u/strawberriemiilk

It makes sense. If you're going to give the courtesy of caring about the suffering of human individuals why not extend that to other sentient beings? Do cows not suffer? Sheep? Chickens? Pigs? Other animals? I have been thinking on it for a while and it just makes less and less sense to exploit animals for our selfish needs while there are many other sources to get protein, clothing fibers, nutrients, transportation...

I always made excuses for myself for not becoming vegan (for context I have Type 1 Diabetes and PMOS) so I just told myself for a long time "for health reasons I can't become vegan..." but tying in my AN beliefs and the benefits it can have in protecting animals and the environment at large, it's time. I feel like I would need to slowly transition into veganism to prevent shock of my system (I am sensitive to dietary changes), but I am more than open to becoming vegan.

Disclaimer: This is not bashing any AN individuals here who are not vegan, we all have our reasonings for why we do or do not become vegan, this is my personal journey.

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I think it's time. I have been looking into AN for a while and really looking within myself and the reasonings as to why I think AN is correct. I can give the basic answers as to why AN is justified and correct, but I really want to start reading works by other AN thinkers and digging deeper into AN as a whole. Better Never To Have Been is the book I keep seeing being brought up the most so I thought I would start with that, I'm excited for the book to arrive ✨

I (22f) have been diagnosed with BPD for about 5 years now. It has been tremendously hard on me, my husband, my friends, family, and all the people around me. I isolate, I have unhealthy coping skills, I'm quick to frustration and jealousy, I compare myself to others often and will cut them off if I think they will do it first... I know I need to change and that starts with DBT but it's such a broad topic and I don't know where to start. Any tips?

I'm writing this in the last hours of Mother's Day; it was a bit weird for me. I don't see the benefit of celebrating the act of bring life into the world that had no say in whether or not they got to be here. Motherhood isn't easy by any means, and I recognize that a lot of mothers had their children without fully understanding the repercussions of how their children would feel being born and having to go through suffering in life. However, in my head we shouldn't normalize celebrating holidays or praising the action of having children, it's morally wrong and I would even go to say unacceptable to have biological children for any reason. I toughed it out when celebrating at my husband's grandmother's house, it meant a lot to her so I kept a smile on my face, but it didn't feel good knowing what I was celebrating with my family.

I'm guessing that if you've been here for any significant amount of time you know the differences between antinatalism (procreation is morally and ethically wrong), and efilism (we should actively take steps to end sentient life on Earth to prevent suffering). They are NOT THE SAME THING. Antinatalism aims to prevent suffering and harm to future humans by preventing their existence in the first place (sure, this would cause eventual extinction of humans, but as the natural consequence of no reproduction), while Efilists believe in the forced extinction of all sentient life. The key word is FORCED. You cannot FORCE humans and other sentient beings into extinction. I would love if everyone on Earth stopped reproducing, sure, but forced extinction (ie. forced abortions, forced sterilizations, etc.) is morally and ethically HORRIBLE, that causes even more suffering for those sentient beings. I guess my rant here is because I have natalists that don't understand the difference and say that antinatalists want and advocate for people to end their lives and get forced abortions and such, and I do not condone those actions, as neither would 99.9% of the people in this subreddit. If I got any info wrong, feel free to correct me, I'm still learning. Thank you for listening to my TED talk.

I (22F) am 5 feet tall. Short by any standards. I'm not going to claim it's detrimental to my life, I have a wonderful husband, friends, and I am very grateful for my life and what it gives me. However, there are downsides to being short. Infantilization (not being taken seriously, being picked up when I don't want to be, etc.), uncomfortable situations, not finding clothes that fit (well that can be a short ANYBODY thing) but I'll see comments such as "Oh, well short women get laid and get boyfriends so it's not an issue to be short for you." Sure, there are differences in the struggles of short men and short women, but can't we just agree that there are struggles on both sides of the spectrum? Do we really have to downplay the difficulty of being short?

No, I do not want kids for the main reason of the inability to being able to consent to being brought into existence, thus invoking unnecessary suffering onto beings who would otherwise have never experienced suffering if they had never existed, among other reasons, but this is the main one. But there is this urge, this nagging “voice” (for lack of a better word) in my consciousness that wants me to procreate, continue the human species at all costs. It makes me feel guilty because I know we shouldn’t be having children, we shouldn’t be causing unnecessary suffering and pain. Does anyone else deal with this?