u/strugglingnurse25

I’ve been doing personal training for about 1.5 years. I was mainly with a owner, and then trained with her boyfriend whenever she couldn’t fit me in, but she mainly handled majority of my stuff (gym plans, nutrition tracking, check ins, etc). I would drive about a half hour because my best friend had great results (as have I), but I could only do 6pm sessions during the week. In April she texted me saying “I think we’re going to have to talk about you being on Matt’s schedule more than mine” but then was telling other clients (my friends) that I was officially going on Jake’s (that’s what we’re gonna call him) schedule full time without consulting with me first. She avoided me after that, and I made it very clear how it’s unprofessional to text something like that and tell other clients, but not talk to me about these things. I basically had little to no say, but was told that Jake would get a full run down so that I wouldn’t feel as though I was starting over.

Needless to say, her and Jake haven’t communicated at all about my plan. It’s been over a month and he still hasn’t made me a new workout plan after I’ve asked politely 3 times, and you can tell he doesn’t know where I’m at with lower body exercises (I mainly did upper body with him before). He put in one workout but only put the reps and told me to do whatever weight that makes me “feel the burn”. I know I’m no longer that new in the gym, but me still being in training is because I still need some sort of guidance. It kind of feels as though I’ve been pushed to the corner and forgotten about.

I met with another trainer today that’s a bit closer to me. I liked his vibe, he has a nice gym with a few trainers, and it seemed like he actually understood the barriers that come with having PCOS. We had a good chat. The only problem is that training 60 mins 1-on-1 once a week is $520/month, when I’m currently paying $320/month. He offers semi private training for $375/month that comes with body composition analysis, weekly check ins, nutrition tracking, and a gym plan…but I’ve never done semi private. The 1-on-1 training sessions also come with those things as well.

Should I leave my current trainer and just make the jump to the new one?? Is $520 for once a week hourly sessions worth it? Any one have any thoughts on semi private?? (Sorry for the mini rant)

Sorry I know this is my second post this week, but just looking for some guidance :’)

I’ve been doing personal training for about 1.5 years. I was mainly with the owner, and then trained with her boyfriend whenever she couldn’t fit me in, but she mainly handled majority of my stuff (gym plans, nutrition tracking, check ins, etc). I would drive about a half hour because my best friend had great results (as have I), but I could only do 6pm sessions during the week. In April she texted me saying “I think we’re going to have to talk about you being on Matt’s schedule more than mine” but then was telling other clients (my friends) that I was officially going on Jake’s (that’s what we’re gonna call him) schedule full time without consulting with me first. She avoided me after that, and I made it very clear how it’s unprofessional to text something like that and tell other clients, but not talk to me about these things. I basically had little to no say, but was told that Jake would get a full run down so that I wouldn’t feel as though I was starting over.

Needless to say, her and Jake haven’t communicated at all about my plan. It’s been over a month and he still hasn’t made me a new workout plan after I’ve asked politely 3 times, and you can tell he doesn’t know where I’m at with lower body exercises (I mainly did upper body with him before). He put in one workout but only put the reps and told me to do whatever weight that makes me “feel the burn”. I know I’m no longer that new in the gym, but me still being in training is because I still need some sort of guidance. It kind of feels as though I’ve been pushed to the corner and forgotten about.

I met with another trainer today that’s a bit closer to me. I liked his vibe, he has a nice gym with a few trainers, and it seemed like he actually understood the barriers that come with having PCOS. We had a good chat. The only problem is that training 60 mins 1-on-1 once a week is $520/month, when I’m currently paying $320/month. He offers semi private training for $375/month that comes with body composition analysis, weekly check ins, nutrition tracking, and a gym plan…but I’ve never done semi private. The 1-on-1 training sessions also come with those things as well.

Should I leave my current trainer and just make the jump to the new one?? Is $520 for once a week hourly sessions worth it? Any one have any thoughts on semi private?? (Sorry for the mini rant)

I started my fitness journey about 1.5 years ago, and so far I’ve lost 55lbs which I’m so proud of!! I do strength training 4 times a week (1-2 of those being with a trainer), cardio 3 times a week, pickleball once a week (in an adult league), and I work 8-5 Mon-fri.

While I mentally feel better, my knees and hips feel like shit. I feel like I’m always wobbling with some sort of pain, and I think it’s because I don’t really allow my body any time to recover. I will also admit I kinda suck with stretching because I never know what stretches to do :’)

Any recommendations for things I can do to help with recovery (stretches, warm ups, cool downs, etc)? I’ve heard yin yoga can help a bit with growing/maintaining flexibility, and I’ve also heard that some people get monthly massages. Any recs or helpful tips will be greatly appreciated!!

My mom and stepfather have been together for 20 years, married for 15. He has his flaws (drinks a bit too much and can be closed off), but he’s overall a great guy. He raised me as if I was his own, treated my sister as his own, and helped raise my sisters kids. He’s always made sure my mom was taken care of despite not making much (just got her a car 8 months ago), and he’s dealt with all of my mom’s toxic behaviors for years before she got sober (her heavily drinking, getting into fights at clubs, cheating, etc)

Last year my mom caught him eyeing another woman at church. She blew up on him and threatened divorce, but ultimately ended up “forgiving him” (so she says). Nothing happened between him and this woman, he doesn’t even know her name, just found her attractive. But every few months, my mom will see the same girl at church and immediately bring it up to him. He gets defensive because the way she brings it up is as if she wants to start a fight.

I kinda blew up on her when she mentioned that this happened again last Sunday. She told me that it gets better for a bit but then her insecurities come back and remind her what happened. I then told her that it’s not fair that he’s under the impression that everything is okay and then is reminded of his one mistake constantly, and that she either needs to forgive him or they need to separate because at this point it’s giving mental games. She expects him to immediately know when she’s upset, and every time I try reminding her no one’s a mind reader she says “well I’m not going to tell a man how to treat his wife”. She doesn’t know that I know she cheated at one point (found out from my sister). She’s been giving him the silent treatment and being a bit snarky with him all week as a result.

But now I’M getting the silent treatment and am getting blamed for this argument they’re in??

I just got a 2023 HRV sport with 28,000 miles about a month ago. I’m currently at 29,000 miles and decided to look up general maintenance schedules. This is my first “big girl” car (I had a 2006 Jeep Liberty prior that I only did oil changes, tires, and brakes on). So needless to say, I want to baby the car but have no idea how to go about it

I keep seeing mixed reviews regarding the maintenance minder vs using the standardized scheduling. Because I’m approaching 30k miles, I’m just wondering if I should be getting ready for maintenance now, or should I just follow the maintenance minder prompts?

Any recommendations? If anyone uses the standardized scheduling, would you be able to drop your schedule here to hopefully guide me to the right path?? 🥹

I graduated from nursing school in 2021 with $108k debt. $81k was a parent plus loan under my mom’s name (we agreed I would pay it back), and $27k was federal in my name. I’ve stayed home and have been putting everything I got into the parent plus loan while still budgeting to still do things that I love (concert, traveling, etc). It might’ve taken me 5 years, but I FINALLY paid in the last payment of the parent loan this morning. $81k with a bunch of interest tacked on, done!!!

Just celebrating this small win. $27k debt seems much more manageable, and I feel the tiniest weight lifted off my shoulders 🥹

I drive an 06 Jeep Liberty, and while I was driving both of the top interior lights came on, and the monitor said “passenger door open”. Once I got to my destination I slammed all of the doors shut including the trunk and locked the car, but the interior lights remained on?

Any ideas or suggestions? I’m just a girl who doesn’t know shit about cars :’)