So this friend of mine gives very backhanded compliments
We are both 26f. she will always start with a compliment followed by some insult. Like “wow you look so pretty but it’s just your figure is little weird” “this dress is looking so nice I can’t take my eyes off you but it’s just your stomach is showing” and so on.
She has talked about my figure being weird, off, bad so many times, She says it coupled with a compliment and in such babyish tone that if I take offence i am sure I will look like a crazy person.
She is otherwise nice but this really bothers me. Honestly if I have to go there then she looks like 12 yo fat boy. I can say much worse things to her. But I don’t.
There was one more incident where I felt so insulted. I am single and she was asking why I don’t go out with this guy A? Now A is not anyone’s friend. He is an acquaintance and very far from my type, He is also quite sketchy and a former criminal. I told her he is not at all my type, then she became defensive and she went on saying what’s wrong with that? This became an argument and long story short. I asked if she would go for him if she were single and she said No? like WTF?
It’s quite confusing because otherwise she is nice. She offers help and is available to talk to. How do I deal with the doubts I feel about her?