u/socialbutanonymous

Basically, my friend, we’ll call her Ema -is rich as shit. Her dad own several million dollar firms based in many countries and also own an marketing firm, which there are plans for her to take over. Her dad had bought a 5 story house for them which they now live in.
Emas parents are incredibly stingy and passive aggressive. We had a joint party for our 15th and she treated my mom like absolute shit and made her ,her “maid”. As a child i wasn’t letting it slide and ended my friendship with her. As we grew up, our friend groups collided and now we are back to being friends, but i maintain a distance. She posted on our gc that she found a cat, it was a stray cat that she found near her house and she decided to take in. It was a small kitten and it had broken limbs and it was not able to walk and she said that her mom was not willing to cover the bills. it was only a matter of time that she could keep the kitten at home. I volunteer at an animal shelter and donate for -and sponsor animals all around the world, so I am very sympathetic for cases like these. I personally have two cats at home and my mom too is in love with animals in general. My mom offered to pay a portion of the bills as the bills for surgery and MRIs and x-rays would come out to a large sum. then emma was acting extremely entitled, as if she was trying to blame the whole thing on me. Trying to turn it on me that it’s my responsibility, even though she found the cat and I was simply just trying to contribute. During this time I was contacting my animal shelter, and I was contacting many vets and people in general that I know who could help in this case. I told her that my mom can’t contribute to the whole cost as it’s gonna be very costly fixing one of the cats limbs is going to cost around $400 and we are not able to pay that as a whole , but we are able to share the costs. And then this girl has the audacity to text me back and say “are you atleast able to cover the fee for the consultation?”I told her -dude we are making a generous donation to you and you are not allowed to demean my mother or me like that because we are doing you a huge favor by paying this money. first of all I’ve done a lot to help you and it’s fucking ridiculous. Obviously, I didn’t say all that. I just told her that you can’t say that and then she replied to me saying “I don’t fucking know dude like just a lot going on I don’t I’m trying to figure this shit out I’ll text you later” and I have no idea where to go from this cause I can’t just leave a stray cat alone but then again even if I do eventually they’re gonna take the credit for it and I want to be able to help this cat but even after we help the cat the cats gonna have nowhere to stay and there would be essentially no purpose in us helping. I now realize that rich people are evil as shit and no one could stay rich if they were morally good at heart. These people earn 10 times more then my family and dont have the moral compass to pay the fees for the cat?? Not even the consultation? This is utterly disgusting.

How do i carry on from here?

Im sorry im feminist 100%, I have openly attended protests and have exercised my view countless times.

Thats not the point tho, so like i have been watching feminism vs anti feminism debates and i realized that feminism is having the opportunity to choose, if you want to choose to support abortion, that doesnt mean you want every woman to have an abortion, its that you want the ability to choose.

But then isnt that the whole point?? If a women has the ability to exercise her opinion on feminism and that in a way that its negative, its still a right!

Although i understand the loophole, these are rights fought for by feminism , although they are morally wrong ( anti feminists ) wouldnt one be happy that they have the ability to exercise that right??

I, in no way am defending anti feminists, this is just a very vague argument i am trying to debunk or whatever and i just want to hear opinions.

Hello everyone, for context i am an anti theist and 100% woke in all forms regarding religion.

Usually people bring up anomalies or like medical miracles or just complex creatures of the universe that could be labelled “beautiful/magnificent” and say that this all couldnt have happened without a higher being

If someone combatted me with the question, i would have no answer, can anyone educate me?

The title isnt quite what it means? My love for greys anatomy started when i was 7, my mother used to binge that shit 24/7 then eventually me now being 16 , i started watching it again, and i remember all of it so its more of a rewatch.

Ive loved christina yang shes just a very relatable character emotionally and shes very work driven in a way thats motivational

Ive been emotionally crushed due to the burkina shit and im just idk ehat to do, i feel so much for her i feel so sad for her because burke is a great man for leaving her because he saw her worth and to see her be free of it because he knew her love would lead her not to follow her dreams and its so depressing it crushes me.

Usually when im sad i just watch videos of them together and it isnt like a parasocial thing its just i feel like i watch videos of them breaking up and him leaving her at the altar as a build up for me to let out my emotions to cry but i dont even know what im sad about

Its gotten to a point where ive memorized the words he says to her, its just all so very sad snd ik this is vague but idk
Can anyone analyze this shit and lmk

People tend to argue on this topic quite a bit on rhis subreddit. In my personal view -Religion has been made by misogynistic , attention wanting and respect demanding people , People who choose to follow it in this day and age are ignorant to the oppression caused by the religion.

Hating the religion is essentially hating the people as well, the religion doesnt exist , its the people keeping the belief alive, which isnt real.

Its a did the chicken or egg come first situation all over again.

What i mean is that followinf antitheism, is it for example islamophobic? Or christian-phobic idk??
I follow anti theism, i follow the way of the universe, im not doubting anything but if i do follow anti theism am i islamophobic and such??

See personally i would, i havent watched any of the greys anatomy spin offs with joy and suspense, irs all bs. Christina yang, i feel connected to her emotionally, shes relatable and her trauma and history with burke and hunt make it all so much better to watch. Whos with me??

Heyy, i have a social life outside of this i just like talking to people i dont know, i like the mystery and it keeps it interesting. I talk alot so you surely wont be bored. You can hmu if u wanna talk

Im 16 F, and right now im working at a marketing firm as an intern and also working at an animal rescue shelter for the summer, as i am a full time student it is not possible for me to work during school months, and in the place i live, children my age cant earn money independently. While i understand in the US children working at chain stores is quite common, that simply isnt permitted here.

I am currently attempting to save money, although i dont earn i am going to bring it up to my mother. I would like to just save money here and there so i dont have to ask my mom for every small expense and she wont have to face that burden every time.

Any propositions I could bring back to her or attempt to present her with?

Edit- ive spoken to my mother and she has offered to give me a monthly allowance of 80 dollars. though it might seem like alot, would have to use this money for everything -clothes, expenses. I am grateful as i was expecting far less. Thank you for the tips!

Why the fuck are we the ones who need to be branded "atheists" or "antitheists"?
We arent the ones who have beliefs rooted in imaginary shit that purposefully oppresses people and causes nothing but dispute and harm.
If anything we shouldnt have a label and at the very most a label of normal human being is acceptable.

being christian or jewish or muslim is a label, AGAIN WHY DO WE HAVE A LABEL?

we dont have any religious beliefs therefore dont need to be branded in this community of religious beliefs.

if anyone got what im trying to communicate -thanks

(edit); i mean that us -we are in the mindsets (in religious context) in the purest form to exist, the mindsets we currently have are of those before religions were introduced. The 'prophets' or 'descents' were those who preached this and gave those who believed -labels.

As a child i have been growing up watching shows involving death, murder and just serious situations. My parents have been fans of film classics, Ive grown up watching , money heist, Delhi crime, greys anatomy, the good doctor -just everything which can ultimately result to a life or death situation.

At a young age i started praying as often as the sun rises for god to not take my life too soon , i didn't keep my hopes high for anything because anything and everything could happen anytime soon.

2 years ago i started watching 'YOU' the Netflix series. Everyday after i watched the show i couldn't stop thinking -how does he live with himself? does the guilt not eat him alive?

While i dream , i don't realize i am dreaming. Its as if I'm watching my life go on as normal, like from 2nd person point of view. I cant control anything but my thoughts in the moment , its as if I'm just spectating.

I've experienced these dreams where me killing and murdering people is not planned and happens in the spur of the moment. I kill then i panic , thinking how my life would be from now on, how i would have to hide and vanish from everything just because i did what i did . This pattern follows. And of course in the moment i think its real, so i feel as if my life is over and the guilt deeply mentally affects me.

I look at what I just went through, even just in a dream, and I know with absolute certainty that I could never survive the reality of taking a life. Just the weight of the guilt would swallow me whole. I don't understand how real world killers can wake up every day, look in the mirror, and carry on with normal lives when my own mentality would turn my mind into a permanent, suffocating prison.

The faces in my imagination are faces that are prominent in my life. I see these people on a daily basis. I don't know why this happens but i think it has to do -partially with the fact of the kind of shit i watched as a kid and that just brutally fucked me over, These dreams occur occasionally -maybe twice in a month.

I don't want to feel this way but what if this is my consciences way of subtly foreshadowing my future?

How can people follow religion? religion causes nothing but oppression ,harm to society , childhood indoctrination and the obvious ethical concerns as well as -hello, logic?

Theist people are tyrants using fairy tales, guilt, and the threat of hell to maintain power and control human behavior.

Men are complicit, enjoying automatic patriarchal privileges and policing women’s bodies, clothes, and choices under the cover of 'its gods fucking will so be it'.

They force children to follow such idiotic rules, and once a child grows out of that god sized hole their parents have built for them, nothing but harm is caused by its own caregivers. People often preach a religion that they were born with. If they were never born in their religion by birth - they would've never 'found their way' to it by coincidence. Its as simple as -if one was born in India ; they would be Hindu, if one was of Israeli descent ; they would be fucking Jewish now wouldn't they.

People are ignorant to the very book that they deem holy, the book that has permits misogyny and rapist tendencies and mainly marital rape. People openly support this bullshit. The book that tells a women what they can and cannot do with their bodies.

Utter disgust is pouring from my very mouth. Also important key note- you cant be a feminist if you are a follower of any religion, period.

I am 100% against religion ( and or cults ) in every capacity. Islam is a misogynistic cult and so is every other religion on this earth. These religions are used by men to control and oppress women, and i take no part.

I am currently visiting my relatives this summer with my parents and everyone here is a hardcore believer of Allah. My parents don't actively preach Islam but they do practice it . I am in no way obligated or forced to do anything under the laws of Islam by my parents, and i am grateful for that.

People in my family aren't idiots. We live comfortably and are upper middle class. my family is full of independent people and consider themselves quite western in the way they live. Everyone has a good paying job in the field of science. In fact -in my family, there is an individual who is a famous scientist who has discovered a vital component to the kingdom of microorganisms.

They are quite breezy in the way they preach Islam and aren't conservative in any way. From this i hope you could get a gist of the way of life in my house.

Daily, everyone in my family here prays and reads the Quran and say everything in the name of 'God'. My old grandmother who prays daily even though she is physically partially impaired -she used to be a professor at a med school teaching biochemistry. A week ago , i was sleeping but i was half awake -i saw my relative sitting for an hour straight before work just reading the Quran and rocking back and forth.

I realize everything wrong about this,I am totally woke in this matter -but i cant help but feel that , these people are my biggest role models. They have gotten everywhere in life where i want to reach. How could they support this? They must have their reasons and me feeling this way is just a phase of rebellion. That's how i feel about this whole situation.

Does anyone else go through this? Or just me.

hello!! im F in my teens at the moment and i feel like i have no friends at all

Okay lets start from the top. I have friends, i really do. I have to remind myself of this as often as the sun rises. i like to think of it as having people on 'Standby' as often as i can.

i feel like i need to be able to have someone with me at all costs - not out of loneliness , out of in a way of you could say 'social rank'? like i need to have someone with me to be able to show that i have a life and im not jobless.

Whenever i go to school i make sure to text my friends to make sure they can hangout with me for each quarter of the day- before school, during and after. i have specific friends allocated for each of these durations.

I always make certain that i have plans on weekends , and i over plan those weekends in case the original planned plan doesn't take place. Sometimes it so happens that everyone is available and i suddenly i have committed to 3 plans at a time.

In school i have a clique of 6 girls and from that i have one dear friend i adore and (i hope) feelings are reciprocated. i honestly don't care whether or not they stay in my life after school, just that i need someone to hangout with in school. but that aside i am grateful i have that group.

I also keep track that i have other friends in school other then my group in case my clique has a falling out. i also hangout with my other peers often.

I keep a track of my friends in my notes app to go over when i feel 'friendless'. i have a total of 15 friends that i talk to on a regular basis. i don't really talk to anyone out of this group dearly but i do know people and talk to people besides these people.

I always message my friends regularly to secretly/hidden-ly confirm we re on good terms, some friends more then others.

I don't really take part in typical teenage shit because in the area i live - people are a bunch of snitches and everyone's interlinked so word spreads and no one wants to take the risk. Whenever there are rare occasions for typical parties, i do sometimes will get an invite but often times i dont want to attend or i have no friends i know at the party or sometimes even i have prior plans , be it my family or friends.\

Teenage rebellion does occur in my clique though. I do the part but nothing beyond. This does kind of help expand my circle as i get to know people and my contacts grow larger.

I don't get any hoes tho i cant lie lmao but i am not complaining. around a year or two ago, my life was completely different. I had a large number of friends, knew everyone, hung out with the wrong crowds and had my name spoiled rotten!

In my compound i also have a group of friends which i hangout with often . But i always make sure to let them know prior the day to see if we WILL hangout and i will keep checking.

whenever someone doesnt like my story, doesnt talk to me directly and does accomodate how i feel or my time, i suddenly get the gist that the person hates me and always need to ensure if we re 'good'

Usually for hangouts i keep my hopes high all the time and its just crushing when people cancel last minute and its often humiliating. Its like people dont try nowadays.

I feel like this habit has been rooted from when i was in a specific friendship. 3-4 years ago i had a friend group that was extremely tight knit and close. We had a falling out and it was extremely brutal. besides from these people i had no one to hang out with, i was left stranded. i scavenged for friends and eventually became the floater friend. This phase eventually passed. Recently i had lost a dear friend of mine since childhood and it was very nasty. I had no self respect and i started begging for them back. I quickly realized my self worth and changed my habit immediately and realized im worth more then that and changed my ways.

I hate losing friends because for me that means one less person to hangout with. dont get me wrong i know this puts me off as ''ohh if u only care about not having people to hangout with, thats probably why they left u'' but this isnt the case. I say that for my peace of mind. I care for each and every one of my friends and i consider them in everything i do and i accommodate their needs. Most of my time with friends is spent at my house and usually im the host. I love my friends and there is no doubt.

life like this isnt enjoyable, its exhausting. Im so tired of having to be like this so often for my own peace of mind.

can anyone help me in this? or inform me about how i can fix this , this paranoia. Really its hard to enjoy life and time with friends like this.