u/segcrizz

This might not seem relevant, but it feels relevant to the situation: I’m Black and he’s white. I’m also from New York, while his family is from the South. I currently go to college in the South, but I was staying with my aunt, who lives about an hour away from his family’s house. Because of that, there may have been cultural differences in how we interpreted each other.

I went to his house to spend the night and meet his family. The plan was for me to come over, make dinner, and stay the night. I cooked a full dinner for his family, and the only people eating were me, him, his mom, his dad, and his sister. The only person who thanked me directly was his dad. The others thanked me by messaging him instead of saying it to my face. I will include a photo of the food at the end for context.

During dinner, they did not really ask me questions about myself. Instead, most of the conversation was focused on me being from New York. His sister did talk to me about college because she is starting in August. I gave her honest advice based on my experience and said that, if possible, I would avoid having a roommate because people are not always truthful on roommate forms. Apparently, this was later seen as bad advice because they said I knew she had to have a roommate because of cost and that I should have been more positive instead of being so honest.

His brother also came in, chose not to eat with us, paused when he saw me, and then walked straight to his room. Apparently, he later said he was waiting for me to say hi first, but I felt uncomfortable because I was the guest in their home and did not feel welcomed.

After dinner, I felt rejected and uncomfortable, so I privately asked my boyfriend to drive me back to my aunt’s house. We packed my things and went to the car, but then we had a deep conversation about how I felt like his family had basically eaten the food I made and then left without making me feel included. After talking, we decided I would stay the night after all.

The next morning, I even made breakfast, but only my boyfriend ate because the rest of his family did not feel like waking up to eat. At that point, I felt like I had tried multiple times to be respectful and helpful, but I was still being judged. From my perspective, they barely asked me questions about myself, did not really make an effort to get to know me, and then still decided I was rude.

My boyfriend has been defending me to his family all week, but I honestly do not know what else they expected me to do. I cooked dinner, stayed the night even after feeling uncomfortable, made breakfast the next morning, and tried to be polite. It feels like no matter what I did, it was not going to be enough for them.

After all of this, they told him I was rude and that he should break up with me.

This might not seem relevant, but it feels relevant to the situation: I’m Black and he’s white. I’m also from New York, while his family is from the South. I currently go to college in the South, but I was staying with my aunt, who lives about an hour away from his family’s house. Because of that, there may have been cultural differences in how we interpreted each other.

I went to his house to spend the night and meet his family. The plan was for me to come over, make dinner, and stay the night. I cooked a full dinner for his family, and the only people eating were me, him, his mom, his dad, and his sister. The only person who thanked me directly was his dad. The others thanked me by messaging him instead of saying it to my face. I will include a photo of the food at the end for context.

During dinner, they did not really ask me questions about myself. Instead, most of the conversation was focused on me being from New York. His sister did talk to me about college because she is starting in August. I gave her honest advice based on my experience and said that, if possible, I would avoid having a roommate because people are not always truthful on roommate forms. Apparently, this was later seen as bad advice because they said I knew she had to have a roommate because of cost and that I should have been more positive instead of being so honest.

His brother also came in, chose not to eat with us, paused when he saw me, and then walked straight to his room. Apparently, he later said he was waiting for me to say hi first, but I felt uncomfortable because I was the guest in their home and did not feel welcomed.

After dinner, I felt rejected and uncomfortable, so I privately asked my boyfriend to drive me back to my aunt’s house. We packed my things and went to the car, but then we had a deep conversation about how I felt like his family had basically eaten the food I made and then left without making me feel included. After talking, we decided I would stay the night after all.

The next morning, I even made breakfast, but only my boyfriend ate because the rest of his family did not feel like waking up to eat. At that point, I felt like I had tried multiple times to be respectful and helpful, but I was still being judged. From my perspective, they barely asked me questions about myself, did not really make an effort to get to know me, and then still decided I was rude.

My boyfriend has been defending me to his family all week, but I honestly do not know what else they expected me to do. I cooked dinner, stayed the night even after feeling uncomfortable, made breakfast the next morning, and tried to be polite. It feels like no matter what I did, it was not going to be enough for them.

After all of this, they told him I was rude and that he should break up with me.

I took a break for over a year from the game because it felt like i was really addicted to the game. Do you guys think there's a healthy balance between playing the game and living life? I don't know if I'm willing to become VIP 11 again.

actually whatever imma vent a little.

The game is so fun and the competition is nice but even if you save you also have to spend at least 300 dollars to win an event especially in the newer servers. It's also an everyday obligation. If you take a break for even 3 days you will end up kicked from your alliance and dropping 3 spots from the leaderboard. Should i just while I'm free stay free and never redownload or try and find a healthy mix?

I keep trying to post in a subreddit but it says i need 10 comment Karama, its so confusing because when i look at my profile i have 35? is that just an automatic thing that gets send no matter what? Because its saying that its getting taken down because i need 10 but every time i go to the comment its still up but with like 2 views.

I keep trying to post in a subreddit but it says i need 10 comment Karama, its so confusing because when i look at my profile i have 35? is that just an automatic thing that gets send no matter what? Because its saying that its getting taken down because i need 10 but every time i go to the comment its still up but with like 2 views.