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My boyfriend (28M) and I (26F) have been dating for 2 months, but we’ve known each other for about 2 years. We both have pretty bad trust/jealousy issues from past relationships involving cheating, so I know some of my reactions are influenced by that.

Overall, he’s honestly an amazing boyfriend. He’s attentive, affectionate, caring, cooks for me, takes care of me constantly, and makes me feel very loved. We spend almost every night together and basically live together already. I genuinely do trust him as a person.

But early in the relationship, he mentioned a few girls he had gone on dates with before we got together, and I noticed he still followed them on Instagram. In my head, that immediately translated to “keeping options open.” I brought it up, and he willingly removed them without arguing. But what bothered me was feeling like I had to be the one to say something in the first place.

Then later, the same thing happened with another girl he had only gone on one date with. Again, he removed her immediately and reassured me he didn’t even notice he still followed her and never interacted with her. I actually believe him.

Recently, though, I got curious and looked through his Instagram following (around 670 accounts total) and found maybe 16 accounts of influencer/OnlyFans-type girls who mostly post revealing content. From what I could tell, the follows and likes were all from before we started dating, and he hasn’t interacted with any of it since we got together.

Still, it really bothers me knowing those accounts are technically still there and likely pop up on his feed/stories occasionally. Especially because he’s told me recently that he hates social media now and barely even uses Instagram anymore unless he’s bored at work or checking messages.

What’s confusing me is that he also mentioned doing a huge Instagram “purge” a while ago where he unfollowed tons of people… so part of me wonders why these accounts stayed.

I genuinely can’t tell if I’m overthinking because of my own insecurities/past experiences or if this is a valid thing to feel uncomfortable about. I also don’t want to become controlling or make him feel monitored, especially because he’s never actually given me a reason not to trust him.

Would you bring this up again? And if so, how do you do it without sounding controlling or insecure?

My boyfriend (28M) and I (26F) have been dating for 2 months, but we’ve known each other for about 2 years. We both have pretty bad trust/jealousy issues from past relationships involving cheating, so I know some of my reactions are influenced by that.

Overall, he’s honestly an amazing boyfriend. He’s attentive, affectionate, caring, cooks for me, takes care of me constantly, and makes me feel very loved. We spend almost every night together and basically live together already. I genuinely do trust him as a person.

But early in the relationship, he mentioned a few girls he had gone on dates with before we got together, and I noticed he still followed them on Instagram. In my head, that immediately translated to “keeping options open.” I brought it up, and he willingly removed them without arguing. But what bothered me was feeling like I had to be the one to say something in the first place.

Then later, the same thing happened with another girl he had only gone on one date with. Again, he removed her immediately and reassured me he didn’t even notice he still followed her and never interacted with her. I actually believe him.

Recently, though, I got curious and looked through his Instagram following (around 670 accounts total) and found maybe 16 accounts of influencer/OnlyFans-type girls who mostly post revealing content. From what I could tell, the follows and likes were all from before we started dating, and he hasn’t interacted with any of it since we got together.

Still, it really bothers me knowing those accounts are technically still there and likely pop up on his feed/stories occasionally. Especially because he’s told me recently that he hates social media now and barely even uses Instagram anymore unless he’s bored at work or checking messages.

What’s confusing me is that he also mentioned doing a huge Instagram “purge” a while ago where he unfollowed tons of people… so part of me wonders why these accounts stayed.

I genuinely can’t tell if I’m overthinking because of my own insecurities/past experiences or if this is a valid thing to feel uncomfortable about. I also don’t want to become controlling or make him feel monitored, especially because he’s never actually given me a reason not to trust him.

Would you bring this up again? And if so, how do you do it without sounding controlling or insecure?

My boyfriend (28M) and I (26F) have been dating for 2 months, but we’ve known each other for about 2 years. We both have pretty bad trust/jealousy issues from past relationships involving cheating, so I know some of my reactions are influenced by that.

Overall, he’s honestly an amazing boyfriend. He’s attentive, affectionate, caring, cooks for me, takes care of me constantly, and makes me feel very loved. We spend almost every night together and basically live together already. I genuinely do trust him as a person.

But early in the relationship, he mentioned a few girls he had gone on dates with before we got together, and I noticed he still followed them on Instagram. In my head, that immediately translated to “keeping options open.” I brought it up, and he willingly removed them without arguing. But what bothered me was feeling like I had to be the one to say something in the first place.

Then later, the same thing happened with another girl he had only gone on one date with. Again, he removed her immediately and reassured me he didn’t even notice he still followed her and never interacted with her. I actually believe him.

Recently, though, I got curious and looked through his Instagram following (around 670 accounts total) and found maybe 16 accounts of influencer/OnlyFans-type girls who mostly post revealing content. From what I could tell, the follows and likes were all from before we started dating, and he hasn’t interacted with any of it since we got together.

Still, it really bothers me knowing those accounts are technically still there and likely pop up on his feed/stories occasionally. Especially because he’s told me recently that he hates social media now and barely even uses Instagram anymore unless he’s bored at work or checking messages.

What’s confusing me is that he also mentioned doing a huge Instagram “purge” a while ago where he unfollowed tons of people… so part of me wonders why these accounts stayed.

I genuinely can’t tell if I’m overthinking because of my own insecurities/past experiences or if this is a valid thing to feel uncomfortable about. I also don’t want to become controlling or make him feel monitored, especially because he’s never actually given me a reason not to trust him.

Would you bring this up again? And if so, how do you do it without sounding controlling or insecure?

It was a video made by a local guy in our town that’s been privated on YouTube and I’m unable to find it on wayback machine or internet archive.

The title of the video was: NDP - Fake Mixtape (Official Music Video) (Explicit)

The private link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=C3qK6BKsKDY&pp=0gcJCU8Co7VqN5tD&ra=m

Please help me find it. It’s very nostalgic