I dropped out during my senior year of college (because I was a transfer student, I had about a year and a half of bs classes left to take), and I don’t intend on going back. I was on the President’s List before I dropped out. Any idea how to showcase this? I’m only seeing the option to state a degree.
I didn’t used to have this problem; it only started after I got the Beta version.
Every now and then when I record something via MIDI, I’m unable to play it back after one or two times (sometimes the recording fully disappears), and then I can’t hear anything. I’ve noticed that it’s mostly on the second or third track (the first I can typically hear).
Anyone know how to fix this?
The notion that women and queer people are exempt from abuse (particularly sexual), or that only women are victims, needs to eradicated from society.
Anyone can be abusive. Sexual abuse, in particular, never was and never will be about sex or sexual orientation. Just because you’re a woman or a queer person does not mean that you’re exempt from abuse. This kind of thinking actually allows predators and misogynists to mask themselves to commit insidious behavior.
A predominant anti-trans argument is that predators will dress up as women to abuse women. The entire foundation of this argument is destabilized when we stop acting like abuse is exclusive to people who are assigned male at birth.
Misogynists argue that men can be victims too, whenever feminists talk about rape statistics. This “defense” wouldn’t even come up if there wasn’t this generalized notion that only men predate upon women. Abuse is about power, and in a patriarchal society, there are bound to be more men who harm women, but abuse is a choice — one that anyone can make.
“Boys will be boys” arguments which excuse and perpetuate harm (particularly gendered violence) are entirely destabilized when we eradicate this fallacy from society.
Victims of abuse of all genders who experience harm from all genders struggle to speak up when it doesn’t fit into the perpetuated men-woman dynamic. All stories need to be heard.
Demonizing any subset of humankind has proven to only lead to, excuse, and further harm.
We cannot destabilize the patriarchy when we continue to perpetuate ideologies that stem from and contribute to it. Collective liberation requires standing in truth over engaging in dichotomous thinking.
I recently signed a lease takeover until the end of the summer, rooming with two recent college grads (I’m a few years older, but I thought it would be bearable as I am transitioning to a new city and it’s short term).
Before I signed the lease, I came to visit, and the apartment was pretty clean. I also told them over a call prior to that that cleanliness in shared spaces is very important to me, but I’m not super nitpicky if there are some dishes in the sink for a few days (as long as things are cleaned in a timely manner). They said, “Okay, yeah!” and seemed to be on board.
I move in today and there are things all over the floor, including hair, food, stains, and items (like a soap bottle?? looks like someone just… threw it or dropped it?). There are random things everywhere, something purple in a pot on the stove, and there’s literally no space in the fridge. I’ve had bad roommate situations, but none that were this dirty.
I message them to tell them that I moved in and that the place was very dirty & there was no fridge space, and I said, “Please let me know when you guys can clean and make some space for me. It didn’t look like this when I came to visit.”
One girl (M) responds saying that she’s been out for the past few days, and says that people were “in and out” during grad week. She says “When we come back in things can be situated and we can align rules again.”
M then sends another message on behalf of the other roommate (T), who says that her phone broke. T explains that some of the things were from the previous roommate whose lease I had taken over (no problem there) and that they had their families over, explaining the mess and full fridge. T says that M is out of state, while she (T) has been gone all weekend handling personal business, but when they are all back, she is willing to clean the common areas so that we can have a fresh start.
Now, a few things here aren’t adding up. Somebody is in the apartment (I think T, but I can’t remember whose room it is). I can literally hear somebody in the apartment. Earlier today before moving in, I mentioned that I had something delivered and asked if they could bring it in; T reacted to the message (so her phone was working then — it may have broken later, not sure at this point with all of the discrepancies), and the package was inside when I moved in (so again, somebody is here).
Also, I visited the apartment after the original tenant told me that their families had left (at the end of grad week), and the place was spotless, so I’m having trouble believing that this was due to their families visiting — which is a major red flag.
The multiple discrepancies combined with their lack of communication as to when they will be cleaning really has me worried.
Is it possible to get out of this lease transfer? I haven’t paid rent yet because it’s due tomorrow. I am just really stressed out about this whole situation especially as my trust is already broken.
Update: T has admitted to being in the apartment (and also texted me directly after I brought up concerns).