u/thaone111

I'm in my early 30s, i qualifies as Millennial but undebatably a Zillenial, and I am still on a journey of embracing my sexuality. I often read about the mental and societal issues straight men of my generation and younger (genZ) face and how it inspires online movements such as back-pill, incel, looksmaxxing, etc. I recognize that i have the potential of succumbing to many of those forms of thinking. However what stopped me is the fact that I am gay.

I have couple of straight friends who match my stats can barely get very few matches on dating apps, while I am very happy with the matches I am able to get on the same apps. Those guys have been depressed, they hit the gym super hard, and one even admit he has bigorexia. One even "maxxed" out everything and went back to being depressed. They often complain to me about women and I hear strong hints of black-pill ideology. Many of them feel like they should be in a serious relationship or married, but they are no where close and it severely affect their mental health. If I was straight I would 100% be in their situation and probably even worse because I spend so much time on the internet. It seems that my only salvation is that I am gay, and that is comforting after struggling to embrace my sexuality.

I was on a first date with a guy (native NYer) and we had the usual starter conversation of what you do, where you live etc. When I told him I lived in NYC for x amount of years, he launched into a series of questions like what made me move here, what job made me move here, why did I pick here and what other options did I have. It felt like an interrogation rather than genuine curiousity. After I satisfied his line of questioning, he explained that he asked me all that because he has a thing against transplants who move here primarily for the gay lifestyle, and he prefers someone who had an "authentic reason" to move to NYC.

I am curious if any nycgaybros experienced people with this perspective in the dating scene, or have this perspective themselves.

edit: fixed typos

...a novel by Katya

Is this a recession indicator? I'm seeing more and more profiles on hookup apps that is into Jen

I am a gay man, pretty vers. I met a couple (a man and a trans woman) on grindr. The man was what appealed to me but I was open to a threesome and curious to explore with his trans gf. When I met them in person, the man was as attractive as he appeared on his photos, but his vibe turned me off. However I found his gf to be very sweet and i spent most of the hookup with her and really enjoyed it. The man ended up happy to just watch.

She is still the only trans woman I've been with. I've found myself more and more interested in trans women when browsing porn, but still not interested in cis women. It doesn't make sense to me because why would I be only interested in trans woman and not cis if I don't have any interest in being penetrated by them. I thought maybe I am only interested in men and queer people, but I haven't heard of that before. Hoping for some perspectives.