u/terrifir

Hi all, based in England (NHS) and after a long time of waiting I finally have my first EMDR appointment! I’m feel very optimistic about this treatment for myself. The appointment is going to be on Teams, I’m curious if anyone else has had this and knows what to expect? I assumed it would be in person, obviously it’s just the first appointment and no treatment is going on, but not sure if that will also be on video call when it’s time for it??

Any ideas what to expect?

I came off the mini pill 2 weeks ago after 4 years. My boobs are getting bigger as my oestrogen increases , not what I need! But the BIGGEST thing I’ve got going on is my sex drive 😭 it’s through the damn roof, fantasies pop into my brain every 30 seconds and I’ve actually found it hard to focus on talking to people I’m attracted to! I’m finding people waaayyy hotter than I did before. And people I wouldn’t find attractive before are now like diamonds to a magpie. I’m actually getting pissed off with myself because it’s just distracting!

I (22F) haven’t heard from my best friend (22F) in 3 weeks, I haven’t seen her in 6 weeks. She hasn’t responded to any texts or calls for nearly a month, and I was beginning to genuinely worry about her. We have been friends for 6 years, close for 4, since our school friends went to university and we both were the only two who stayed in our home town. Although she’s not always been great with replies, I normally hear back within a few days. She’s not active on social media either, so no checking that way either. Over the past 9 months I’ve had to leave work due to health issues, and my life has stopped being active and “exciting”. I’ve struggled with my mental health over this time, mourning my past self and being uncertain of the future.

Earlier this week, I saw an Instagram story where she was tagged by a mutual friend, showing they were out for drinks as a group. This was when I realised that she’s okay, she’s just clearly been ignoring me. She’ll have been on her phone to organise these plans, and will have seen my texts, asking if she’s okay, and calls. She couldn’t even say a “all good”. This morning I was venting to my housemate, who works with her ex boyfriend. He told me that over the past few months, she had said that I “have a victim mentality, and is depressing to be around”.

This just hammered down to me, that I am no longer fun to be around. My health doesn’t allow me to go out drinking, do adventurous things, I mostly stay home. She would come and visit, every 2 weeks or so, and we would catch up. The only thing I ever really had to talk about were my doctors appointments, ailing family and tv shows I’ve been watching. I’m boring now, we used to go out dancing, go out for dinner and drinks and talk about work and friends and love lives. I’ve not got those inputs in my everyday life now, and now I feel like a leech, draining joy out of everything.

These past few months I’ve worked so hard to improve my mental health, how I talk to myself and pick up hobbies. I think I’m much more content now than I was when I last saw her. I’m accepting of my new normal, I’ve done my absolute best to better myself, and avoid another depressive episode. My whole life has changed in a short period of time and I’ve done my best to cope with it, and not loose myself. Yet, what’s the point if my one of my best friend thinks I’m not worth being around or supporting?

I’m 22, female. I got sick 8 months ago and cannot work anymore. I am home alone all day every day. My rent is 80% of the money I get from benefits, I have credit card debt that won’t go down. Can’t afford to do anything I like. I’ve been depressed for years and hate these cycles, I feel so low. I live with a housemate, who I actually was in love with last year after a confusing situation ship. I tried so hard to move on and be with other people but men are useless. He’s dating the third person now since me and each time it just makes me feel so lonely. I know we will never be together, but you can’t change what you want. I hate watching him with someone else. I feel like my only option to help myself left is to move out, but I can’t afford to live by myself. Parents aren’t together and live far away. Only family nearby are not options to live with. I’m on the waitlist for therapy through the NHS, for trauma based therapy. I see a counsellor every few weeks. Everything is bad. I don’t like being awake. I don’t like being asleep. I don’t want this to all keep being a cycle of more things falling apart. I am on antidepressants and betablockers. Increasing them will only help how I feel not the cause. What can I do myself to actually make any difference and improve my life.