Just getting into jazz and I listened to Cannonball Adderley’s One for Daddy-O for the first time… HOW have I never heard this before??
I can’t stop listening to it. Please recommend me more jazz that sounds like this!
I've struggled with depression for a large part of my life, but I wouldn't describe myself as “crazy” or unable to think rationally. I'm actually a very analytical person. I tend to examine things from multiple angles, look at details, try to understand people's behavior, and question my own assumptions.
But recently I've started having a much more unsettling thought: I don't know if I can trust my own mind anymore.
Not because I can't think logically, but because I've realized that my mind can take a set of observations, connect them together, produce what feels like an extremely reasonable conclusion, and make me completely certain that I'm right.
And then reality happens.
And sometimes it goes in the exact opposite direction.
What scares me isn't simply being wrong. Everyone is wrong sometimes.
It's the fact that I can be so certain.
I can look at a situation and think, “There is no reasonable way to interpret this differently. The evidence clearly points in this direction.” I might even deliberately consider alternative explanations and reject them because they don't seem consistent with what I'm observing.
Then something happens that contradicts my entire interpretation.
And suddenly I'm left wondering:
What if the problem wasn't that I made one mistake in my reasoning? What if the way I reasoned itself was unreliable?
Because when you're uncertain, it's easy to say, “Maybe I'm wrong.”
But what are you supposed to do when you weren't uncertain at all?
How do you know whether you're genuinely analyzing something rationally or whether your mind has simply constructed a very convincing explanation?
And this creates another problem: if I start distrusting my own thoughts, I can't just use my thoughts to determine which thoughts are trustworthy. The person doing the analysis and the thing being analyzed are the same thing.
I don't want to become someone who assumes every thought is wrong or interprets everything negatively. But I also don't want to keep confidently believing interpretations that might have very little connection to reality.
Has anyone experienced this?
How do you learn to distinguish between “I'm reasonably confident because the evidence supports this” and “I'm extremely confident because my brain has created a coherent story that happens to feel true”?
Especially if you've struggled with depression, anxiety, overthinking, or anything that can affect the way you interpret situations.
I'm not asking how to stop thinking. I actually want to know how to trust my reasoning again without blindly trusting every conclusion it produces.
في ديسمبر ٢٠١٣ اتقبض على محمد عادل بتهمة التظاهر بدون تصريح، محمد قضى عقوبته كاملة وخرج في يناير ٢٠١٧، و اتقبض عليه تاني وهو بينفذ سنين مراقبته في يونيو ٢٠١٨ وفضل محبوس احتياطي ٥ سنين لغاية سبتمبر ٢٠٢٣ لما اتحكم عليه بالحبس ٤ سنين بتهمة نشر أخبار كاذبة.
محمد كان متوقع يخرج في فبراير ٢٠٢٥ لكن النيابة رفضت ضم مدة الحبس الاحتياطي، وبقى المفروض محمد يخرج في سبتمبر ٢٠٢٧.
النهاردة محمد عادل بيكمل ٣٨ سنة داخل السجن.
محمد دخل السجن وهو عنده ٢٥ سنة.
١٣ سنة كاملين في دوامة السجون و المراقبة.
الحرية لمحمد عادل، و لكل المحبوسين احتياطي و لكل سجناء قضايا الرأي.
بعيدا عن كرههي للمصطلح ده, بس كنت ناوية ابدأ من فترة ف الثلاثية لمحفوظ و للاسف كنت بأجل كتير, ف لو حد حابب نبتدي سوا و نتناقش ف مرحب بده. شريطة انه يكون مهتم فعلا لاني انا كسولة بما فيه الكفاية
قرأت لنجيب قبل كدا المرايا و قشتمر و كذا حاجة بس مينلي للاسف معدتش بأهم اعماله, لذلك حابة امشي المسار لاخره.
I (24F) have been Facebook friends with a guy (25M) for about five years, but we only started talking this year after I wished him a happy birthday.
From the beginning, he was almost always the one initiating. Every few days he'd send me music, films, or events, and he kept inviting me to concerts or the cinema. We weren't texting constantly, but he consistently found reasons to reach out.
For months he tried to meet me, but every attempt fell through (sometimes because of me). After I apologized for declining one cinema invitation, he sent me a vulnerable message saying he was always afraid of pressuring people into things people didn't want, and that if he ever made me uncomfortable, I should tell him and he'd never invite me again.
Later, I invited him to a classical music concert. Before the concert he replied very late to one of my messages, so I got upset and turned my phone off. He tried to reach me a few hours before the concert to ask if I was coming, but I didn't see his messages until afterward. I called him to apologize, and after that our conversations became much quieter for about two months.
Eventually, he replied to one of my stories and sent me a link to a mathematics summer school. That reopened our conversations. He sent me a long voice note encouraging me to attend, offered to explain anything I didn't understand over Zoom, Discord, or in person, and even offered to pick me up in an Uber if I decided to go.
Around the same time, I sent him the soundtrack from The Odyssey. He asked if I'd seen the film, said he'd already watched it with friends but intended to watch it again, and added, "The invitation is open for you if you want." We eventually agreed to go together.
A few days ago, we finally met. It was the first time we'd ever met in person, and the first time he had ever seen me. He had never seen any photos of me beforehand, so he had no idea what I looked like. I, on the other hand, had seen photos of him because he had profile pictures. Interestingly, he looked a little different in person than he did in his photos. There was something about his mouth ( buck teeth) that initially caught me off guard, but it honestly didn't matter to me because physical appearance isn't something I care much about. It did make me wonder, though, whether I might also have seemed different in person than whatever image he had formed of me.
Before the movie, we went to a café. He paid and refused to let me pay.
After the movie, he mentioned there was a café nearby, but then said he preferred another place instead. We took about a 30-minute Uber ride to the café he had in mind.
On the way, he asked about my favorite food. He told me he enjoys cooking and said I should try his food someday. When we got there, he asked if I wanted to eat. I said no because I had to leave early. He asked me to think about it because otherwise he'd just go home and cook for himself. When I told him he could still eat if he wanted to, he explained that cooking for himself was what he would normally do anyway, but he was asking because of me.
Throughout the day, he was actually more talkative than I was. During our conversation, he told me that he normally wouldn't keep trying to meet someone after several failed attempts, but he kept trying with me because he felt I was "one of a kind." He also told me that one of the reasons he'd wanted to meet me was because of the movie You've Got Mail.
Eventually, I had to leave because I had other commitments. I kept checking my phone, and he noticed that I seemed distracted. He asked if we should head out, and we walked together to the metro station.
On the way, I apologized and told him I wished I could have stayed longer. I also asked him about something he had written before. He laughed, and when I asked why, he said, "Because you still remembered."
I tried to pay him back for my cinema ticket, but he refused. I insisted that I wanted to give him something in return. He smiled and said, "Then you can treat me next time."
I had also brought him a book as a gift, but he said he didn't have a bag and asked me to save it for another time. I joked that, in the worst case, he could send me his address later and I'd mail it to him. He said that once he got back from traveling, he'd send me his location.
When I got home, I sent him the photos we'd taken together. He replied that he hoped I'd enjoyed the day and that the summer heat hadn't spoiled it. I joked that the only thing that had spoiled it was that he hadn't taken the book. He repeated that once he got back from traveling, he'd send me his location. I reacted with a heart, and since then (it's now been five days), neither of us has started another conversation.
What confuses me is that I expected meeting in person would make everything much clearer.
Before I accepted his invitation, we didn't text every day. After I finally agreed to meet, we started talking almost every day or every other day, even if only briefly. After we finally met, though, that frequency dropped noticeably. He also hasn't suggested another day to meet or made any concrete plans, despite saying things like "you should try my cooking someday" and "you can treat me next time."
From the outside, does this sound like I've been interpreting a friendly connection as something bigger? Or does it sound like meeting me in person may have changed his feelings? Since he had never seen me before we met, I can't help wondering whether I simply didn't match the image he'd built up in his head.
Sorry if this isn't really the right place for this:", but I figured mathematicians would probably have the best suggestions.
I wanna get a mathematician a gift. He'll be starting his MSc very soon and lately he's been talking a lot about set theory. I'm not a mathematician myself, so I have no idea what people in the field actually find useful.
I'd rather get him something practical that he might end up using regularly during his studies or research, rather than a generic math book. It doesn't have to be specifically related to set theory, just something that would be genuinely useful for someone doing an MSc in pure mathematics.
Thanks in advance!
I'll be attending a topology school soon, but my background is in physics. Unfortunately, I never took any topology courses during my undergraduate studies. The most advanced math I've studied is PDEs :DD
I'd like to prepare as much as I can beforehand. What topics would you recommend I focus on first? Are there any lecture notes, textbooks, or video lectures that you think are especially beginner-friendly?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!