ll tell me she’s been thinking about me. I hope she’ll tell me she made a mistake and wants to try again. Maybe it’s false hope.
All I know is that every single day I still find myself hoping she’ll come back, because losing her feels like losing the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with.

I genuinely don’t know how I’m supposed to be okay.
My girlfriend of five years left me, and now she’s with the guy I was worrying about. Three weeks after we broke up, they’ve already hard launched their relationship on Instagram, and every day it feels more real that she’s building a completely new life without me.

I can’t stop thinking about this summer. The beach days, laying by the pool, tanning, road trips, vacations, the Fourth of July, the sunsets, all the moments that used to be ours. Those were the memories I thought we’d be making together this year. Instead, I’m sitting here imagining her doing every single one of those things with him.

What destroys me is that he gets to be the one beside her now. He gets her smile, her laugh, her attention, her time. He gets to wake up excited to talk to her, make plans with her, hold her, take pictures with her, and create memories with the person I love more than anyone. He’s living the life that I thought was still going to be mine. And I’m just broken and beyond lost.

I don’t even want to meet someone else. I don’t care about talking to another girl. The person I wanted was her. So while she’s making new memories and living this new life with this guy, it feels like mine completely stopped.

People keep telling me to move on because what she’s doing isn’t my problem anymore. I understand that. I wish it were that simple. But knowing that doesn’t make it hurt any less. Every day feels like I’m grieving someone who’s still alive, while watching someone else get the future I spent five years believing we
were building together.

That’s the part that destroys me. It feels like he gets everything I lost, and I’m left trying to figure out how to live with a future I never wanted.

I’ve been dreading this 4th every single day. We were together for five years. Towards the end of our relationship, there was a guy I was worried about, and I brought up those concerns more than once. After we broke up, she started dating him, and they even hard-launched their relationship on Instagram 2 weeks post breakup. Ever since I found out they have plans to be spending the Fourth of July together, I’ve been counting down the days. Instead of looking forward to it, I’ve been afraid of it.

I know I’m probably not supposed to do this, but I already know I’ll want to check what they post. I know it will probably destroy me emotionally, and I know I’ll almost certainly end up feeling worse afterward. But it feels like a necessity, like my brain is convinced I have to know what’s happening even if it breaks my heart. I feel trapped between two awful choices: checking and getting hurt, or not checking and imagining something even worse.

The hardest part is the pictures my mind creates. I keep imagining them laughing together, hugging, kissing, watching fireworks together, holding each other, and even imagining that they could become physically intimate. I don’t know what will actually happen, but my brain fills in those images anyway, and they play over and over. Every firework I hear, every thought about the holiday, sends me right back to these thoughts and images.

It makes me feel physically sick. My chest tightens, my stomach drops, and it feels like I can’t breathe. I can’t accept that the person I loved so deeply will be sharing those moments with someone else. It’s like my mind won’t stop replaying it, and I don’t know how to escape it.

I’m terrified that I’ll spend the entire day trapped in my own head, hearing fireworks and immediately imagining the worst. I don’t want to feel this way. I wish I could enjoy the day or even think about something else, but right now it feels like my grief follows me into everything.
That’s why I’m so anxious about the Fourth of July. Whether those fears are accurate or not, they feel completely real to me, and I know they’ve already been together since we broke up. I just need some help please.

I’ve been dreading this 4th every single day. We were together for five years. Towards the end of our relationship, there was a guy I was worried about, and I brought up those concerns more than once. After we broke up, she started dating him, and they even hard-launched their relationship on Instagram 2 weeks post breakup. Ever since I found out they have plans to be spending the Fourth of July together, I’ve been counting down the days. Instead of looking forward to it, I’ve been afraid of it.

I know I’m probably not supposed to do this, but I already know I’ll want to check what they post. I know it will probably destroy me emotionally, and I know I’ll almost certainly end up feeling worse afterward. But it feels like a necessity, like my brain is convinced I have to know what’s happening even if it breaks my heart. I feel trapped between two awful choices: checking and getting hurt, or not checking and imagining something even worse.

The hardest part is the pictures my mind creates. I keep imagining them laughing together, hugging, kissing, watching fireworks together, holding each other, and even imagining that they could become physically intimate. I don’t know what will actually happen, but my brain fills in those images anyway, and they play over and over. Every firework I hear, every thought about the holiday, sends me right back to these thoughts and images.

It makes me feel physically sick. My chest tightens, my stomach drops, and it feels like I can’t breathe. I can’t accept that the person I loved so deeply will be sharing those moments with someone else. It’s like my mind won’t stop replaying it, and I don’t know how to escape it.

I’m terrified that I’ll spend the entire day trapped in my own head, hearing fireworks and immediately imagining the worst. I don’t want to feel this way. I wish I could enjoy the day or even think about something else, but right now it feels like my grief follows me into everything.
That’s why I’m so anxious about the Fourth of July. Whether those fears are accurate or not, they feel completely real to me, and I know they’ve already been together since we broke up. I just need some help please.

I genuinely feel like I’m drowning. My girlfriend of five years, my first love and my first everything, broke up with me just a few weeks ago. Before we broke up, there was a guy I was worried about. I brought it up, and I was reassured that nothing was going on and that I had nothing to worry about. Within a couple of weeks of the breakup, she was already with him, and they’ve already hard-launched each other on social media.

Everyone around me tells me I should be angry and use that anger to move on. The problem is I can’t. I can’t find anger. i feel betrayed, but that feeling is completely overwhelmed by how much I still love her. I wake up wishing she was still next to me. I still want the life we had together back.

What I’m spiraling over now is wondering if she feels anything at all. Does she have any regret? Does she miss me? Does she ever stop and think about the five years we shared? Or was she really able to move on that quickly? I know nobody here can answer what’s in her head, but those questions replay in my mind every hour of the day, and I can’t seem to escape them.

I’m trying to do the “right” things. I’ve been going to the gym, going on walks, and working a lot of hours to keep myself busy. But none of it quiets my mind. I think about her constantly. Every day feels like I’m forcing myself to function while carrying around this unbearable weight. I know people say I need to let go and move on, but I honestly don’t know how. It doesn’t feel like I’m choosing to hold on, it feels like my heart just won’t let it go.

We spent five years together. We grew up together. We were each other’s first everything, and I truly believed we were going to spend our lives together. I know I can’t control what she’s doing now, but I’m struggling to accept that the person I loved so deeply is building something with someone else so soon after our relationship ended. Right now, I’m not angry—I’m just heartbroken, exhausted, and depressed. I’m so beyond depressed that some days I can barely function. I just want to know how people survive something like this, because right now it feels impossible.

I genuinely feel like I’m drowning. My girlfriend of five years, my first love and my first everything, broke up with me just a few weeks ago. Before we broke up, there was a guy I was worried about. I brought it up, and I was reassured that nothing was going on and that I had nothing to worry about. Within a couple of weeks of the breakup, she was already with him, and they’ve already hard-launched each other on social media.

Everyone around me tells me I should be angry and use that anger to move on. The problem is I can’t. I can’t find anger. i feel betrayed, but that feeling is completely overwhelmed by how much I still love her. I wake up wishing she was still next to me. I still want the life we had together back.

What I’m spiraling over now is wondering if she feels anything at all. Does she have any regret? Does she miss me? Does she ever stop and think about the five years we shared? Or was she really able to move on that quickly? I know nobody here can answer what’s in her head, but those questions replay in my mind every hour of the day, and I can’t seem to escape them.

I’m trying to do the “right” things. I’ve been going to the gym, going on walks, and working a lot of hours to keep myself busy. But none of it quiets my mind. I think about her constantly. Every day feels like I’m forcing myself to function while carrying around this unbearable weight. I know people say I need to let go and move on, but I honestly don’t know how. It doesn’t feel like I’m choosing to hold on, it feels like my heart just won’t let it go.

We spent five years together. We grew up together. We were each other’s first everything, and I truly believed we were going to spend our lives together. I know I can’t control what she’s doing now, but I’m struggling to accept that the person I loved so deeply is building something with someone else so soon after our relationship ended. Right now, I’m not angry—I’m just heartbroken, exhausted, and depressed. I’m so beyond depressed that some days I can barely function. I just want to know how people survive something like this, because right now it feels impossible.

I found out my ex of 5 years was talking to the guy I had been worried about, and then saw she had made plans to see him for the Fourth of July (he lives in another state) only a few days after we broke up. After this, my mind got stuck on a loop. I constantly replay images in my head of them together. I think about them kissing, spending time together, and just being intimate and I can’t stop it.

Then they hard-launched each other on Instagram only about three weeks after our breakup. Now I know they’ve at least spent time together in person, and that has made the intrusive thoughts even worse. Instead of just wondering if something happened, my mind keeps imagining everything that is happening between them.

The hardest part is that every single time I’ve looked at their social media and seen another picture of them together, it has absolutely crushed me. It feels like someone stabbed me in the stomach. The images stay with me for days, and my mind replays them over and over. Even after everything that happened, even after being betrayed, I still feel compelled to see what she’s doing.

Everyone keeps telling me to stop looking at their social media, and I understand why. But I keep counting down the days until the Fourth of July because I know they have plans together. I’m literally waiting to see what they’ll post and then my ex’s birthday is only a few days later, and I already know I’ll want to look then too.
It makes me wonder if I’m crazy. Am I the only person who does this?

After five years together, I can’t wrap my head around how quickly she’s with someone else. It makes me feel like there had to be a connection between them before we broke up. Every day I feel destroyed. I wake up replaying these thoughts, imagining scenes that I can’t stop thinking about.

I guess the questions I keep coming back to are these: Is waiting to see what they do together on the Fourth of July and on her birthday only going to hurt me even more? And will I ever stop caring? Will there ever come a day where I don’t feel this overwhelming need to know what she’s doing, and seeing her with someone else no longer feels like my world is collapsing?

My gf of 5 years broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, she’s now with the guy i was worried about. They have even gone as far as posting each other on instagram after this short amount of time. Purely disgusting, their connection screams emotional betrayal on my exs part.

That being said, the images and idea of them being intimate; having sex, kissing, hugging, is genuinely destroying me everyday. How can someone possibly survive and live through this pain. I know distractions and time heals everything but this is genuinely the worst feeling in the world. She’s literally is with someone after a matter of days. My friends have told me she has already done stuff with him at a minimum, and that I need to be angry for her betraying me. But i’m so filled with pure devastation.

My gf (20) of five years broke up with me (21) about three weeks ago, and I honestly feel like I’m losing my mind. She was my first everything, we weren’t just dating. we were best friends. We had a relationship that was probably closer than most. She was part of my family, and I was part of hers.

Over time, she became unhappy. She told me she felt like I didn’t give her enough time, that I prioritized other things over her, and that on my days off I mostly wanted to do things I enjoyed instead of spending quality time together. She also told me I never really knew how to comfort her emotionally when she needed me.
She has an autoimmune disease, and there were a lot of times she needed to get out of the house or just needed support because she wasn’t feeling well. Looking back, I know there were times I could have done better emotionally. I always tried to help in other ways, I picked her up whenever she needed, i greatly helped financially whenever I could, and tried to be there. but she felt it wasn’t enough and that I had started taking her for granted.

Before we broke up, there was a guy I was worried about. I brought it up multiple times, and she reassured me there was nothing going on and that she wasn’t that kind of person.
About three weeks ago she ended the relationship.
Just a few days later, I noticed this same guy commenting on her Instagram. In a panic, I logged into her Snapchat and saw them flirting, giving each other nicknames, and making plans together. I know I shouldn’t have logged in, and I regret doing it, but what I saw completely shattered me.

To make things even stranger, this guy lives in another state, and his best friend is dating my ex’s best friend. Now they all seem to have this friend group together.
Throughout the breakup, my ex’s best friend inserted herself into everything. She acted as the mediator, often speaking on my ex’s behalf instead of letting us communicate directly. From my perspective, it felt like she had a huge influence over the situation.
When my ex found out I had logged into her Snapchat, she blocked me and my entire family. I reached out one last time, hoping we could at least have an honest conversation. Instead, she told me she doesn’t love me anymore, doesn’t care about me anymore, and that I need help because I’m “crazy.”
I desperately wanted one conversation in person for closure after five years together, but she refused. Eventually she called me with her best friend on the phone, and together they basically told me to move on and accept that it was over. During that call, she also told me she really likes this new guy.
Now, only about three weeks after ending our five-year relationship, they’ve both posted each other on Instagram—a complete hard launch.

I understand that rebounds happen, but this feels incredibly fast after such a long relationship. From my perspective, it also feels like there had to be an emotional connection before we broke up, even though she insists everything started afterward and therefore wasn’t cheating or a betrayal.
Whether someone considers that emotional infidelity, M branching, or simply moving on quickly, I don’t know. What I do know is that I feel deeply betrayed because I raised concerns about this exact person while we were still together and was repeatedly told there was nothing to worry about.
The part that’s destroying me the most isn’t even the breakup anymore. It’s knowing she’s already emotionally and physically involved with someone else after five years together while I’m still struggling to eat and get through the day.
I guess I’m posting because I need someone to tell me if I’m losing my mind. Is it understandable that this has completely shattered me? Has anyone else gone through something similar, and if so, how did you eventually get past the constant pain of picturing your ex with someone else?

I’ve posted here a few times already, but my girlfriend of five years broke up with me about 2½ weeks ago. To make a long story short, she’s already with another guy.
The hard part is that I was worried about this guy before we even broke up. I brought it up, and she reassured me there was nothing going on and that I had nothing to worry about.

Throughout all of this, her best friend has been acting like the mediator, but honestly it feels more like she’s been speaking for my ex and influencing her decisions. To make things even stranger, that friend’s boyfriend lives in another state, and the guy my ex is now seeing happens to be his best friend. So now they all have this new dynamic together.

One of the reasons my ex gave for ending things was that she felt I wasn’t around enough and that she needed more time and support from me. That’s what confuses me so much. If distance and time together were such important issues, how does starting a relationship with someone who lives in another state solve that? It just doesn’t make sense from my perspective.

Fast forward to now, and they already seem to be officially together. They’ve both posted each other on Instagram—basically a hard launch—less than three weeks after our breakup. I know rebounds happen, but seeing something become so public so quickly has been devastating. It feels like she moved on almost instantly after five years together.

Maybe she had emotionally checked out before the breakup—I honestly don’t know—but it’s still incredibly painful to watch. What makes it even harder is seeing people around her encourage it instead of questioning how quickly everything happened.
I keep hoping she’ll eventually reflect on all of this and feel some regret about how things unfolded. Right now, I’m struggling to reconcile the person I knew and loved for five years with the way everything has played out. Looking at the pictures they posted, you’d think they’d been together for years, and that’s been one of the hardest parts for me to process.

I’ve posted a few things on here, but my gf of 5 years broke up w me 2 1/2 weeks ago or so, and to make a long story short, she’s with this new guy now. I had previously worried about him before the relationship ended, but was reassured by her that it was nothing. Mind you, her best friend has been trying to be the mediator in this situation, and basically just manipulating her and speaking for her. My ex’s friend, her boyfriend lives in another state, and the new guy my ex is talking to, happens to be best friends with him. Go figure, so they have a whole dynamic now.

Mind you, one of her reasons for being unhappy with me, is that she didn’t get enough time with me, and that she felt I wasn’t there for her when she needed. But being with someone from another state will help right? It just makes 0 sense to me at all.

Fast forward, they are now together it seems and they ALREADY posted each other on instagram, basically a hard launch. I have heard of rebounds, but posting after this short amount of time is insane to me. I am so hurt and so beyond lost. Just like that she moved onto someone else. Even if she was “checked out” that is absolutely insane to me. And no one is going to shame her or make her feel bad about it, just encouraging it.

I just want her to feel some regret or some form of shame for this. I just cannot believe my sweet girl turned into such an evil and conniving person. You would think they were together for years by the pictures they posted.

My girlfriend of 5 years just broke up with me about two days ago, and her reasoning for ending things is my past wrongdoings, and how she lost herself with me, and specifically, times where I made her unhappy by not being there for her and not doing the right things. We’ve had some really rough moments and she’s stayed and she said she’s just too unhappy. Right now, life feels completely impossible. I can’t even be or do anything in my house without completely bawling my eyes out thinking about her. She has sent me a few texts over the last 24 hours that I haven't replied to yet, and I've been in no contact with her for about 30 hours. However, I know she has been posting videos on a private TikTok account venting and crying. In one video, she said she didn’t know people could break up when they’re still in love and talked about how she can’t eat and is sick to her stomach. But in the next video, she shifted and said how we’re just not meant to be, it’s okay, and things like that.
All of my family and my friends are telling me absolutely do not reach out right now, and to just let her come to me. But I cannot get it out of my head that staying silent is going to backfire on me.
I don't know if I should reach out to her so she doesn’t think I'm just moving on, or keep giving her space, and hope she’ll come back. What should I do?