r/nycgaybros

Im an Asian (Pinoy) on a vacation here in NYC and would like to explore around gay bars or clubs and maybe meet up.

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Would be helpful to get some of your thoughts. Thank you.

Hey,
I’m in Manhattan looking to make some friends or build a small friend group.
I’ll be upfront: I’m not really on the “conventionally attractive” side, and I’m mainly looking for other guys who aren’t focused on appearance when it comes to friendships. I understand looks matter and people naturally gravitate toward more attractive people—that’s just how it is and I’m not criticizing it. It just hasn’t really worked out for me socially, so I’m trying a different approach.
I’m pretty shy and probably socially awkward, and I’ve had a hard time turning casual conversations into real friendships, even when I go out (bars, etc.). I usually end up doing things alone.
Looking for guys (20s–40s) in Manhattan or nearby who want low-pressure hangouts—food, walks, exploring the city, or just chillin at home watching tv.
If that sounds relatable, feel free to reach out

I’m hoping to connect with other dudes who have been through testicular cancer. It would be really cool to meet some people who understand the experience firsthand and just talk about what we’ve been through—treatment, recovery, life afterward, or anything else.
If you’re open to connecting, feel free to reach out.

Looking to meet some Indian dudes in Manhattan or nearby. I’m into Indian culture and figured it’d be cool to make some Indian friends and hang out.
Looking for guys who are actually down to meet IRL—not penpals or endless texting.
Serious guys only. If you’re down, hit me up 🤙

Hey everyone! I’m a 29-year-old Black gay guy living in Harlem, and lately I’ve been wanting to expand my social circle and meet more Black men around the city.
I’d especially love to connect with guys from across the African and Caribbean diaspora, but really I’m just looking to meet more Black people in general and build some genuine friendships/community.
I’m pretty social and love going out, grabbing drinks or food, exploring the city, checking out events, or just hanging out and having good conversation. I realized recently that I’d really like to have more people in my life who share some of the same cultural experiences and can introduce each other to new ones too.
Gay, straight, bi, whatever—I’m not specifically looking for dating or hookups. Just putting myself out there and seeing if anyone else has been wanting to make some new friends too!
If that sounds like you, feel free to comment or shoot me a message. 😊

I am interested in joining an LGBTQ book club in either Manhattan or Brooklyn. I tend to read fiction with a queer and/or international focus. I’d love to connect with other people who enjoy reading books and discussing them.

Do you know of any good LGBTQ book clubs in NYC?

I've struggled to find a professional in NYC who's genuinely excellent at both.

Barbers I've tried tend to be great with clippers/fades but noticeably weaker with scissors on the longer hair above the fade. Hair stylists tend to be the opposite - excellent scissor work, but unable to execute a proper skin fade.

I'm searching for a specific barber, rather than just a shop, who excels at both. My usual cut is a mid/high skin fade with some length left above the fade for movement, so that longer section needs proper scissor and texturizing/thinning work.

Here's a video from my barber (located abroad) showing almost exactly what I'm seeking: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CjmsrcPov6I/

Anywhere in Manhattan works, and I'm willing to travel elsewhere in NYC for someone exceptional. Budget is flexible.

Any individual barber recommendations?

I’ll keep it short. I’m a trans guy and I want to cruise but it’s difficult since I obviously don’t have all the equipment. Visted The Cock last week and it was the hottest experience I’ve ever had, save for the fact that I couldn’t participate without outing myself. I want you bros to be straight with me, are places like The Cock not meant for people like me? Should I even attempt cruising in NYC at all?

I’m new to NYC so I’ve been exploring some of the gay bars around Brooklyn. Some people I’ve met recommended to check out Good Judy, so after a stressful day at work I went.

Walked in and I’m pretty sure I was the only Black person in there, which was the first red flag.

I then sat at the bar for a good 20+ minutes, watching the bartender serve every white person around me and skipping over me.

While I was waiting, a white woman sat in the chair next to me. I think she picked up on the fact that I had been waiting for a while and was getting irritated.

The bartender tried coming over to take her order (even though she literally sat down AFTER ME and didn’t even have to flag him).

But instead of giving the bartender her order, she had to tell him “can you take his order first? I think he’s been waiting awhile” (thank u queen)

The bartender tried playing it off and gave me a drink “on him” but at that point it felt so gross and disingenuous.

He immediately started pouring shots for some white men next to me that I’m guessing were his friends and screaming all belligerently as they were cheers-ing and acting all white girl wasted vibes right in my ear.

The wholeeee thing rubbed me the wrong way sooooo bad.

I don’t think I’ve ever been ignored *that* blatantly. It was a weeknight, so it’s not even like it was that busy.

The next day I thought “okay, maybe I’m tripping”, but then I went on their Yelp page and a bunch other men of color wrote reviews with veryyy similar experiences; being blatantly ignored in favor of white patrons. Not sure if it’s with the same bartender or what.

But wtf? Any other POC men experience this there?

Is it THAT hard to make queer spaces feel inclusive?

Pretty rotten first impression of NYC, of all places.

We’re hosting our second queer board game meetup! Just a casual space to hang out, meet some new people, and play some games.

Bring a board game if you have one you’ve been wanting to play, or just show up and join a table.

Aug 21st, Friday, 6:30–9 PM
The Hugh, 157 E 53rd St

Partiful and Discord are attached if you want to RSVP or join the group!

Discord

Partiful

was anyone at honcho this weekend?
i fear i may never feel joy again (until next year)

As far as I know, there isn’t. Im all…ears! 🙃

So I’m approaching my 10 year anniversary in NYC and transparently I’ve felt a little stuck since Covid.

Prior to 2020, I was in my mid to late 20s, always going out and meeting new people. I felt like I had a really strong friend group and was always doing something. Over covid, I realized those people weren’t life long friends (not a problem, we all learn and grow).

I have other friends now that I am much closer with and am happy with, but still feel like I’m not as fun and social as I use to be. My friends are very career driven, but our lives revolve around work, and I’m looking to make some changes outside of my 9 to 5.

I love my career, just got promoted and finally making the money I want to.

My friends, while all lovely people, do not enjoy going out as much, are either in serious relationships, or married to their jobs.

Does anyone have suggestions / been in a similar situation? What are some ways to get out of this funk? What has been successful for you?

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I know this has been asked before, but I can’t find the posts now. Can somebody recommend some LGBTQ friendly therapists? Mainly want to talk about relationships stuff…

Just trying to make some friends and see how things go! Doesn’t have to be anything crazy lmao just chill, game, watch movies and vibe 🫶🏼🖤

What club(s) should I got to on thursday? I am deciding, between eagle, rockbar, the cock, and maybe red eye. I will be alone. What should I wear to each of these?

Hey 👋🏾 37yo amateur photographer photographing local guys willing to come through for 45minute photo sessions. Clothed and unclothed

Im a fine art portrait photographer. Available evenings/nights all week.

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So, I'm on the group chat. I have yet to attend the party because the organization continues to be sloppy af.

Idk who the organizer is but everything is so poorly done.

Party's on a Monday. We're all busy. We're all working men. Last week's "party" was so poorly planned organizer was informing people with such tardiness and disregard for our time. He had initially informed the party would be at some FiDi bar, and then we learned he had simply secured two booths for us to hang there. No rented facilities, no dark room, no nothing. Just a booth with strangers. Seems pathetic.

I think the party had one successful event? Was it good? I think the crowd is weird, I don't think these are finance professionals at all and I especially do not think the organizer is a finance professional because he would be out the door from any shop or bbb after demonstrating such poor skills.

Yesterday, he started posting "stay tuned" as if something big was coming and this afternoon after a couple of people asked if the party was happening tonight he cancelled everything, lmao.

Also, some people have commented on the group chat how this is exactly like really sloppy organizing and he's taken the criticism rather badly and just deletes messages / bans you from the group.

It's like I'm dealing with an intern.