u/sporkafunk

I bet you lie and say I was too outdoorsy and I didn't want to put up with your allergies.

I bet you shrug and say 'I wish her well,' another lie.

I bet you use the same tired tactics on your new targets and get frustrated when the don't work.

I bet you doctor shopped again and upped your meds instead of going to therapy.

I bet you still mix me up with other women you dated.

I bet you think we dated this year.

I bet you get annoyed and look up my social media to prove I'm miserable but my life is going really well, and you get even more annoyed.

I bet you won't find this but it makes me happy knowing I'm free of you finally.

Giving up isn't always bad. I'm 42 and here's a little bit of hopecore.

You don't have to keep pretending to like things because that's what your friend group, or family, or partner like. You're 100% allowed (at any age) to lose interest in topics, hobbies, products, services that no longer give you what you need or want.

You can pick different things and find people you relate to more. It's called growth.

Insisting on sticking out a place you no longer want to be in is going to literally make you sick.

I've noticed that my life is so much more enjoyable than it's ever been because I leave people, places, or conversations that don't align with who I am or who I want to be. Just because you're familiar with something doesn't mean you have to hang onto it.

Give up. It's the best.

I've had to listen to this person I'm with say hello and good morning to every single animal and other person. But I was greeted with just yelling of questions across a parking lot. I'm ready to leaveeeee.

Edit: y'all are so wholesome, thank you 💖

For everyone wanting an update post-date, wait no longer it is here. I know my desire for privacy seems counterintuitive, but I try to be respectful and safe. Plus, it's Monday and figured this would be a good pick-me-up post.

We did go on the planned date at time and place! I think we clicked really well! I had such a great time, he expressed his enjoyment as well.

Things were learned, topics discussed, conversation was flowing, second date was planned. All the good hallmarks of a successful first date :)

We discussed the community's enthusiasm and support and we are both very touched by the positivity. Thank you all, again.

Have a great week, be excellent to each other!

Y'all, I hate to do this, but I'm at a loss. The dating app had a popup, right in the middle of me typing a message. It was so fast, I think I might have reported my match.

Hopefully this post finds its way to him. We had a great conversation and made plans for a date. I just generally don't give out my number until that first meeting.

So if you know a Leonardo new to the Elk Grove area, tell him I'll keep our date ;)

Edit: he works in insurance underwriting. I don't think that's enough to doxx him, since my Google-fu is weak. But if mods need I can delete this part.

Edit part deux: Sorry the date was not for tonight. I mentioned the day in my public review of the restaurant. I'm not naming the restaurant here. SAFETY FIRST PEOPLE. But I will update!! I also nuked my profile and started over to see if I can find him that way. If this works out, everyone who upvoted is invited to the wedding 😉

I caught my ex stalking my whereabouts from my Meetup group.

I took the weekend to think about banning him. Why didn't I ban him sooner? Great question, I forgot he was there. We last spoke in October. I cut him off abruptly because he was being emotionally abusive. I didn't feel the need to keep having the same conversations which boiled down to: you're supposed to care about other people's feelings if you want relationship with them.

But lately, I got some better doctors to help me with some brain fog. And now that I'm clear headed again, I've had to reprocess some of the incidents that happened during that relationship. But at no point did I reach out. I don't need any answers, his actions speak for themselves.

That said, when I banned him I decided to fill out the part of the form that explains the banning. So I laid out particularly egregious behaviors. And I told him very clearly that if he stalked me online or IRL I'd seek legal action.

I'm not exactly "scared" of him, but his violations of my privacy (my group is not public) just to see where I'm going to be definitely pissed me off.

Anyway, just had to vent. I've long been accused of not being able to let things go, but when I do, I notice certain kinds of people love to push boundaries. So I felt the need to document this somewhere. Thanks for reading.