Reason I’m asking is because I’ve found every luteal (and my PMDD Is severe) it triggers my fibro, more than ever. So the widespread pain in my hips, top arms and knees especially.
Mentally it’s a slog anyway but I think the trauma of PMDD with it being hell just brings up the pain because of what my body is holding.
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I have a theory that having a baby means you essentially have to stop your own best life, and you gift that life to the child. my sister is deciding if she wants to have children or not, at 39, and would love some real, honest opinions about your thoughts on this after raising children. If you found this theory to NOT be true, what did you do that allowed your best life...?
Anyone else found this? I do have endo and adeno so its all linked but it’s honestly a case of when I’m on my period, I have to cancel everything, work from bed if I can and just ride it through but the back - especially at the top near my neck and the middle of my back makes me nauseous 🤢
Anyone else?
I’ve noticed it’s common but I’m late thirties, my Endo spread and was left for so long, it obvs caused a lot of trauma in my body and adeno then got worse, PMDD progressed as I got older and all this suppressed trauma and inflammation is what then brought on my fybro, anyone else?
It’s not a surprise as it’s caused me hell, but I’d really like to try and find a community of people who just get it. I cried from just being TIRED today.
Due to my shape, I think I look like I’m smaller than I am. BMI wise I’m classed as overweight but weirdly I think I’m fine. am I deluded? is this another side of body dysmorphia!?
Genuinely.
I had a real think about it and all the childfree by choice people I know I would consider the most intelligent, when I say intelligent, I mean emotional IQ etc, highly emotionally aware and just socially and culturally aware of life.
Have you noticed this?
I am someone with multiple illnesses that are debilitating and have progressed with age, so I am well aware of what it would take to have a child and the struggles.
I am seeing more and more people in my community who I know are suffering with chronic illnesses having children and it’s bringing a lot of anger up for me. I think it’s so selfish, 1 - How can you possible look after them!? 2 - Selfish as the child could take your gene and you have to watch them grow up in pain.
WILD TO ME! Right?
So, the social posts that get hundreds of likes and comments, the announcements that even make work slack channels and mean “drinks” are to be celebrated.
There’s long been cultural pressure that frames marriage and motherhood as a woman’s primary “achievement” the thing that makes her life complete or worthy of celebration. But obviously a lot of us are now coming to terms with wanting more freedom.
Even well-meaning celebration of mothers can carry an implicit message that this is the most important thing a woman can do. We still make it out like it is.
But isn’t it funny that it’s all linked to being attached to something and generally attached to a man? Because let’s be honest, these expectations exist to serve men’s interests (someone to raise children, maintain households, etc.) Men don’t face the same kind of conditional celebration, they’re valued for achievement regardless of family status!