u/septic_penut

I have the perfect surf ratio but I accidentally clouded the lamp a bit with my syringe. Will a filter ruin it, I spent 4 hours getting the perfect ratio

With the Epstein files being released, it feels like less of a conspiracy to say that the pizza gate theory (edit: isnt) complete BS. They were doing disgusting and unimaginable things behind closed doors. If cannibalism isn't off the table, why is this? The ellen sweatshirt picture and nypd suicide makes this specific theory even more plausible, isn't she diagnosed with cannibal disease? How credible is frazzledrip almost a decade later?

Let me start by saying this wont be polished and the ideas might be crude or underdeveloped. I hope the general message is understood. I love my partner and we have a healthy relationship

My partner is Afab NB with the goal of total androgyny . Theyve been voice training for 4-5 years and generally sound androgynous, leaning male or female depending on the day. They have recently started T as well to help tip their voice in the desired direction.

I am mtf and struggle with my voice. I have a good starting point, but im sure you can all understand the innate and seemingly impossible struggle of attempting to reverse the irreversible damage puberty has done. My partner is a HUGE advocate for voice training, as its worked out well for them overall. They push it on me constantly, always reminding me that I will not pass if i do not train.

at the beginning of my transition, I told them i wanted to try voice training, and that they should spot me when I mess up. This was short lived, because I realized that they dont understand where Im coming from in the slightest, and that their attitude on training is completely unrealistic and kind of privileged, and ended up making voice training REALLY unappealing.

They (self admitted) have won the genetic lottery for their transition goals. body, voice, and face are all essentially passing without effort. And im happy for them, and hold a similar privilege. I myself was already semi passing before E

but I feel that this has affected their attitude surrounding voice training and transition. They are able to take a magic shot that changes their voice in their desired way, and they lecture me about how I just need to put in effort like they did and I will see results; How they know its hard, but I just need to keep trying like they did. but They dont know its hard. they couldnt possibly know how hard it is. Theyve been training an afab voice for 5 years and are on T. They experience changes with little to no effort. It reminds me of how boomers say "just work hard like I did, just show up in person to the interview", as if they didnt buy their house for $10000 60 years ago, have sat on it doing nothing but minor renovations and now own land worth $2000000 . Im not saying they didnt work hard for their voice, I know they did, but the circumstances are COMPLEATLY different, and they cant seem to recognize that the same amount of effort WILL NOT result in the same satisfaction or results.

Being told and reminded CONSTANTLY that I just need to put in effort annoys me. Today I brought up that i might look into vocal surgery, and they said that I need to train first to make sure I really need it. (Quick edit, I worded this poorly. I meant as an endgame thing if training doesn't work out. I understand that vfs is risky) We had a whole conversation and all of these same points came up.

theres more context to this, and obviously with the info ive provided it might seem like im in a shitty relationship. im not. this just bothers me a lot. They used to be in this 2020core fake DID "my dad just offered me a 16....im beer" friendgroup, and I feel like the general "femmes and thems" attitude is affecting their perception of this situation