We think too much. Life is often simpler than it seems. Reflect yes, but don’t get stuck overthinking the same thing. Sometimes the healthiest thing is to relax a little before life forces you to...
Is this qhat people are doing on this sub? 😂 I have a looot of reflections, so I was like "why not to share?"
I realized I have a great body, but I try to place as little value on it as possible. The body is just a plus; it should not become an identity, just like a face and titles, in the sense that they should not be idealized and all your eggs put in one basket, but rather distributed well.
I realized this especially since I started approaching girls more actively. The body is the ticket, but character is what builds sexual tension and emotional connection. And yet, even if you get rejected, as if that matters!
You should not tie your identity to the result of an approach, because then every rejection hits the ego. It does not matter whether she will accept or reject you; what matters is that you approached!
Do I regret not getting the number from some girls who were obviously interested? Yes. But will there be others, maybe even better opportunities? Even more so, yes!
When you are surrounded by people who explode at every little thing, and you are at least a little self-aware, it is much easier for you to control yourself than if you are in an environment of people who are always calm.
First is learning through pain, second is learning through positive example. Do not consciously go into pain, but follow positive example. If you do not have anyone who is a positive example, become one. Turn your environment into your advantage! I know it's hard, but it helped a lot of people, myself included...
We would give everything for a moment that passed, and so every new day we try to return the one that remained behind it. Do we not see how stupid that is?
At 20 we want to return to the period when we were 16, at 30 we want to return 20, at 50 again to 30, and so on until the end of life. Is it not better that, instead, we direct attention to the present moment, the only one that will be with us until the end, the only one in which, in fact, we live?
Because when you look a little closer, you cannot influence the past because it is passed, and you can influence the future exclusively through actions in the present.
We greatly underestimate older people. We think they are old, senile, ultra-conservative, but when you put all those little things aside, from them we can learn much more than we think.
They, especially people from these regions, went through SO much: wars, sanctions, hyperinflation, work in different countries, children, grandchildren,... All of that shaped them in unimaginable ways, and the wisdom they carry is priceless.
Ask someone you consider an old fool for advice; the precision of the answer will probably surprise you.
Sometimes I do. Most of them give pretty "shallow" advice from our POV. But it is their core. WE are wrong estimating that ALL life advices should be some Iroh-level of complicated bs. They are consise, and it is truly powerful when you think about it...
Those who are not grateful are unhappy more times than not. They will never be happy because they focus only on what is not good in their lives, and devalue everything they have.
Look around yourself. Are you breathing? Do you have both arms? And both legs? Do you have a roof over your head and something to eat today?
It is okay to go for better things in life, I do that too, but we all should, from time to time, stop and realize that every day we have what millions of people dream of.
If someone yells at you like a baby, do not take it personally and get offended. Why? Because that is not them; most often, a wounded child speaks from them, which they have not healed, so now they go the path of least resistance.
All in all, you should not lower yourself to their level, because you would never yell at a child, right?
Look at them for a few seconds with a neutral facial expression, and afterwards ask: "Are you okay?" or just turn away. Such people feed on reactions, and if you deprive them of them, that disarms them and everyone's attention focuses on whoever uttered the insult.
No one yells from strength, but from despair, remember that. Whoever allows themselves to lose control and start yelling does it because they think that is the only way out, not because they really have power over you or the situation.
Guilt is a very good teacher, because it can teach us where we were not quite the best, so that next time we can be. But if it becomes the master, then we will carry it forever inside us, and it will drain our energy without us learning anything from it. Learn, but never ruminate!
I am perfectly aware of the transience of time. Maybe some people, like my parents, think I am wasting time, but I spend most of the time working for myself and not against myself, as they think.
Not every effort is visible to the naked eye. Working on oneself often requires a lot of invisible work that, between those who have and those who have not worked on themselves, is felt in less than 10 years!
P.S. Posting my old reflections, more deep ones coming soon...
If you go to Las Vegas, they will tell you that the best gamblers in the world bet there.
If you go to London, they will tell you that the best footballers play there.
If you go to Paris, they will tell you that the best artists create there.
And so we unconsciously compare ourselves to them. In whatever industry we are in, we always compare ourselves to the best. That can be good to some extent, in the sense that we take the best from them and put it into our work. But if we start constantly comparing ourselves, asking "where are they and where are we", we lose that spontaneity and some original ideas that could occur to us.
Also, we lose the energy to keep working, because there will always be someone ahead of us. We are all special. Learn from others, but do not compare yourself to them all the time!
I realized I have a great body, but I try to place as little value on it as possible. The body is just a plus; it should not become an identity, just like a face and titles, in the sense that they should not be idealized and all your eggs put in one basket, but rather distributed well.
I realized this especially since I started approaching girls more actively. The body is the ticket, but character is what builds sexual tension and emotional connection. And yet, even if you get rejected, as if that matters!
You should not tie your identity to the result of an approach, because then every rejection hits the ego. It does not matter whether she will accept or reject you; what matters is that you approached!
Do I regret not getting the number from some girls who were obviously interested? Yes. But will there be others, maybe even better opportunities? Even more so, yes!
P.S. Putting my old reflections online, maybe they help someone :) Better ones coming soon...
If I have nothing good to say about someone, I usually say nothing. Especially if that person is not there. What do I, personally, have to talk about regarding someone? If I want to say something to someone, I say it to their face.
P.S. Putting some of my older reflections, maybe they help someone :) Better ones coming soon...
Discipline does not mean absence of pain, but continuing despite it. And it should be hard! The best things most often require the most effort, effort that only the strongest are willing to invest!
Agree?
There are wounds that hurt more than a bullet, yet they never bleed. No one sees these wounds but us. If you are not careful, they can kill you.
Therefore, you must separate your identity from them and try to process that trauma into something useful.
And precisely for this reason, you must be kind to everyone, because you never know what someone is going through and what small thing might push them over the edge...