Hi! Newly single after bf (who i met on hinge) and I broke up after 4 years. I’m looking for a serious relationship and just looking for feedback on my profile to see if I’m showing the right vibe. Thanks in advance 😊😊 (the video is me doing a backflip lol used to dive competitively)
Seeing(26f) this guy (29m)casually, slept over on his invitation, both dates, and we got along very well. We had a conversation about how I value communication and he said he understood.
I feel worried I was hasty, but being pushed back a week and then only a “maybe?” I feel like I need to have more respect for myself. But Idk, AIO?
So I’ve been on the dating apps, and I have this coworker/friend, let’s call her Jane. Jane is in her mid-20s, and she had a baby with her boyfriend when she was 19. They have been together for about 5 years now
She is full-time in school in addition to working full-time, and she is constantly stressed. Her boyfriend works too, and from the outside, they just seem to have this really nice, sweet little family.
Then I found her boyfriend, let’s call him John, on a dating app.
I was literally stopped dead in my tracks. At first, I was like, maybe this is a fake account. Maybe it’s an outdated account. But no, he’s photo verified. And one of his pictures has the date in it, which was like a month or two ago. The recent pictures don’t mention that he has a child or a girlfriend at all.
I think I know her well enough to say that she is not in an open relationship and they don’t have some kind of arrangement. I think she would be very mad about this. I can’t remember for sure, but I think she has said before that she wouldn’t tolerate cheating of any kind.
I feel super conflicted because part of me feels like this is not my business. But I also feel really fucking pissed that I’ve been put in this position. She works her butt off, and meanwhile this guy is out here actively creeping. This is so many conscious decisions he made to make a dating app profile and then be active on it.
I also see him all the time because he comes to work to pick up their child, and I’m going to her house tomorrow with our friends. I feel like I have to tell her. But its also complicated because I’m kind of her boss and we’re only friends through work and I’ve known her for a year now and I just don’t know if this is my place but we also are friends outside of work and talk every day and FaceTime frequently.
If I was in this position, I would want to know. If it was a one-time mistake, like he hooked up with somebody once, I feel like there would be more gray area. But this feels like something he is actively doing. It feels like an active choice he is making, not a mistake or a one-time thing.
I would go about it by saying something like, “I don’t know anything for sure. I don’t know what you guys have going on or what your boundaries are. But I found his profile, and I thought you should know because I would want to know. I support you with whatever you decide, but you mean a lot to me and I wanted to be honest with you” something like that.
I would obviously figure out a really respectful way to say it, but somebody else told me that it’s not my business and I shouldn’t get involved. But staying silent would make me feel, number one, like a horrible person, and number two, like I’m betraying my friend.
I understand that there is a very real chance she might get upset with me and shoot the messenger, but honestly, I think I would be willing to take that risk.
They’re talking about marriage. They’re talking about having another child. I just imagine myself being in that position, continuing to invest more into someone while being blindsided, betrayed, and manipulated like this, and I would never want that to happen to me.
This girl barely even gets to have a social life because she’s constantly taking care of their daughter while he’s out doing God knows what, because clearly he is not being honest about what he’s doing.
So yeah, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Would you tell her? And if so, how would you do it? Please help😭
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I (26f)matched with this guy (27m)a year ago when i was in an off-again moment with my now ex. We clicked really well and then i realized i just wasnt over my ex. He was so nice about it and we stayed connected on insta for a year. Always liking my pictures and commenting really sweet things. He had also DM’ed me asking me out on insta like 8 years before that and i hadn’t seen it.
My ex and i broke up a month or 2 ago, and i wanted to hit up that guy and see if he was single. He wasnt, but responded very openly. Then a few days later he let me know he had been jn a rough spot with his gf and they broke up. He then asked me out and was saying that we could spend the whole weekend together. I was super happy and felt like i couldnt judge because i was also very freshly single after 4 years and ready to meet up with him.
We met up, had an amazing time. Talked for hours, then went back to his place, hooked up, then he took me out for dinner which also lasted hours. He was saying he wanted to see me again, we talked about our families, our goals, what we were looking for- it all seemed aligned.
I spent the night and in the morning, more sex, then he took me out for breakfast and drinks, back to his house for tv, naps, and more sex, then i left. Were texting every day and hes asking me questions, remembering little details, but i left sunday and its now wednesday and he hasnt planned another date. Im confused and scared i got wayyyy to invested. But typing this all out, my fears seem a little silly?? I would just love a male perspective. I really want a second date.