Christian friendliness might be more instrumental than I thought
Even though anyone can have authentic friendships, I realized it's quite difficult for Evangelicals because of the importance of converting people to the same theology and additionally, how this type of thinking bleeds over into relationships in general.
I say this as I've kept "friendships" with Evangelicals from my time as a Christian, but they have ended up ghosting because I wasn't agreeing enough with their views when prodded over time, or I ended the friendship because they kept trying to invite me to their church services or prayer sessions after saying "no I am not interested in that".
Now these have all been quite friendly and supportive people in my life in other ways, and of course moreso when I was still a Christian. But I've finally started thinking that maybe their friendliness after leaving the church was more "instrumental" as well, like I still had to fulfill a certain hopeful checkbox in their life that could be nudged with being nice instead being authentically kind people.